Author	Thread: Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating?
Admin	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 29 Aug, 2011 12:57 AM I recently heard someone remark, "when men meet a woman like this, they are intimidating. These are the single women in the church". They were referring to the woman in proverbs 31, wife of noble character. The woman in this chapter is resourceful and strong. She can clearly stand on her own two feet (even though she doesn't). She's a bit of an entrepreneur (not that I am), but if she were single, it sounds like she would be a rather independent woman. Are men really put off by women like this? I hadn't really thought about it, but I've certainly met a few men looking for women who are young and possibly still living at home, and don't have careers yet, and possibly don't even know their call yet. Why is that? Or do you disagree? Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 29 Aug, 2011 02:55 PM More than likley when the husband of the proverbs 31 wife married her she was living at home with no career and possible steped in her calling as she became married. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 29 Aug, 2011 10:20 PM That is true, Rabbit, and I am not saying that it's not possible to develop some of these virtues whilst living at home - it's a great place to start. This is probably more applicable to older singles, but when they are independent, you already know that they are able to run a household (albeit a househould of one), earn some income/support themselves somehow. Yet after having it pointed out, the Godly women who have been very successful at running their household and successful at work because they are wise and hardworking (all Proverbs 31 traits) are often the ones that men shy away from. And men often say they want a Proverbs 31 woman, so I wanted to know why that is. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 30 Aug, 2011 01:18 AM Well for sake of clarity when I read Proverbs 31 I dont see that she is independant but she plays a part; you had mentioned career and what not. As I read it; the Proverbs 31 woman's career is her home (husband, children). A houshold of one is easier to run because you dont have competing priorities or no authority over you (as a biblical/Godly wife would have). And a woman who seems married to her vocation isnt very appealing to Godly men (thats was for free btw lol). Now with that said GODLY men that please God seek and will find a prudent (P31) woman, all others will have their worldy blinders on and never see her, and even though the idea is apealing, they may have no real concept of what one is. but I could be wrong..what do you think? :^) Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 31 Aug, 2011 08:33 AM We may have to agree to disagree! I suppose we have some cultural differences also. I definitely think the Proverbs 31 women loved God first, then her family, which I believe is the right order, and she definitely worked, earning money for the home. That doesn't mean that he valued this above her family, but it was part of a way to honour God and serve her family. I do personally think that gifts should be used firstly for God, but can also be used to serve your family. She had an entrepreneurial talent which she used to serve her family, and I don't see anything wrong with women doing the same today. I'm about to digress from the Proverbs 31 woman to my own opinion here, but I would sooner work than watch my husband struggle with the bills whilst I sat idly at home (that is, if no young children at home and living in a flat etc). I didn't say a household of one was just as easy to run, especially if you're not working. But working and running a home is a whole lot harder than living off the bank of mum and dad, and it does have its own challenges as well when you have to take everything on your own shoulders alone. And I didn't say anything about being married to a career. Of course your family would be a higher priority!Besides, in my case, working is out of obedience to God. My life would certainly be easier and more luxurious had I stayed at home, but living alone I've learnt about money management, home management, time management, and working hard. I don't understand the assumption that women with high-powered jobs wouldn't immediately give them up in a day to raise a child? I wouldn't mind giving it up for a season, as long as it is God's will. However, I agree entirely with your last paragraph. I think that worldly standards have very much infiltrated the church and influenced men's expectations. Even without that, the Proverbs 31 wife is a tough act to follow! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 31 Aug, 2011 08:59 PM Why would any woman sit idly at home, being a stay at home parent is a busy job in of itself, I know from experience. I make no assumptions nor do I want you to feel like I am putting words in your mouth...I was stating extra content that is usually tied to this catagory Entrepenuership moms and stay at home moms have this in common they are only stewards of what is God's Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 31 Aug, 2011 11:59 PM I did say staying idly at home if not looking after young children and by living in a flat, I mean a place that doesn't require a lot of housework (where you might be living if you're struggling with bills). I happen to be a strong advocate of extended maternity leave and career breaks to raise families! I also think that if a family decides it is time for the wife to go back to work, that it should be easier for her to go back to work part time without being penalised. My point was really that the proverbs 31 woman was hardworking, and did work outside the home also, yet men seem put off when they meet women with these characteristics. I'm not at all saying that her role in the household is any less important. However, she did contribute to the finances as well. Not that I would mind being a kept woman and not having to work!(for a season!) It'd be more fun than doing it all (again, I qualify, for a time lol). In the meantime, I'd rather be doing what God's called me to do. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 1 Sep, 2011 01:00 AM I dont know I cant see what you are seeeing...I can say that out of all the women I have gotten to KNOW via personal communication Ive onle met two women that come close to being a Proverbs 31 woman Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 1 Sep, 2011 11:44 AM ( dont know I cant see what you are seeeing...I can say that out of all the women I have gotten to KNOW via personal communication Ive onle met two women that come close to being a Proverbs 31 woman. ) :laugh: I had to laugh at this statement because there are a lot of men that say this. I also hear men say they want a Ruth, well if you want a Ruth you have to be a Man that can draw a Ruth. If you know the story of Ruth in the Bible she was dedicated to Naome because this was God's will. And, God provided Boaz to be Ruth's husband. Now, my question is Men are you really dedicated to God and are you a Boaz? lol Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 1 Sep, 2011 11:31 PM ...because you asked, I will answer honestly as my consious bares witness for me...yes Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the Proverbs 31 woman intimidating? Posted : 2 Sep, 2011 11:26 PM :laugh: u guys! yeah, keep telling yourself that, Rabbit :nahnah: Was humility one of Boaz's traits i wonder? :P Post Reply

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