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angelicka25 View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 10 Aug, 2014 03:27 PM Would that be a reason for you guys not to date/marry a woman? I heard some men talking in church today about dating divorced woman and they all agreed that thats a no-go to them because theres no guarantee that they wont divorced them too since they already did it once and i was actually pretty shocked because i never thought that men do think like that...i mean of course a divorce shouldnt be an option if you get married,but sometimes it is neccecerly,i would never judge a divorced person like that because ive been thru it too,so heres my question,is that really such a no-go to all christian man or is it just the personal opinion of the men in my church? Post Reply
1mountain View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 9 Sep, 2014 10:36 PM The whole divorce and reasons for it issue is extensively addressed in Matthew 19 and Mark 10 as well. In cases of 'sexual immorality' divorce is permitted and it is not a sin for those people to remarry. However it does appear as far as I can read that the remarriage is more of a sin than the divorce is when sexual immorality is not the reason for the parting. Also Paul addresses the issue of believers and divorce of unbeliveing spouses is gone through in 1Cor. 7:10 and on. This is of course the ideal standard (Jesus sets the bar pretty high doesn't he) and in real life none of us can expect to be able to attain perfection. That is why we can be truly forgiven, for divorce, remarriage, and anything else we do. Post Reply
View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 9 Sep, 2014 11:05 PM THANKS FOR THE REPLIES. HAVE A BLESSED DAY. Post Reply
Moichepit View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 12 Sep, 2014 12:47 AM Shalom, This is to me one of the best explanations as far as Divorce goes. It also has many answers to specific reasons one MAY feel like they cannot find in the Bible. I hope it is a blessing to any one who is still confused. http://carm.org/what-does-bible-teach-about-divorce Post Reply
HoosierHomeschooler View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 12 Sep, 2014 09:04 AM Thanks for that link, Moichepit. I think it properly connects the scriptural teachings. It does not mention abuse which appears to be the reason Moses permitted divorce in the first place. I believe abuse is a type of abandonment. The abuser didn't physically abandon the abused, but forced the abandonment nonetheless. Post Reply
Moichepit View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 12 Sep, 2014 07:51 PM Your welcome Hoosier. I completely agree with the bible not being specific in the area of abuse in the verses pertaining to Divorcement, however I did by the Grace of God find it in other verses. I will be posting the link as well as what I have found in this same forum. Be blessed. Post Reply
Moichepit View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 12 Sep, 2014 08:40 PM I also wanted to add that a brother had said something that caught my attention; "statistics about those who divorce once being more likely to divorce again" First we have to keep in mind that the statistics are not clear on what type of Marriage is the Successful one. Secular or Christ based. Secondly, we also have to remember that a FEW learn from their past mistakes (if they were the offender) And Thirdly, if the divorce e's are "Christians" (notice the quotations), then it is safe to ASSUME that they may NOT really know the Lord. Post Reply
SweetEnigma View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 3 Dec, 2014 04:59 PM As a long time teacher and minister of the Word I have two thoughts Id like to share on this subject with the Gentleman that is so adamant about divorce. The operative words there my friend is "WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER" Just because a person marries does not mean God put them together. God gave us a free will and too often we as human beings, even christian human beings, follow our own hearts and desires and we justify and convince ourselves and others that what we are doing is God sanctioned when it is not. Man joins themselves together more often than does God. So first question is Was God the one that joined the couple together? Second -Let no MAN put asunder. That does not mean that God cannot separate the two. Gods ways are not our ways. He may "unjoin" or "put asunder" by way of death but not always. If man hardens his heart and will not obey and treat his spouse as Christ treated the church (with love and respect and willingness to give himself for her) if the relationship becomes abusive God may choose to put asunder. And it may be thru the divorce process that this happens. And Christ does give the biblical exception of fornication - which is the Greek is porneia. The word can mean anything from sexual intercourse outside the marriage to pornography (ouch! Since many many men, even christian men look at porno and dont see it as fornication, surprise IT IS) but the word also means idol worship. That means guys putting other things before your wife is fornication. God said the two shall become one. Just as He called Israel a Harlot and an unfaithful bride when she turned to other gods, if you put other things or people, work, ect ahead of your wife, you are committing a form of fornication. He tells the church of Ephesus in the letter to them in Revelation to return to their first love. It is a Bride that has her first love for Him that He is returning for. If each of us treated our spouse with that same first love that we felt when we first got married there would not be near as man divorces. Nonetheless - there are Godly men and woman out here that are divorced and are so due to the biblical exception. AND if you were divorced prior to being born again then that sin was all wiped away pun receiving salvation anyway. You were reborn a new man/woman behold old things have passed away all things become new... Just food for thought... Post Reply
SummerJoy View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 1 Mar, 2015 06:34 AM Yes I agree, we shouldn't judge. In my case I was a loyal, supporting wife for 26 years yet my former husband had a problem with lust. I trusted him yet felt so betrayed when I found out after he had left me and his children for a younger woman that it wasn't the first woman he had a relationship with. He is now married for the 3rd time with many broken relationships between these marriages. I have forgiven and my faith has grown so strong since this time So I ask ...... I judged for his lifestyle? Do I get placed on the untouchable list because I was once married? Post Reply
RD63 View Profile History	dating divorced woman Posted : 5 Mar, 2015 06:24 PM All men don't feel that way. And, for the record, I agree with you about divorce. For Christians, divorce should not be an option, but sometimes it is necessary for the sake of emotional, and physical abuse of the other person, but especially when the relationship threatens the relationship with God, which is far, far, more important because it is not temporary like an earthly marriage is. However, more to the point on the subject, divorce causes much distrust and though it is wrong to do so, we are all human, and it causes both men and women to have a very difficult time in proving their "trustworthiness" because of it. But, once that trust is earned and regained, it needs to be protected, because I truly believe that it is the cornerstone of every loving marital relationship. Some men would rather just not go through the lengthy process of doing all over again and play it emotionally safe by being single the rest of their life, but those who trust God knows that, though a proverbs 31 woman is hard to find, her worth is so great that she is definitely worth searching for. Post Reply

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