Author	Thread: Strong women intimidate men?
Admin	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 21 Apr, 2011 04:38 PM Ladies with strong personalities such as who knows what she wants and agressivley goes after it whether in the work place or in relationships. A woman�s physical attractiveness, her character, her demeanor, her attainment � all of that can be daunting to a man who considers such an appealing woman out of his league. Do men view it as �chew �em up and spit �em out� attitude. How does this compare to a proverbs 31 woman? What do you think guys and girls? Post Reply
View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 22 Apr, 2011 04:27 PM Thanks. River for showing me the differences between a strong woman & an independent one! :) Post Reply
Jewels133 View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 22 Apr, 2011 04:32 PM I've been told, by men, that a strong woman intimidates them, but at the same time, men don't want a timid, meek woman, who doesn't speak her mind or know herself. I have to wonder though, do the men who say they want a Proverbs 31 wife know what it means to be a godly husband? Are they being a Proverbs 31 husband? I think a lot of times it depends on the woman, and what the man thinks of when he hears the term "strong woman." In today's culture that immediately seems to mean a woman who is brassy, bold, mean, stubborn, take charge, workaholic, who happens to hate men and their authority. I think men want a woman who is humble enough to change her name when they marry, who will respect her husband and his GODLY authority (meaning if he's doing something against God, she has the authority to stand against his wishes and do what is right for the family.) I believe a man wants a woman who is like the Proverbs 31 woman...who works hard to take care of her husband, her children and her home, and provide for them what they need, with love and grace. Grace is key. Many women today don't know how to be a modern woman and be graceful and classy at the same time. I also know many men don't have any concept of what it means to be a truly Godly husband and the head of a household. A man who truly honors his wife, and loves God, will treat his wife like a queen, she will know she is cherished and loved, and will not have any problem submitting to his authority in the relationship. Assuming of course, he actually USES his authority in the household. At the end of a man's life, God holds the man responsible for his wife and his family, not the woman. If a man choses not to take responsibility for those under his covering, then it is left to the wife to see to, out of sheer desperation and need. Then those same men will complain about their "intimidating and controlling wife", and women will complain about their "lazy, ungodly husband." Modern day Jezebel and Ahab. Thats because women are STRESSED OUT...we were never designed to run a household, take care of the children, be a loving wife, AND work full time AND take on the spiritual authority in the family. No wonder women are tired and grouchy with their husbands. In modern times, women have been forced to be the "strong woman" because we are now EXPECTED to be able to do it all and be "equal" to a man. In some ways we are equal, but in God's eyes the man is the spiritual leader in a family. But in modern times, many men are not raised to be leaders, to be humble, or respect women or be responsible. A simple example? There are less and less men willing to stay married to the same woman, provide financially or emotionally for their children and do what is right. There are less and less men sitting in the churches each year. Churches now days are mostly ran by women, on boards, in leadership roles, as deacons and elders and organizers, with outreach programs and Sunday schools, because so many men aren't WILLING to take the spiritual responsibility for their family, or their church. Next time you're in church, look around. I see many woman and children sitting together, but their husbands aren't with them, leading by example.Where are they? Fishing? Golfing? Watching TV at home? Checking out the check out girl at the store? Then women get an unfair rap are considered ungodly for taking an active role in their church or taking on the head of household responsibilities, when the truth of the matter is, we'd rather not, but many men aren't willing to do it. There has to be a balance there...and when there is not, there is strife and division between the sexes. Men don't want a Jezebel wife and women don't want an Ahab husband. Just some of my thoughts on the matter. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 23 Apr, 2011 07:00 AM I really what you said, lynneb. I too feel the same way about everything you said. I have so many thoughts on this, but it would take too long to explain them... I think we as individuals have a tendency to generalize alot, when every woman is different, just like no man is the same. Post Reply
View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 23 Apr, 2011 03:31 PM I like women who can deal with life's little problems without breaking down emotionally each time something crops up; those who will stand up to me when I'm plainly wrong in my words or deeds, yet who will also allow me to lead in the areas I'm better in. Don't tell her, but I kinda admire HolyGhostGirl's feistiness, though I feel it does overstep the line at times. Post Reply
View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 10:25 AM I think that many of the verses in the bible that pertain to marriage are skewed by the people who read them. For example Ephesians 5: 22-24 states "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." It is here that many women become defensive, but its only because it is taken out of context. To fully understand this verse you must also read Ephesians 5: 25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." Maybe that part should be read first. Maybe knowing the kind of love that Jesus showed and gave to his bride (the church) would make it easier for women to understand the nature of the rolls in a marriage relationship. Post Reply
HolyGhostGirl View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 02:51 PM Victory7, yup, they are. Women are intimidated by strong women, too. It's sad! But whatever. The bible didn't say that the Proverbs 31 woman should be a doormat or a wallflower. I love being strong, even though it intimidates. Too bad!!:rocknroll: Anyway, what a great and interesting question. That was so up my alley!:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 03:50 PM Jewels, I think I read your 'thoughts' in a book I have. Post Reply
Princekermit View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 10:34 PM "At the end of a man's life, God holds the man responsible for his wife and his family, not the woman." Even before the end of a man's life God has been holding him responsible. Lets go back to our first parents. There is no doubt that men are accountable the ones accountable. Who ate the forbiden fruit first? Eve. But thats not when the fall happened. Eve was not in control, or in authority. The fall happened when Adam joined her rebellion, and the moment He ate, sin entered the world. Paul nails this point clearly when he does a compare and contrast with Adam and Christ Jesus: Romans 5:12a "Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned,�" God didn't even give the law to Eve, He dealt with the man. Pay attention to the first part of the verse, find who was/is commanded" Gen 2:16a,b �the Lord God commanded the man, saying, �From any tree of the garden you may eat freely; but from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat," Its very interesting, that as recorded, God the Father, has spoken directly to men, throughout the bible, but never once directly, to a woman, instead using angels and men to convey His word to them Post Reply
View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 11:22 PM @ dkj ~~~ You say tomatoe--I say Tomatoe~~~~~ You say potatoe~~~ I say Potatoe____ You say feistiness, ~~~~~ I say rudeness. LOL _____________________________ @ Kermit, What are you Smoking, man? lol Post Reply
Princekermit View Profile History	Strong women intimidate men? Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 01:26 AM Smoking? I am a non-smoker, but thanks for asking... My comment was directed in reply to something Jewels had said about Husbands being accountable. Post Reply

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