Author	Thread: Do guys want female friends?
lynneb423 View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 07:29 PM I've had this conversation with my brother: why don't guys seem to want female friends? His response was that guys don't seek out female friends. He couldn't really give me an answer as to why not. I think he's right because I've seen personal ads on other sites where men will basically say 'not looking for friends' or 'don't respond if you only want a pen pal.' But, I'm wondering ... WHY? If neither person is seeing anyone and you could do social things with a female that you enjoy the company of but have no interest in- why wouldn't you? Also, I guess my question would be directed more toward older guys ... as younger guys in their teens and 20's still seem to have friends that are women, but single men in their 40-50's don't. Thanks, guys for any responses. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 05:07 AM It used to be a woman would drop a man like a hot potato if she found out he was not romanticly interested or interested in more, in a future, nowadays needing a husband is beneath many women. It used to be a woman knew how to cook and keep a house, nowadays that is beneath them. Yet men are still expected to do the guy things and now also do the traditional woman things so the woman can pursue a life or career outside the home and family. Who would of thought that when men built a society by the sweat of their brow that women proudly would not need them. It is funny, I can understand why a woman wouldn't like to hang out with guys and do guy things when she would rather be shopping, but it seems some women don't understand we don't like shopping and the only way we will.do it is if you have something more to offer than friendship...I smell a double standard! Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 05:56 AM I'm not in the older group, but I do have both female and male friends. I honestly often prefer female friends, because they are less likely to focus on playing video games or sports in their free time, and I don't have to worry about talking about which chick I think is attractive. And honestly, while I am noting things that are often trends in guys, I hate it when people stereotype all the guys and say "we are just this way." We aren't "just this way." People are raised a certain way, but God made us all unique. But because people are too afraid to be different, or don't have access to the different things God might want them to be able to enjoy, they end up looking like a lot of other people. Imo, men and women were created to be a lot more similar than we are; we were created to be human beings, both sexes able to enjoy the same kind of things, outside of the anatomical differences that create unique experiences that can't be passed on to the other side. There is a reason there are so many fake blonds out there, and it ain't because God has a thing for Barbie. Our culture works to conform each sex, and unfortunately into petty beings. That said, If you are looking on dating sites for "just friends," it seems like a rather self-contradictory venture. You're guaranteed to have lower results, so it would be better to check out other websites where dating isn't a focus. You also might try checking out other churches every once in a while to try to meet more new people. And as for being worried about "falling in love" with someone of the opposite sex who is just a friend, I think those people either need more agape/friendship love in their life because they don't have enough to begin with (so when they find someone relatively nice, they fall hard because they are emotionally in need), or they need more experience with having female friends, because if they did, they would realize that each female has some good and bad qualities, but that one needs to find a real gem in order to consider that female as possible marriage potential. And, of couse, getting out of the American mindset that physical beauty must = soul mate, doesn't hurt either. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 06:31 AM She was just asking for friends... We are drawing conclusions from her post, and about her in general that aren't there. All I am asking is that there is fairness and kindness, and even I can see the modern way of doing things is wrong. I'd rather a husband/promising courtship than a million guy friends, as I'm sure she would as well. However, if she cannot find a husband right this moment, why not have a few friends in the meantime? She wasn't saying "I don't need a man." She was saying "Hey, why can't more guys be my friend." I thought the idea was nice. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 06:33 AM I've seen a lot of people on this site merely for the forums, and not dating, they are not under scrutiny, and she partakes in forum discussions. :/ Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 06:42 AM MsMarvel, I don�t think anybody is turning down lynn specifically, we are just stating in general why we are not likely to pursue a friendship. Yes, we should do things for others without expecting a reward, but it gets tiring when the ONLY time someone wants to talk to you is because they want something from you. You stated: No one's asking that you be a doormat for others to walk on, or that you don't deserve thanks and rewards, and hugs. Surely anyone would give those to you willingly. Actually, I get asked to do things all the time with barely a thanks, nor rewards and no hugs. And, to make matters worse, when I am in need, not only will people not help me, I get accused of being too needy and not willing to depend on God. I do think there is a difference when it comes to age. Those who are younger generally tend to be more open, and haven�t been hurt as much as those of us who are older and tired of being used. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 08:51 AM Cobbler hit it right on the head, thus there is a lot of selfishness in the heart of some. Two you might as well go see Ms. Marvel, you might forget where you live though. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 09:37 AM i just read this post. Other than these forums I can not find any female friends around my home.They all are married. oh, how terrible that is. I can not find any single ladies my age. maybe I should start chasing younger women. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 09:44 AM In general, no, especially on here. I've gotten to know some people on this site through the forums who I would consider to be my friends, but I really have very little interest in investing lots of my time messaging someone just out of the blue for a shot at forming an internet friendship. I've got enough people in real life I could spend time with. As far as real life goes, I've got one completely platonic female friend. All the rest are either acquaintances or it's not completely platonic (at least in my eyes). To sum things up: If I like you enough to want to spend a lot of time with you, I'm going to be interested in being more than friends. If I don't like you enough to want to spend much time with you, we aren't very good friends, are we? Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 10:25 AM Do guys want female friends? *** YES !!! Not All...but Some...I have a Few Really Close Male Friends...They are My Brothers in Christ Jesus...Nothing more...If I ask one to help me to lift something heavy or move something they do not Hesitate and they Do Not Expect any payment of any kind except the Favor to be Forwarded to Another... The Only Differance Betwix being of Service with a Helping Hand and Being Used buy Someone...Is Attitude...Ifin a Person believes they are Being Used...They might wanna look to Self...Are ya Helping for the Pleasure of Helping...OR...Do you Help for some Other Reason...:rolleyes: It seems to me that Men have a Set Parametor...A Pre-Conceived Idea of How a "Serious Relationship" is TO BE...Unfortunatly for the Men & Women included they Cheat Themselves of True Friendship because they are Afraid of Committment of Any Kind due to Past Failures...Therefor they will say..." I don't Need a Women/Man...I just want You when I do and Not when I dont...I do not Love you the Same as you Love me...HA ! HA!! HA !!!...I've heard all the Lines of NO-Committments...So has Jesus�People seem to Forget�that ANY Contact with a Person�IS a Realationship�You Get Out of it what You Put Into it� As for the Friendship Leading to a Serious Relationship...Why on Gods Green Earth would Anyone Want or Need to be Involved Seriously with a Person that IS NOT their "Friend" ???...Just my 2 Bits�Yall hava GOD Holy Spirit Filled Day & Know that YOU are Loved�:bouncy:...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys want female friends? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 11:02 AM guys all she wants is friends is that so wrong..were supposed to be christ like aren't we...i honestly don't see anything wrong with being her friend...well that's my three cents Post Reply

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