Author	Thread: When in Rome...
bcpianogal View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 6 Jun, 2011 06:08 AM ...do as the Romans do. :goofball: OK, seriously, though. Sometimes a guy's mind is like a foreign country. We girls need your help! When you ask a girl out, and it involves food (a meal, a snack, coffee, etc.), how should the "who pays?" question be handled? That can be a very awkward situation for a girl. I fully realize that there isn't one "right" answer, and that there are as many different answers are there are guys, but knowing how at least a few different guys view this would be very helpful! Some things to think about as you answer: Does it make a difference if it's the first meeting (as in, meeting someone in person that you met online), the first real date, or a date later in a relationship? Does it make a difference if it is a sit-down place or a fast-food place? Does it change if you have already planned to eat, as opposed to a more spur of the moment decision? Does the type of food/drink make a difference (for example, would you handle getting coffee differently than getting lunch or supper)? Post Reply
Samsonoxide View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 6 Jun, 2011 11:36 AM if a guy asks you out on a date, then he should pay, plain and simple. if you are going just as friends, then you should pay separate. though the amount of actual gentlemen out there seem to be slimming down a lot, a good rule of thumb for girls, is to expect to pay for yourself and act surprised when the guy steps in to pay ;) Post Reply
View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 6 Jun, 2011 02:46 PM I wouldn't generally expect to pay for both of us on a first meeting - after all, we're barely even acquainted, let alone romantically involved at this stage. Mind you, for a first meeting I'd only be going somewhere informal and cheap like Subway! I know, hopeless romantic that I am... Further on, I may suggest we go for a full-on dinner at a restuarant and at that point I'd expect to pay for the lot; but by then we'll know a lot more about each other. Post Reply
joesgeo View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 6 Jun, 2011 07:11 PM I'm not offended if a woman offers to pay her own way. But, if I can grab the check first, I'm paying. If you want to pay, you have to be quick. I have catlike reflexes and am pretty much poultry in motion. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 6 Jun, 2011 09:02 PM It's best to just do something quite cheap or ideally something you don't have to pay for on the first couple of dates. That way there's no question of who pays. Post Reply
joesgeo View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 6 Jun, 2011 09:29 PM But then they'll think you're a cheap date. Not sure if that's good or bad. Post Reply
TonyP View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 7 Jun, 2011 06:40 PM If I ask the women out then I expect to pay I mean I sure would not ask her out without the intention of paying for the date, would that be someihtng asking a women out to dinner, then when the waiter brings the check you say oh yeah left my wallet at home can you pay for this? wouldnt work for me dont carry cash in wallet LOL. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 7 Jun, 2011 07:50 PM There's a difference between being cheap and doing something inexpensive. I mean, it may cost the same to take a girl to McDonald's as it does to make her dinner at your apartment, but one is going to come off as romantic and different, while the other is going to just make you look cheap. Don't be cheap, but don't be irresponsible with your money either. You can do all kinds of fun things that are fun and enjoyable that don't cost you a bunch of money but don't make you look cheap. Post Reply
Asher_Aurelius View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 7 Jun, 2011 10:56 PM If a guy asks you out then he should be prepared to pick up the ticket plain and simple. If he doesn't it might be an interesting topic to discuss because it may reflect his attitudes to ladies. Hey but if you wanna pick up the ticket and thats your buzz, then sweet as. But if he isn't prepared to honour in this, how is going to honour you other things? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 07:44 AM Thanks for all the answers guys! It sounds like most of you would expect to pay, but in the early stages of getting to know someone you would try to pick free dates that were still special and memorable. A girl who doesn't know whether to expect a guy to pay or not should plan to buy her own, but accept his offer to pay if/when he offers. Sounds simple enough to me. Any other thoughts? Post Reply
View Profile History	When in Rome... Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 03:05 PM Simple to me. I will pay. :yay: Post Reply

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