Author	Thread: Widows
Admin	Widows Posted : 24 Jun, 2011 07:27 PM Guys and girls how do you feel about possible dating/marrying a widow? I would be hard knowing that this person love passed away and wondering if they could give you their whole heart in a relationship. What do you think? Post Reply
TonyP View Profile History	Widows Posted : 24 Jun, 2011 09:09 PM would realy depend on how long they were married. Post Reply
View Profile History	Widows Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 08:46 AM I would think it would depend on the widow. I think that a person can truly love more than one person in their life, if they are open to it. But, traditionally, many older widows will marry mostly for companionship. Personally, if someone was married for say 40 years and had a great marriage, I would be able to understand why they would have a hard time loving someone else. It's not an easy answer, and it's up to the individual person as to whether or not they can handle truly loving another person. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Widows Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 09:00 PM being a widow would not be my concern, it would be if she was able to move on. Who a person is in Christ is more important than what they have done :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Widows Posted : 27 Jun, 2011 06:32 AM Hey, I'm a widow and I was married for 37 years, where I was faithful the whole time. As far as dating or marrying a widow, it all depends if that person was ready to love again and give love in return. For me, my husband was unfaithful and did not attend church with me. It's been over 15 months now, and I am ready to move on with someone the Lord sends my way to worship with me and that will be faithful. Don't get me wrong, I loved my husband deeply, but now at this stage in my life, I have got to have it all, with God being first in both of our lives. Death is final, so I would feel really good in dating or marrying a widow myself. They know the pain in loosing a spouse and would know what I have been going through. Post Reply
View Profile History	Widows Posted : 27 Jun, 2011 05:01 PM There are widowers out there, too! As a widow of 4 years, my search is directed specifically at those men who have also lost their spouse. There is an instant connection with widowers because of what we've gone through. And there are also many concerns and issues to resolve before one marries again after losing a spouse, particularly our children's feelings, housing issues, financial issues, and most important to me is the issue of being sppiritually campatible. Remember youngsters, my husband died, I didn't! There are many lonely days and nights when one longs for what used to be, and there's no reason in my case not to go for it again. Post Reply
View Profile History	Widows Posted : 4 Jan, 2012 07:08 PM Hello everybody being a widower myself a little over two years now, ready to move on with my life after the healing process. My wife was a good Christian lady who was taken from me by a drunk driver on drugs he was killed instantly. My wife suffered 39 days in intensive care before she went home to be with the Lord. Had six months of hard grieving the grieving part began to heal, and now after two years ready to move on, don't get me wrong I still have fond memories, which will always be there. I would never ask a partner to be her, they're not I would never ask her to be. The question was would I marry a widow a big[yes] if they been through the healing process but not until. Charlie T Post Reply
bexy2 View Profile History	Widows Posted : 24 Jun, 2012 05:18 AM I agree with Charlie T. If a widower/widowed has moved on, why not marry again? Same status partner is a thumbsUP! I hope one day we all have our "last LOVE!" A "last love" who does not replace the other but, would make our lives worth living even when we are already senior citizens (lol!) :hearts: Post Reply
View Profile History	Widows Posted : 9 Dec, 2012 02:58 PM I believe that a widow will have no problem loving someone else again. Initially at the beginning she would probably have adjustments to make, but shell get it done Post Reply
View Profile History	Widows Posted : 7 Jan, 2019 08:06 AM Each person is a unique creation between God's Nail Scarred Hands and with that uniqueness each person will grieve in their own manner and process their losses and separations through various lengths of time - the time needed to recover from the shock of losing one's covenant partner will vary from months to years or the person may never feel the desire to marry again and just serve Jesus single. From just simple conversations with different people from all age ranges and years of marriage - 1 yr to 100 years, the length of marriage does not lessen the grief nor add more as to the time it takes for a person to move on with his or her life. I think it is somewhat easier for us women to move on than our darling brothers. The main reason I think that is due to the fact that we are the "softer side of humankind" and we process our feelings inwards easily and are usually more open to express them. Men being male (Oh Lord bless their hearts) have a hard time with outward expressions - the world makes out that it is a sign of weakness for a man to wail and cry out in anguish - BUT I tell you in The Name Yeshua it is the most masculine thing a man can do to cry when he is in pain and weep when he experiences loss or shed a tear when he sees a kind tenderness. My daddy - A Career Marine and veteran of three wars - bawled like a baby when his mamma and dad was carried Home and he cried at the end of the movie "Incredible Journey". When I first met my late husband his bride of 38years had been gone Home about a year and he was keeping his eyes out looking for another wife. God said about the male: 'It's not a good thing that he be alone, I will make another of the like kind to be his counterpart and helper" and with that Word Jesus created the covenant of marriage making two individuals one flesh. My dear Reed died after fighting with an aggressive bacteria that entered his heart and we were happily married just shy of our ten year anniversary of marriage and I mourned him for six months and I still miss him but, I have made myself available to the man whom is looking for me. There is always room for LOVE that true love as God Loves each of us and that Love comes not from just our own carnal selves but, from The Love of God Who Is Our Messiah Jesus - and through This Great Love all true love springs and flows in all manner of ways and expressions. Yes, Yes indeed a man or woman left widowed can Love a different man or woman and be married again with the same faithfulness, service and honor given to the new spouse just as the last spouse without eclipsing or forgetting one or the other. God created our beings to make and have room to Love one another and to work together - because we are just simple human beings and males and females that need one another - we are social beings and God is our Bond and Source of all Good and True Abundant Living as single or as a tandem team. Post Reply