Author	Thread: Virgin
GenuineBeauty View Profile History	Virgin Posted : 13 Jan, 2012 06:58 AM Why is being a virgin a turn-off for most men? I believe that sex was created by God to be enjoyed within marriage, not with every person you date. Post Reply
View Profile History	Virgin Posted : 20 Jan, 2012 12:54 PM It's pretty simple: The guys that say they are turned off by virigins just want to wh ore around and are acting out on you when they don't get what they want because they are insecure about their own sexuality and projecting what other people said to them onto you hoping you will justify their bad decisions. Because other than that, there is really no reason at all why some one being a virgin is a big deal. Post Reply
View Profile History	Virgin Posted : 21 Jan, 2012 07:47 AM I don't know, Genuine Beauty. A gal being a virgin is not a turnoff for me, and neither is NOT being a virgin. Some of us on here have been married, so we relate to not being a virgin in a different way than the single Christians looking for the love of the rest of their lives here. What's more important is that a gal or guy will be faithful sexually to us if we fall in love and become committed to each other in a Christian marraiage filled with expressions, romantically and sexually, of our love for each other, as God created men and women to know, love, and faithfully share with each other alone. Steve Post Reply
Ralphie4you View Profile History	Virgin Posted : 23 Jan, 2012 07:23 PM Most men in the world are not Christians and don't believe in Jesus Christ. The denial of the Holy Spirit allows The devil to take full advantage of people's weakness. Since a lot of men think about sex frequently, their sin with sex will follow. If a man asks you "are you a virgin?"- you must think about why he is asking you that. What are his intentions? If he is just genuinely curious and he ONLY wants to get to know you better - then him asking you such a question is innocent in nature. However, if the question is asked with promiscuous thoughts- then the man is not following a Godly way. Simply put, Most men don't like virgins because they are old fashioned and are not easy to get into bed. Most men want to have sex before marriage. Men who are wrongly influenced will say such things as "I want to taste the milk before i put a down payment on the cow". You should understand that these men are thinking with their hormones and not their heart and brain. If anything, a truly devoted Christian man should want to date a virgin because they are pure and innocent. (Although Jesus Christ dying on the cross, already washed away our sins). Post Reply
View Profile History	Virgin Posted : 23 Jan, 2012 09:02 PM I think I'll go ahead and pipe up for a group that I haven't seen their PoV yet. Virginity is something sacred, yes. I will openly say it, but I would much rather have a wife who is pure and virginal. Do I think I measure up to that standard? Aww, heck no! I dated a girl my sophomore year of college. She wasn't a Christian when we were starting to date, but she did come with me probably twice a month to church on Sundays, and my college ministry group I was a part of. (She later came to Christ, after we broke up.) A few months go by, and we're doing great. One day, she and I both get tempted when we're both working on our own assignments from our classes in my apartment and my roommates aren't home. Needless to say, we ended up having sex. After that, it became a norm in our relationship. We dated for another 7 months, and I think if you could put a number on it somewhere, we were doing it like, twice a day probably. The point of it all is though, that we didn't work out, we broke up. She was hurt by it all and so was I, but I couldn't deal with her mother not liking me and she knew it. End of it all though, I courted a girl after her named Nicole and we got engaged after a year. She cheated on me two months later by having sex with a guy in her chemistry class. But the whole time we were courting, I had felt such immense feelings of regret and pain and guilt. Imagine every negative emotion you could possibly muster, every single one of the situations you'd ever been in where you got hurt emotionally, and then try living in that state of emotion 24/7. I still don't think I can honestly match up, and I am still afraid that given temptation, I might stumble back down that road and get burned up by passion again. But I would still so much rather date a woman who holds that precious than some random girl on campus. I don't know if a woman knowing a guy who's done what I've done or been through so much more physical intimacy, would still want to date him if she treasured something that personal. Post Reply
View Profile History	Virgin Posted : 24 Jan, 2012 01:29 PM You're not the only guy to have fallen in that area, you weren't the first and you certainly won't be the last! Women in general will NEVER understand that the way a guy will, just the same as there are some things we'll never get about them... Post Reply
View Profile History	Virgin Posted : 26 Jan, 2012 05:18 PM Most men aren't Christians. I wouldn't think being a virgin is a turn off to most Christian men. Post Reply
stupidloverboy View Profile History	Virgin Posted : 24 Apr, 2012 10:17 PM Honestly I don't know. Personally seeing a woman who is dedicated enough to deny sex until marriage is very impressive to me. Post Reply

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