Author	Thread: Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them?
sweetsurprise View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 03:43 PM Call me old fashioned, but I thought that if you took the time to create a profile, that you might expect someone to read it. Usually there is so little information that I won't bother. It is like, he doesn't want to be known or even checked out. Then there are the guys that post what they are looking for in a girl in the ABOUT ME section of their profile. I just think that is funny. I think, are you not interesting enough to write about who you are? Then I'm not interested either. Just seems strange to me, that's all. I post a bunch of stuff now in my profile to ward off the guy who is separated or hasn't dealt with his divorce issues, so my profile is way to long!!! I just got tired of this type contacting me and not dealing with their stuff first. What do you think? Am I crazy to expect something in the spaces titled INTERESTS and ABOUT ME? Should it really be ABOUT ME or about what they want? Post Reply
beautifulheart4Him View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 06:15 PM Hi SweetSurprise, I know this is in the "Ask A Guy" section, but I just had to throw in my two cent's worth! I have asked that same question a hundred times.....if a guy emails me (not saying much about himself) and I check out his profile and it says, "If you want to know, just ask me" it makes it a little difficult to know if I really want to get to know him or not LOL! My profile is way too long, but I would prefer that a guy knows something about me and if we have anything in common BEFORE we correspond. Just my thoughts...... God bless! Post Reply
spri1458 View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 07:58 PM If it's crazy to expect something of substance in a profile, then call me crazy too. I have found that many of the profiles by women are the same way, and it does not leave me with a good impression of them. They lead me to believe such things as: 1. She is trying to get by on looks alone (a turn-off for me). 2. She is uninteresting, not interested in much, unmotivated, or lazy. 3. She is so busy that she can't even fill out a couple of paragraphs. 4. She is not serious about developing a relationship. 5. She cannot communicate well. etc. These are the most common profiles I wish I would stop seeing, since they really do not say anything about a person: 1. A single line listing qualities she thinks she has (with no further sentences explaining why) 2. A single line saying she loves God (anybody can say that) 3. A single paragraph that basically says nothing about her (I call them 'fluff' profiles) 4. A single line saying something like, "If you want to know, then ask." Post Reply
Ivory_Guitar View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 08:08 PM Yes, I see so many profiles where the women write so very little too. It's quite annoying when I get a wink, no message, and their profile is barren. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 08:20 PM Girls usually talk more than guys. :ROFL: Post Reply
sweetsurprise View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 11:49 PM Hey Beautifulheart4Him, I am glad you did stop and give your opinion! I just think that the people (since apparently women do it also ~ although I wouldn't know about that) that don't write anything reveal a lot about themselves. Maybe they are the same way in relationships. Maybe they don't communicate much there either? Maybe that is the amount of effort that they will extend or the quality of person that they are? I wish they would see this and put some quality time into thinking about who they are and why would anyone want to get to know them and not waste other's time in looking at their profile. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 12:02 AM Maybe guys would rather wait until someone shows interest before they spill their guts. Maybe girls just talk more. :glow: Post Reply
sweetsurprise View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 12:03 AM Wow Spri1458! I couldn't have said it better!! What a lot of thought and that is exactly what I am talking about!! I have thought a lot of what you stated so accurately! I dislike getting a wink from a guy that has not communicated with me previously. It tells me that he is either too chicken to actually type to me (come on, is he shy on here?? or passive???~ much more likely) or that he is waiting on me to make the first move. Why? What is up with that? Or is he lazy? I put the same amount of effort out ~ none! Post Reply
sweetsurprise View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 12:09 AM Hey ChevyRocks, Isn't that rather passive? I thought that men were supposed to be the pursuer? Maybe that is part of the problem with our society, that men are sitting back waiting on women to pursue them? How will I know that the man knows how to lead, if he won't do in the small things, why would I think he will in the larger, more important things? Just sayin.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 12:16 AM So a leader to you is someone who goes on and on and on about themselves? You sure are assuming a lot. Post Reply
shalom716 View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 04:10 AM Interesting thread about how male and females communicate. I just did a research paper on the different ways that men and women communicate and because of the ways we are wired different biologically is why men do not communicate as effectively as women. I agree with what has been said but I think Chevy Rocks is right that most men don't wear their feelings on their sleeve. I also think men are waiting for women to show interest in them first because of the fear of rejection. I think we need to be careful not to judge a book by its cover. I myself find the long essays by men rather irritating and somewhat fake. I would rather see a small meaningful amount said than a lengthy essay that is trying to impress but may not be sincere. Post Reply

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