Author	Thread: Your ex.
2nice View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 4 Sep, 2011 04:19 PM If you're still not over your ex and still depressed about the break up even though it was 6 months ago, why do you date? It's obvious you're sad/depressed. Why not take time to get over her? We girls don't like to feel like rebounds. =/ Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 4 Sep, 2011 04:27 PM havent seen Her in over 12 years, i have learned to accept i will never get over Her.this will not stop me from moving forward. Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 4 Sep, 2011 05:34 PM I read or heard (somewhere) that it takes about 3 months for every Year that you were Married to get over the Relationship. But then I am sure it also matters How the Realationship was? I agree though about dating if one is not Totally Over the ending of the Marriage. It is not Fair to Either of the Two people involved. Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 4 Sep, 2011 10:17 PM Some people just don't know themselves very well, they dont realize they are not ready to date someone seriously... There are rules that daters must know and follow if they are christian: 1. If the person has not been divorced 2 years they are friends and nothing else. 2. See rule number one and live it to protect yourself. Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 06:19 AM @peacenic That would be the definition of Not moving forward. You are actually pinned to the ground...your legs are still moving, but you're not going anywhere, and you only end up kicking the one you want to be near you now. :( I have discovered that until we have completely forgiven the other, And ourselves, we cannot move forward. I pray for your freedom peacenic, that you can love again. Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 01:11 PM I'm in an interested spot in relation to this question, having broken up with an ex-gf. We broke up because of our situations. If the situation changed I'd like to get back together with her, and I think she would too, but it won't be for a while till we find out if it will actually happen or not. I think the right thing to do is just focus on friendships with your friends of both sexes and just go out have fun and live your life. Whether you know it's over for good or not, the process is the same. It takes time to be yourself again and just using some one to get over your ex just prolongs the process because you aren't yourself so it will end in failure and you have to start all over again till the cycle is broken. It takes time and during that time just focus on having new and/or deeper experiences and appreciation, not dating and romantic relationships. Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 01:35 PM Unfortunately, some people never get over their ex. I met a guy and he was divorced twice by same woman. Ok, he asked me out to nice dinner then out another time to a retirement party of a friend of his back in 2008. When he realized I wanted a relationship and not just a date He said he wasnt looking for any married. lol Just few months after that, he was back dating his ex wife. I guess she will not marry him again, so he keeps dating. That is not far to women he is dating inbetween. He is a faith Steward in His church and his ex is a Minister. l :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 07:14 PM i disagree Trust and Believe,i loved my ex ,before we married,while we were married,after we split,still love Her,the day i stop is the day i have become not only heartless, i have also denied that love is eternal... Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 6 Sep, 2011 05:00 AM @peacenic I'm not denying your love for your ex nor that love can be eternal. What I'm saying is that you cannot, therefore, offer this same love to another. The heart cannot be divided. A new woman would not get your undivided love, and therefore could not become 'one' with you. She would just be a 'filler' or a distraction while you mourn the loss of your ex. No woman wants to be a substitute or stand-in. Therefore, your choice is to either use someone or remain alone. Either way, you have chosen not to move on. As believers we are to live a life of truth, yes? If you should decide to persue another relationship knowing she will not have your whole heart, you are obliged to tell her that she will always come after your ex in your heart. If she chooses to stay, that is her choice. This is a deeply sad situation. This is why I offer prayers of freedom... this is not what Christ meant by living an abundant life! Not for you and not for a potential new woman who would be so broken that she would accept those terms. :( Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 6 Sep, 2011 11:51 AM trustandbelieve Very true what you are saying! Many Men do this. Post Reply
View Profile History	Your ex. Posted : 7 Sep, 2011 05:42 AM @TrustandBelieve,who said anything about mourning? :ROFL: i am talking about the haunting memory's , drunken rampages and violent behavior's that matched Her violent mood swings....however! if she showed up at the door today? if she was hungry?i would feed Her,if she was tired?i would let Her rest.Would i get back with Her? R U Crazy? Post Reply