I was surprised finding twosparrow being banned. I just found he made mention of Philippines as source of Ruth kind of women. I believe that is because of our culture and the experience of those that married foreign men inspired the next generation. How is this? One can visit any village, make a survey, we can be specific, which family has a member married to an American? In terms of their economic status, this fact is obvious. There are cases of those being abused and maltreated but in general, looking at their experiences and their looks that seems eternally young, Americans do make great husbands.
About sex slave trafficking, I think most of the women are willing victims. It is like a gamble in which they have more to gain than to lose. Twenty years ago, I happen to asked a girl fresh from the province and living in with an American serviceman. How did it happen? She said, we are so poor up there in the mountains. When someone came and recruit for waitresses bound for a place near Clark Airbase, I knew we will be sold but I believe I will find a husband who can change my life and that of my family. I can have a chance to send my siblings to school. The American man who paid for her first experience took her as his wife. It is true, maybe sad at first, but I guess a happy ending. On line I was asked by a foreign guy, are you a poor woman? I said, why? Because I am looking for one for she will become a good wife. I can�t believe he have that twisted logic. Maybe true, but I am not as very poor but I believe I can be a good wife too.
Now with my thread title, it is really very sad that after Malta fully embraced divorce, we are the only place in the whole world aside from Vatican City. Not that I wish for it, but because there are so many cases of domestic violence here and women are trapped for life. Lots of single parent women burdened with supporting a child or children. Family planning here is sole responsibility of women because when couples separates, fathers usually don�t support the children. Our men can father as many children with as many women they can fool around and don�t pay any child support, not mandatory. How is that for comparison over there? In Matthew 19:9, the Lord Jesus Christ himself said that divorce is allowed for marital unfaithfulness. Yet here in the Philippines, the catholic church is more holy and more strict than the Lord, no divorce. We have annulment law but it will cost around $5,000 and no guarantee. Even if couples had been separated for decades and already paired and have children with another, usually our law here uphold that marriage that is not there anymore since decades ago. Only the rich can have annulment; majority of the population (poor and middle class) have no choice but endure marital unfaithfulness and domestic violence the rest of their lives. So, can I fault the willing victims?
Great Post, Mercy! It's sad that Two can't be here to join in on the discussion. I hope the censorship police don't bombard the admn.and have your topic closed. God Bless You.
'Tis a tricky one. Without being allowed to divorce, women (and men too, but probably less often) can be made to endure much suffering with no legal way out of it. Almost a license for abuse and such if there's no escape.
Having said, no one should be rushing into marriage without knowing their partner well first. That means their bad times as well as the good times. Even I can be a Jekyll and Hyde if really pushed.
Now Filipino women may make good wives in the majority of cases, and I for one would certainly love to make a deserving woman happy every day of her life. What I'm really afraid of is that once married she won't be so interested in pleasing me, and not believing in divorce myself, I'd be trapped in an unhappy marriage. Now I may be being overly paranoid, but my younger (and non-Christian) brother got married a few years ago, divorced 2yrs later and has just married again. Also from what I read on internet forums (especially those giving advice to women) is that they shouldn't settle for anything less than what they want and should cut loose and move on if that's not where they find themselves. I'm not and never will be a perfect man, and there will be days when my wife wishes she was with someone else (and I'll have them days too).
I guess what I'm saying is that I'll commit to a women, IF she will commit to me..?
Salamat chevy! I believe cdff will not close my topic cause my purpose is just to share what we have here in our corner of the world. It might be a wakeup call to ladies out there well protected by their government but kind of freedom taken for granted. But I believe ours is not the worst in all the corners of the globe and there is still so much to feel blessed about being born a Filipina. God�s blessings be yours too!
I see it also as a license for abuse. Although the biblical divorce is directed at men divorcing unfaithful wife whom he cannot forgive, I see marital unfaithfulness also refer to domestic violence and the wife should not be forced to endure it. Personally my understanding of the bible is, there is no marital unfaithfulness on the side of the husband except domestic violence although it is not stated clearly. As I read the bible, a woman can only be a wife to one husband, whereas, a man can be a husband to many wives. Not that I like the practice but I think if a husband commits adultery, the wife should forgive and not go for divorce. But if the wife commits adultery, it is written he could divorce her. There is biblical absolute demand for the wife to remain faithful inside the marriage and be forgiving. I don�t know if I can do it though, lol!�I mean the remaining faithful I know I can but the forgiving I am not sure.
Our law only apply to us. Like if a Filipina get married here with a foreign man and if it happen in the future the foreign husband wants to divorce her, he can file for it at his home country and the decree will be submitted here and become valid as well. The wife though cannot initiate the divorce as she is under our law of no divorce.
I agree with you, no one should be rushing into marriage, but we cannot be sure that before marrying we are emotionally strong all the time. Because of that I tend to prefer a long get to know each other period but I am also in doubt of �don�t settle for less� because how do I know he is less? If he is a genuine child of God, he must be more. I think I am more on looking at temperaments, traits, behavior and we can observe that here on forum. Example, there are those that make mountains out of mole hills.
If you commit to a woman, will she commit to you? It depends�you need to know her temperaments, her traits, her behavior�does it compliment with yours? Enough time is needed to know enough and what is enough for you, what is enough for her?
