Why do many guys' eyes travel immediately to the chest area rather than a girl's face? Is there something that women can do to help guys focus on our faces rather than our bodies?
I really don't understand why most men are so obsessed with women's chests. It's really embarrassing for us girls! Or, at least for me! It makes me ashamed of my body, so I really wish that guys would just stop.
It�s not your responsibility to dress differently or to be differently to accommodate the darkness in the heart of another or to police the eyes of men other than those changes that the Lord and you decide are needed. Although I have little doubt that you would defend your dignity admirably if you had to confront someone about it, you shouldn�t have to. You deserve to be seen, and seen as a whole, not in parts, to unfold yourself like a flower before God and Creation, without fear of someone�s excessively focused or exclusive interest in your �buds�.
Men are in general, visually motivated and stimulated. While that predilection is frequently manifested in perversion and has without a doubt, been impacted by the Fall, I believe it is part of God�s design in man, inherently right, subject to sanctification, destined in Christ for redemption. Woman is physically different, round to a man�s flatness, concave to a man�s convexity, again I believe, by God�s design, designed specifically to appeal to a man and I think there is ample evidence of this in scripture.
In my life, during most of which I have been a Christian, I have looked at women in ways that honor both them and God, but also in ways that cause them to feel unsafe and ashamed, even in the same day. There is a difference between appreciating the beauty of a woman and the �consuming� gaze that devours instead of protects, that abases rather than exalts. There are many and complex reasons for the way men look at women, none of which matter, none of which excuse the way women are made to feel objectified and taken from by behavior that causes them to feel less than the daughter of the King.
As a man, I suspect that I am representative of the class (as in class action) of men and as a representative of men, and as a brother in Christ, I want to apologize to you, as a woman, and to God, as her Father, for lusting instead of loving, for my part in making your world a place of fear instead of security, for �uncovering your nakedness� (as described in Genesis) instead of partnering with God to robe you in righteousness and joy. I acknowledge it as sin and as a man, I ask your forgiveness for anyway that a man�s lustful indifference to the whole of you, has left you less free to see yourself as whole in Christ or to express the unique fullness of the feminine in your life. It is my earnest prayer that as God gives you grace to forgive the men in your life who have failed to protect you, honor you and model God�s love for you, that you will increasingly be able to slip free of the chains we have imposed on you and any you have imposed on yourself and experience His protection and celebrate with Him your beauty as a sexual being created in His image.
I disagree in part both parties have a responsibility.
Men have the responsiblity to contorl their eyes, and flee from ALL sexual imorality (that includes imodestly dressed women).
Psalms 101:3 I will not put anything wicked in front of my eyes. I hate what unfaithful people do. I want no part of it.
Womens responsiblity is:
1 Timothy 2:9 And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes.
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All Christians are COMMANDED to:
2 Tim 2:22 Run from anything that stimulates youthful lust. Follow anything that makes you want to do right. Pursue faith and love and peace, and enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.
1 Cor 6:18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
1 John 4:
God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. 17 And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.
18 Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 19 We love each other[b] because he loved us first.
20 If someone says, �I love God,� but hates a Christian brother or sister,[c] that person is a LIAR; for if we don�t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? 21 And he has given us this command: Those who love God must also love their Christian brothers and sisters.
Psalms 31:23 Love the Lord, all you godly ones! For the Lord protects those who are loyal to him, but he harshly punishes the arrogant.
Oh, I have advice n this issue.As long as the lasy dressess in a decent manner I am not too concerned.It is when she dressess to wild. I do control my eyes,ladies.
For those of you saying a lady should watch what she wears what about us guys.
Humor me please. You know I cound show up on a date dressed like a Indian medicene man.You know wearing a animal skin over my clothing and do a little chant. ( Hiiii hiii ya, Hiiii Hiii Ya ) :ROFL:
:hearts: Doesn't clothing fights just make women all nervous?
:nahnah: :peace:
I do find some of your view points interesting. As for me you never know.I might show up dressed like Davy Crocket, with my Racoon hat. :ROFL:
Is that proper clothing to go on a date in ladies? :hearts:
Love is in the air.:dancingp: I am waiting ladies.:nicenurse:
