Author	Thread: Guys in the Friend Zone
Tulip89 View Profile History	Guys in the Friend Zone Posted : 27 May, 2011 08:47 AM I saw this on another site, and I thought it was worth posting here. I've had to edit the language a little bit though... 1. Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and expecting a different result. By that definition, not changing your behavior, yet hoping the girl you're madly in love with just realizes that she loves you too, is insane. 2. If you want her to see that you're such an awesome guy, first be an awesome guy, then SHOW HER. It's not her responsibility to see what you aren't showing her. 3. If you act like a puppy, she'll treat you like a puppy. Every wonder why you're being toted around to go shopping for her, being dressed in ridiculous outfits, snuggled with, and then used as a therapist? It's because you act like a puppy, not a man! 4. No one respects a doormat. Stop being a doormat. Grow a backbone. If you don't want to do something or don't like something she says to you, stand up for yourself. It's part of being a man. If she can't respect you, she's not going to date you. 5. Doing nice things in the hope that they will eventually get her to like you is manipulation. Women don't like being manipulated. You may feel morally superior to her jerk boyfriend who plays games with her, but in the end, manipulation is manipulation. His manipulation just works. 6. Your don't only have the option of being a jerk and being a nice guy who finishes last. You can be a good, solid guy who treats a woman well but still has respect for himself, a backbone, courage, and some confidence. 7. Confidence, confidence, confidence! Work on being so confident that you're toeing the line with arrogance. Just don't cross that line. And be funny. Funny is good. 8. Date other women. Maybe she gets jealous, and you can make your move. Maybe you find out that one of the girls you're dating in the meantime is a better catch than the girl you've fallen for. Either way, you win. 9. Accept that you most likely are in the friend zone forever if you're already there. Consider having her set you up with one of her friends who is similar to her. Get out and have fun in your life. Not only will you enjoy yourself more, but people who have fun are fun. If you're doing what you enjoy, people are going to be attracted to you. 10. If you like a girl, quit waiting around, quit making excuses, quit waiting for the perfect time and the perfect line, and just ask her out. Fortune favors the bold, my friends, so be bold. Sure you may crash and burn, but you gave it a shot. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Guys in the Friend Zone Posted : 27 May, 2011 08:53 AM I sure do wish more guys would take that advice to heart! Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys in the Friend Zone Posted : 27 May, 2011 08:58 AM WOW!!!, Tulip ... a LOT of WISDOM there ... and worth posting for sure!!! Thanks for sharing what cha read. Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys in the Friend Zone Posted : 27 May, 2011 10:50 AM I think I can sum all this up into one sentence! Don't be a chump! Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Guys in the Friend Zone Posted : 28 May, 2011 10:37 AM i agree :) if we dont respect you from the get go, we'll walk all over you the rest of your life. that's just how it goes. Post Reply
IaoKim View Profile History	Guys in the Friend Zone Posted : 28 May, 2011 07:11 PM True story . . . I think the "Friend Zone" is the effect not the cause. Guys get into the friend zone because they do all the things that the OP says not to do! They justify their inability to be a man and stand up for themselves by insisting it is not their fault and that it is the girl's fault for just putting him in the friend zone! The Friend Zone is not permanent, guys can get out of it if they grow a back bone and make their moves. Even if the girl still ultimately rejects him at the very least he can move on and stop wasting his time with a girl that is probably just using him! Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Guys in the Friend Zone Posted : 31 May, 2011 08:08 AM don't be so hard. on yourselves, AND on the girls. my daughter and I both have great guy friends for whom romance Just Isn't There!!!!!!!!!!!! We don't know why. Girls sometimes say lets be friends, when the guy IS a jerk, but sometimes, even when you are a great guy, the girl just wants to be friends. same way sometimes with guys. Post Reply