Author	Thread: A case of cold feet?
Sweetpea83 View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 14 Feb, 2011 08:20 AM Hi, I've been a part of this site for over a year and in August 2010 met a great guy on here. In October 2010 we started dating and things were going great. We have a lot in common, communicate well and felt the relationship with stable and healthy. In fact, my boyfriend started saying," I love you" and talked about marriage. We even looked at engagement rings last month and were planning to get engaged in April/May of this year. This morning, out of the blue, he called me and broke up with me. I am completely in shock! I asked him why he was breaking up with me and he replied that he doesn't know who he is or what he wants out of life anymore. I think he has a case of cold feet as we were getting closer to being engaged. Advice or thoughts appreciated. Thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 07:17 PM River, you betta preachhhhh!!!:dancingp: Gomer, you say that we can not know what ole dude had going on in his head, but you do a whole lot of generalizing about what women in our society are doing and thinking. Your viewpoint may be true for some and for those who YOU know, but that jazz ain't true for everyone. And there are PLENTY of guys that are afraid of committment, yes even just for committment's sake. They want their cake and they want to eat it too. They want the family life but don't want their wife to be the last woman they ever sleep with. Bottom line is the world is getting more wicked and it is getting harder to find sincere ppl who are mentally and emotionally healthy enough to enter into this most serious union. Ppl divorce for all kinds of reasons and if it's not marital infidelity, then er'body is wrong. I know it's hard to let ppl go, epecially when you love them, but I have a real problem with the instability that it takes to be on a certain path and then all of a sudden jump off that path leaving heartbreak in your wake. So, I agree with not sweatin' him and letting him come back to you to an extent, but its more of a chance than I would probably give. Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 07:28 PM Twosparrows quote: Sweetpea, don't call him, don't go to see him, don't write him, don't text him, let him miss you, if he doesn't miss you, you don't want him anyway 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NASB) 4 Love is PATIENT, love is KIND and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 DOES NOT ACT UNBECOMINGLY; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, DOES NOT TAKE INTO ACCOUNT A WRONG SUFFERED, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 BEARS ALL THINGS, believes all things, HOPES ALL THINGS, ENDURES ALL THINGS. 8 Love never fails; � Two, where in those verses above do you find your advice? He hurt her feelings, so she is going to make him feel bad for it by ignoring him? Sweetpea, you want a great start to your marriage, go and talk to him. If he won�t open up, then it�s over. If he does, and you respect his feelings and fears, and help him through this, you will have earned the trust of your husband. Building strong relationships is not about making sure there are no hard times, it is about coming together and working through the hard times. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 07:29 PM yes, providing both are mature enough to do so. Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 17 Feb, 2011 03:15 PM Might be he has struggles with new job, come to doubt his self, down grade his worth and believe you could be happier with someone else though he does truly love you. Cobbler & Gomer has good points to consider. Twosparrows advice might also work but what if he really feels so down right now and he need your support though he appears not to welcome it. Lift him up in prayer :prayingf::prayingf::prayingf: Maybe do half of Cobbler and half of twosparrow and consider Gomer and reassure. You are doing great yourself venting and seeking advice/opinions from Christian community. If it is God's will it will work. Have faith, believe everything will work out for those who love the Lord. Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 21 Feb, 2011 06:30 PM Just a penny worth of thoughts...the opposing side so to speak. I have a couple of teacher friends who have lost their retirements because of divorce. One of the ladies married a guy who divorced her 6 months later. Due to their time together, he now gets half of the retirement she worked 40 years to earn. So, while some ladies represent a threat to guys....some guys also represent a threat to the ladies. On the other hand, I traveled with a mother of 11 children last week. When her hubby met us, he picked up her carry on and then they walked to the car holding hands. 11 children and 40 years of marriage and they still hold hands when walking. I'm thinking if a guy comes along I get serious about, those are two folks that need talking to. They have figured something out. Post Reply

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