Author	Thread: Men that Pressure for Phone Calls
nutrlivingwell View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 23 Oct, 2010 07:21 PM Hello Gentlemen...Id like to get another guys perspective on why men persist to talk to you on the phone vs answer further questions about themselves online. Takes me a while to be comfortable to give my number out and Ive had guys not continue to conversation because I wanted to get to know them first...said it would take too much typing???Am I missing something??? Puzzled !!!! Thanks Post Reply
View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 12:12 PM I'm with Silverfire on this one Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 03:21 PM It would go both ways though, it's not like the you wouldn't get to learn anything either. I found a girl, and we learned about each other for 4 months before any "offline" contact, and we've now been in a relationship for a year....but that could be because we are a lot alike, so we were both patiently learning for 4 months. Anyway, everybody is different. Good luck finding someone like-minded. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 04:09 PM first off use GOOGLE.. look up your number and name see what comes up.. I google screen names if i have a funny feeling about someone. Be careful but NOT unable to trust at all. we are here to meet someone so if we do not take a chance how will we find that special someone Post Reply
View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 06:20 PM I am not sure there is an easy answer to your question. Perhaps it is worth noting that meeting anyone online is �not� an ideal environment for nurturing a relationship for all the obvious reasons. The most obvious reason is that it is completely impersonal. Whether we recognize it or not, once/if you get past the picture �pretension�, we rely heavily on a myriad of other gestures, inflections, and characteristics in �seriously� selecting a companion. How a person carries themselves, what their voice sounds like, how a person uses vocal inflection. A smile often is the difference between yes and no. There is as much said in how a person walks away from you, as there is in how they walk toward you. Most of all, the eyes are the mirror to the person inside. Many little ones started life as a result of two sets of eyes meeting. So � I think there is a genuine frustration out here in finding an acceptable compromise between the impersonal and too personal. Many are mindful that anything you write on the internet is essentially there forever. There is an illusion of privacy that does not exist. One could say phone calls fall into the same category, but perhaps to a lesser degree. Of course, there is nothing that can be substituted for a face to face, one on one, encounter for thought, word, or deed. There are advantages to all degrees of communication. The internet certainly opens doors, however, are they doors that should be opened? The phone offers an intermediate medium of communication, but it still leaves one pensive, especially if the person whom you are enamored with is half way across the country, or half way across the world. Does it not seem everyone is looking for somebody somewhere else, when there were two people standing behind you at the local Wal-Mart that would just love to get to know you? Post Reply
nutrlivingwell View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 06:56 PM @ Shuutoku Tentei Wow ..stated with very deep thought ... I agree with you 100% but still think the internet has a process and although not nurturing can lead to a nurturing relationship and if a man is not willing to go the distance with you within reason too get to that place.... then to me he is probably not going to be the nurturing relationship Im looking for......I am a reasonable girl and I am speaking of # requests after the first couple emails...thanks for the insight Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 08:26 PM @mark I guess I just don't see the point in not meeting when you live less than 25 miles from each other. Should girls be inviting guys over to their apartments after 3 emails? Probably not. But Starbuck's is perfectly safe. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 09:45 PM Well...25 miles, yeah. I guess I just applied it to my situation. 250 miles. 10 times the distance=10 times the getting-to-know-each-other. Sounds like a balanced equation. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Men that Pressure for Phone Calls Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 10:05 PM A 250 mile drive is quite an investment. Even if you meet in the middle, that's 250 miles round trip. I'll agree you want to get to know a person a lot better before you commit to driving that far. In the end though, I didn't end up married to the girl who I asked for her phone number on my second message (she messaged me first, so her giving it to me was her third message to me), just the same as I didn't end up married to the girl who I spent months and months interacting with on a political website prior to our meeting/dating. Post Reply

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