There is a member on this site I am very much interested in communicating with. On one site her profile states she is available and is "so ready and excited to meet "THE ONE" that was created just for me, and I just for him... Bring him on!!!"
On this site she says she has met a "wonderful Christian man." I messaged her from the other site and she told me that although she has met someone, they are still getting to know each other but she was always willing to meet and make new friends.
My father always tells me if you have to ask, it's wrong; but nevertheles I still have to ask -- would I be overstepping my boundaries by asking to exchange messages with her? Her profile mirrors mine almost exactly and apparently it's alright with her, although I'm not sure about the other gentleman she is corresponding with. I have sent her a couple more messages but have yet to receive a response so maybe this question is moot.
silver/pixy my you both sure give yourselves much too much credit.
I said:
I don't give myself any credit, actually. You'll never see a post where I'm breaking my arm patting myself on the back.
I'm not impressed with lumping my response together with Pixy's, though; hers was much more detailed, logical, and thorough. I just threw up a few sentences. So my response here will address only what I wrote.
Saved said:
I've seen you both rip others to shreds in the public forums several times. This is not even a drop in a bucket compared to what you two have done.
I said:
Broadening the scope of conflict won't work with me. If I did something in error back then, you never contacted me about it. Taking issue with other people's behavior in the forum is DIFFERENT than POSTING A PRIVATE EMAIL IN PUBLIC. But, most importantly, we're not discussing my behavior here. We're discussing yours.
Saved said:
I notice neither one of you responded when I offered a sincere thank you and compliment to you especially to you pixy. But when things are finally put to a hult by sharing Truth that's when you both chime in and act as though you are perfect beings and with out faults and with out sin.
I said:
I agreed with your post, and so I had nothing to add.
I've never claimed to have no faults and I've never claimed to be free from sin. If you've read my posts, you'll know that I freely confess my problems and my sin.
However, attacking the messenger is an easy way out, isn't it? It frees you from having to address the issues that other people bring to your attention. But attacking the messenger is not responding in love.
Saved said:
You have no idea what I said or didn't say on POF and you obviously have no clue what skeeter said nor didn't say on POF.
I said:
Actually, Saved, your POF profile is still up. So while I don't have the emails, I am beginning to doubt your truthfulness, given how different reality is from what you say about me.
Saved said:
In my opinion I strongly suggest you both seek some serious help. I've never met ppl such as you so filled with anger, rage, disdain, and unrational behavior.
I said:
You think I'm filled with anger? Based on what? You think I'm filled with rage? Based on what? You think I'm irrational? That's news to the people I know, but it's especially news to me. All these are adjectives, and you're lashing out instead of responding in love.
Saved said:
I sincerely pray God stops you both in your tracks. Frozen so He has you both as His captive audience. He then speaks in a earth shaking voice, Bold, Firm, and Stern with His truth and finally gives you both a wake up call you've so desperately needed for a LONG time!
I said:
It's only when I correct you that you seem to care about my soul. If I really needed a wake-up call, where were you when I first started to stray?
Saved said:
You may have some ppl fooled by showing one of your many faces, but you DON'T have everyone fooled.
I said:
This post is now officially surreal.
Saved said:
You both are pointing your finger at edw and I for speaking truth and
Trampling over us with your twisted half truths trying to come off as pure as the driven snow. Just remember while you point at us there are three fingers pointing right back at yourselves.
I said:
No, Saved. I am telling you that your behavior (and EDW's) was in error. That is entirely different from saying that "you have no value" or attacking you personally, like saying "you are fat" or something.
Saved, 'posting a private email on a public board' was the wisest thing you could have done---- otherwise we couldn't have seen what a jerk Mr. skeeter is!
I would never pursue a "friendship" with an engaged woman nor send her boyfriend an email like that. skeeter was in the wrong here--- not you and not edw.
I really shouldn't get into this, and I know I'm gonna regret it...therefore I'm going to go ahead and say that I will not respond to anyone who takes this innocent little post and shreds it to pieces while making incorrect assumptions about my character.
Saved and Edw, I'm very happy for both of you. You seem like a nice couple, and I hope things continue to work out for you. However, if you hadn't responded to Skeeter's post, Saved, I would never have guessed he was talking about you two...he did keep names out of it. I think you sort of unintentionally opened yourself up to criticism by publicly addressing Skeeter's post. You could have privately taken care of it and set the record straight, with no one here the wiser. After all, everyone was advising him to accept the fact that this wonderful woman was taken, and just move on! If he didn't do so, you could both have blocked him. And if and when he made the couple's identity known on the forums, then you could have addressed him publicly.
I don't think that Silver and Pixy were too harsh in their posts. Particularly Pixy. When I first read her post, I thought "What a well-thought out, logically-stated, kind way to give some gentle advice!" Certainly they did not deserve the lashing that they received. Again, I think that the door was opened for criticism when the anonymous couple made it public.
So please, let's stop with the accusations. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes (myself included). But making generalized assumptions about others intentions and character based on a few words written on a public forum does no one any good.
