Author	Thread: Friend different meanings
Admin	Friend different meanings Posted : 8 Jul, 2011 06:01 PM Why does friendships have so many different meanings to some men on here? Refering to Christian Men. Some want someone to just talk to, some want someone to do things with, as a companion, some want intimacy, some want sex. Is a friend Really All these mentioned ? Post Reply
View Profile History	Friend different meanings Posted : 8 Jul, 2011 06:38 PM They probably say they want to be friends because so many women say that they just want to be �friends first�. If you mention marriage at all, most women tend to run away. They are just saying whatever will keep women from running away. Most guys are on here because they want to be married. You aren�t going to find very many guys who are actually looking to be just friends. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Friend different meanings Posted : 8 Jul, 2011 06:53 PM A word only means what two people agree it does, maybe you could ask them what they mean by friend. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Friend different meanings Posted : 8 Jul, 2011 08:57 PM i think because the basic of a wonderful relationship is FRIENDSHIP. thats why at some point its good to know the person first at the friendship level and allow God to advance the relationship. a lot of people for go abruptly to the love level, because we are in a microwave world we think it will do well,only to find it may not be the right person we think they are. I think when your relationship is bounded with friendship even if your love relationship may not work,at least you still have the foundation of being friends, so you can still pray and encourage each other minus the LOVER mode Post Reply
View Profile History	Friend different meanings Posted : 10 Jul, 2011 02:38 AM A square is a rectangle but a rectangle is not a square. A friend is a companion, but a companion is not a friend. Same goes for all the other things you listed in the question. What's more important is YOUR definition of and what you need in a friend, not theirs. Only you know what that is for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Friend different meanings Posted : 10 Jul, 2011 06:47 AM I think the reason "friendship" means so many different things to Christian men is that very few Christian men practice the three "steps" or "practices" of relations to begin with. STEPS 1) Dependence - without a dependence on the Lord Jesus Christ, a Christian man or a Christian women has no business having a profile on here unless it's for a prayer partner or some support for a personal issue. Right, my opinion..whatever..no need to argue with me, argue with The Author. 2) Independence - dependence on the Lord Jesus Christ allows the possibility of independence in a Christian man or Christian woman's life...i.e. the ability to set boundaries or barriers, make choices, have Godly desires, too too many items to enumerate. 3) Interdependence - The application, that is to the degree a Christian man or Christian woman applies independence in their life (which includes thing like self-control and so on), their lives issue in, are an example of, result in, rely on interdependent relations within the Body of Christ. So, Christian men, including myself, how about we stop playing games and walk the talk. michael chudzinski Post Reply
View Profile History	Friend different meanings Posted : 12 Jul, 2011 02:27 PM I agree with jesus72380, the basis of any good lasting relationship is a solid friendship. And our society does tend to want to "microwave" a relationship and that is one temptation for a site like this most of us on here are on here because we are looking for that special person and have limited or no options locally and other are here out of curiosity. I think where problems arise is when people jump straight to the dating/relationship stage and bypass the friendship stage and try to do the getting to know each other within the process and context of a dating relationship. I think this can lead to a higher number of short lived unsatisfying relationships. Sure the friends first approach doesn't guarantee success but I think it does limit failure to an extent. I believe one of the reasons a foundation of friendship is important is that when when things are going great a relationship thrives but when that relationship is tested and there's no basis of friendship to support it the whole thing can crumble. Having that basis of friendship helps a couple through the tough times. and the tough times in turn strengthen the relationship. To use another cooking metaphor I believe a good relationship built less like a microwave and more like a crock pot. Post Reply
View Profile History	Friend different meanings Posted : 18 Jul, 2011 03:47 PM Very interesting answers and good participation on this topic. Thanks All !:applause: Post Reply