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Admin	Why do some. Posted : 6 Jul, 2011 05:32 AM Why do SOME guys have trouble saying sorry, or admitting they're wrong? Is it pride, or do they not usually feel they've done something offensive or wrong? Say if you get into a fight with someone you care for, a girlfriend or a co-worker, or a family member and you knew you were at fault, or that you hurt someone, would you have trouble saying sorry, or you would not feel the need to apologize? I often see it stereotyped in movies that some men can't admit to being wrong or sorry, I wanted a Christian perspective. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 6 Jul, 2011 09:47 AM I think clearly if someone does not apologize for something they know they have done, it is simply, pride. I can't think of any other possible scenario. Well, maybe they're dead. :goofball: :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 6 Jul, 2011 10:19 AM Hello lovely Lady: Good topic MM says: Why do SOME guys have trouble saying sorry, or admitting they're wrong? Is it pride, or do they not usually feel they've done something offensive or wrong? Mr.Merciful: In the Word of GOD,Yeshua says that a Believer is to ask for FORGIVENESS. The World and its ways are to just say "Sorry my bad" Asking for forgiveness with believers is humbling. Yet going before the unbelievers is not only HUMBLING, ABBA may open the door to share the Gospel with this very person,and they have just seen and heard me for what I really am like. We as people want others to be thinking HIGHLY OF us as men,And women are the same way. The world says that asking forgiveness is a sgin of weakness. ABBA shows that asking forgiveness is strength of character, Until the Holy Spirit CONVICTS a person of the offence (sin), There cannot be any admittance of guilt. Without conviction,and admittance of guilt,there is not motivation for seeking Forgiveness with others. The motivation here is LOVE. Luk 7:47 Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little. MM says: Say if you get into a fight with someone you care for, a girlfriend or a co-worker, or a family member and you knew you were at fault, or that you hurt someone, would you have trouble saying sorry, or you would not feel the need to apologize? I often see it stereotyped in movies that some men can't admit to being wrong or sorry, I wanted a Christian perspective. Merciful: John 16:7 `But I tell you the truth; it is better for you that I go away, for if I may not go away, the Comforter will not come unto you, and if I go on, I will send Him unto you; John 16:8 and having come, He will convict the world concerning sin, and concerning righteousness, and concerning judgment; Unless the Holy Spirit is fulfilling this Prophetic word in the Mind,and soul of a person,then there will be no Love with humilty with which to go to others. There will be no Love for Yeshua concerning this matter. The opportunity of sharing the GOSPEL with those i have sinned against,that might be lost until the outstanding sin issue have been dealt with. What is at stake. The name of Yehsua might be blasphemed amongst the unbelievers. Fellowship with ABBA is broken. Relationships with believers and unbelievers could be broken. Rest for the offending believer might be taken away,their conscience will be pricked until this has been dealt with. In my mind,my supposed christian testimony will have been tarnished. I speak from experience about this. Shalom Merciful ps: I hope that others will be adding to this. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 6 Jul, 2011 10:47 AM I`m never wrong so fo rme it`s easy. "Lord it`s hard to be humble when your perfect in every way." Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 6 Jul, 2011 10:52 AM I know what you mean, victory7 :ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL: Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 6 Jul, 2011 10:59 PM "If you are wise, you are wise for yourself; if your heart is full of pride, you only will have the pain of it." Proverbs 9:12 "Men of pride are the cause of violent acts in a town, but by wise men wrath is turned away." Proverbs 29:8 It could be, not that its paticular to one gender or another it affects all fallen ppl. But I feel like its hard to tell wether someone really knows they are at fault...pride has away of blinding one, both the ofender, and the ofendee. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 7 Jul, 2011 03:44 PM That is not always the case, thanks for the input though. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 10 Jul, 2011 04:58 PM Personally, I don't do the "sorry thing", i apologize, not say i am sorry.....sorry to me, when someone says it to me, I think, Oh they aren't personally involved, as in taking responsibility..and by not apologizing aren't they risking something, like that possibility that I might say.."No, I don't think so" to them...you are a young woman and you come across as very bright..hold it high.. michael Post Reply
OhZone View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 10 Jul, 2011 11:02 PM Men are taught not to say "please," "thank you," and "I'm sorry." You are right that in the movies you rarely see a man apologize. There is a book entitled "Real Men Don't Apologize," which, even though it's written tongue-in-cheek, many men follow. Men think that apologizing is showing weakness, and women (and other men) don't respect weakness as a general rule. The thing is that men need to find the right times to apologize, and the times not to. For instance, our President of the United States should not be apologizing for anything in the US's past. It shows the world weakness. Christian women, I suspect, would view a man who apologizes appropriately to be a big man, his humility and respectfullness being outstanding to her. But men also should not apologize when they have truly done nothing wrong. To apologize for something which is not one's fault is the same as a lie, in my book. I did apologize to a guy once who was going to beat me up because he thought I said something to him (he picked me as the target even though I hadn't said anything). I apologized this way, "I'm sorry you were offended by what you thought I said." This defused the situation. Fortunately, he was not a real bright fellow. OZ Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do some. Posted : 11 Jul, 2011 12:00 PM In my opinion there are many reasons why SOME men have problems admitting fault and or saying that that they're sorry for offending someone. Pride is definetly there, I believe that in our culture men are viewed as being less than what they should be already. Everyone has an opinion about what a real man or a successful man looks like. Even in the churches today something as seemingly small as hearing a pastor/teacher say " you men aren't facing your biblical responsibilities" or " Guys be faithful to your wives". These things not only effect the pride of a man but can also make a man feel like he is wrong before he even does something wrong. I do see alot more negitive preaching these days that is focused more on men than women. In Christ, a submitted man doesn't require that the focus be on his shortcomings because that is the Holy Spirits job. If a man is not attentive to his shortcomings and/or is unwilling to work on them, well, he's most likely not where God wants him in his life. Unless a man has been totally broken in life, in spirit and emotionally, pride is a factor. Lets face it, in the U.S. men aren't really even needed to form a family, are we? Post Reply