Author	Thread: Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)?
Sugar_and_Spice View Profile History	Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 07:50 AM Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? How would you treat the child/ children? Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 08:07 AM It depends on her. If she is of the persuasion that since he is only a step dad, therefore she has final say in how the children are raised. This is a recipe for disaster for the marriage and the children. When a women with children marries a man, the children should (in a sense) marry him also. Post Reply
Ivory_Guitar View Profile History	Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 11:55 AM I wouldn't mind it if I felt I was old enough to have children to take care of. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 12:48 PM In general, it wouldn't bother me, but I'll make two poinst: 1) When there's a child involved still living with her, I'm being asked to commit to the welfare and happiness of two people, not just the one. That means I need both of them to respect and acknowledge me as dad, even if the biological father is still in contact. I've no idea how that'd work in practice; so far the kids of the women I've dated had no real contact with their natural fathers so it was easy for them to accept me in that role. 2) If a woman has several kids, by several different fathers then alarm bells would be ringing. People make mistakes and can and do change, but having kids is not something to be taken lightly, just like divorce. Of course, there may be other reasons but that's the way it looks without knowing the background. Post Reply
Sugar_and_Spice View Profile History	Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 05:14 PM thanks for your replies :glow: twosparrows, Ivory_Guitar, and dkj255. The reason i asked is because i am a single mom to an 8 year old son. My son has never known his Dad. I want to know if there are guys who are willing to take responsibility of being a father to him as well. I've never had a boyfriend since my son was born because i am afraid they will not accept my son. But i am glad to here those words from you. Post Reply
Ivory_Guitar View Profile History	Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 05:52 PM You won't know if they'll accept your son or not if you don't try. :glow: Post Reply
Asher_Aurelius View Profile History	Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 10:44 PM I think I am echoing the typical sentiment here, that the relationship would include the children, then it would be a commitment to your children aswell. I would encourage you to take the opportunity if there was a man to pursue a relationship and give it a chance. Post Reply
Sugar_and_Spice View Profile History	Would you marry a woman who already has kid/s (living with her)? Posted : 12 Jun, 2011 09:05 AM I would love to give it a try now (falling in love and getting into a relationship again.) I didn't try before 'cause i was afraid the relationship would fail and i don't want my son seeing me with different men and not ending up with any of them. But now I think my son is ready. Post Reply