Author	Thread: Making the first move..
skif08 View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 29 Dec, 2008 04:32 PM Throughout my crushes, I have thought about asking a guy out. Is it right for a female to ask out a male or should the male make the first move? Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 30 Dec, 2008 06:08 AM Personally i would advise really getting to know a person as a friend and trying to see if they have the beliefs and stuff u want that way first, to save yourself some heartbreak. But if the important issues are covered, and they really seem to enjoy spending time with you, then i dont see anything wrong with saying "hey, would u like to go to *insert place name* sometime? We could hang out." Some sort of restaurant, or casual activity, or fair or something. I would refrain from saying "lets go steady" until u guys have been on a lot of dates together and its pretty much already set, but guys LIKE to know when a girl is interested in them (if they are interested in the girl) because it takes weight off our shoulders from guessing. Post Reply
cranston View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 2 Jan, 2009 01:22 PM NO: you are a lady, be one. There are ways to let a guy know you are interested without asking them out. Leave it in the hands of the Lord. Post Reply
View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 7 Jan, 2009 03:38 PM I agree with Cranston about actually asking a guy out. Us ladies just have to wait (though there's nothing wrong with praying HE wil ~ imo). Same goes for the phone cal. Even when they send me their number and ask you to call ~ if I'm interested then I'll reciprocate with offering my own number and saying I prefer they do so. Not so regarding initiating email coorespondence. At least for me. I don't hesitate to send something 'very' brief ~ like maybe 'Hello'. Seems that most of the people I've actually gone on to meet ~ were those I made contact with first. Makes me feel a bit more comfortable that I checked them out first, not the other way round. But that's just my personal comfort zone. Post Reply
View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 8 Jan, 2009 04:49 PM I totally agree with this last response to this thread. I have noticed I do better with the gentlemen I contact first rather than the other way around. It seems the ones that contact me first tend to be a bit over zealous and frankly, turn out to not be very sincere. Like you said, it seems to have become my comfort zone, ( at least in this medium of Internet dating), to be the initiator. In 'real' life...I agree again with the both of you. I feel the gentleman should do the initiating...the asking out. There are ways to let a man know you are interested...my mother always told me,(figuratively speaking of course), throw something down...if they pick it up...then your on your way :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 8 Jan, 2009 04:53 PM then 'you're' on...not, then 'your' on...lol.Opps! Post Reply
View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 12 Jan, 2009 11:56 PM Peace and Grace to you from our Father Jesus Christ. From my experience, most men are more attracted to a women if he knows she is attracted to him (within reason of course). God did not give a command on this topic, but in Biblical examples men always made the first move. If you like some one, showing interest in a pure way of course would be good for both of you, and no sin would be committed. Peace to you. Mark- Post Reply
View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 2 Feb, 2009 06:40 PM Mark, My love. I also believe that men should make the first move. I also have wrote you and let you know that I have interest in you and that I care a lot about you. I was wondering where you and I should go from here? How will I know when you are making a move on me? How will I know when you like me and when you have feelings for me too? How should I show that I have interest in you? Should I come straight out and tell you. You say if you have interest in someone that you should let them know within reason, what do you mean by that? When I wrote you to tell you how I feel about you was I within reason? Please get back to me on this Mark. Yours Always, I love you Mahrrissa Post Reply
View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 2 Mar, 2009 08:33 PM this is a grrreat topic! is it ok to give the guy,if you are a woman, your email address first? on some sort of pretense? then when he has emailed--to mention that that u might notice he is not around?or is that being too forward? what if he is shy? what is a good way to give him a signal? what is a good way to find out a level of interest in an email? :hearts: Post Reply
View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 2 Mar, 2009 08:34 PM what are these ways then??? i'd love to know! Post Reply
View Profile History	Making the first move.. Posted : 1 Sep, 2009 07:48 AM hi crimes you know by over on another web iste well i let you know i have intersted in you but u wasnt to me i still trying to talk to you i am a good guy looking for real love and i also love the lord so its ok to be interested in a guy just let him know we cant read womens minds you know? Post Reply

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