Author	Thread: If you were dating a girl...
Admin	If you were dating a girl... Posted : 11 Sep, 2010 08:39 PM ...and she was raped and got pregnant, how would you handle the situation? What would you advise her to do? And would you continue to date, or break up with her? Post Reply
View Profile History	If you were dating a girl... Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 11:51 AM Honestly, Saved... Don't dish it out if you can't take it... You have bashed and demeaned me (and my boyfriend) here repeatedly for attempting to discuss rape... Yet, when we don't just cower under your rude and cruel words, you claim that you won't "feed into this most unhealthy dialogue." You're the one who started the unhealthy part of the dialogue, Saved. We are responding to YOU, now that the original purpose of this thread has been completely derailed. I responded directly to YOUR questions. And I know you're accusing me of misconstruing those questions, but you've offered no clarification or alternative explanation for anything that you've said. In fact, you've misconstrued many things that I have said, to the point where I'm wondering if you're even read 1/2 of what I've written on this thread. You're also contradicting yourself... You say something and then when we respond to it claim your never said it, even though we can all scroll up just a few inches and see that you did, in fact, say what you're claiming you never said. And as far as "defeating the purpose of trying to be sensitive and respectful to others," you began defeating that "purpose" in your first post. How is attacking someone who posts a question about a rape-related issue sensitive and respectful? I don't know what makes you think that bullying rape victims is appropriate, but it's not okay and you need to stop. Post Reply
View Profile History	If you were dating a girl... Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 02:12 PM Due to the onslaught of hate mail I received overnight and this morning (before even posting my last reply), I will be deactivating my CDFF account later on today/tonight. I will miss many of you, but do not wish to be part of a community that shames women for being open about the struggles in their lives. There's nothing Christ-like in that. And certainly nothing conducive to healing in that. To those of you who have taken time to send off kind notes to me regarding this topic: Thank you again. It means more to me than I can adequately express in words right now. Once again, I apologize that this thread has triggered so much hurt in people. Rape IS a very hurtful thing to talk about, but not talking about it and shaming women into keeping quiet about it just magnifies the pain. I also apologize for being somewhat harsh in my last reply. It sickens me to see rape victims being bullied for speaking out and I don't think that it honours God to keep quiet and let the bullies just keep at it. But I could have taken some time to cool off and phrase things more diplomatically. I apologize that I did not. All of that said, I think that part of the hope we have in Christ is that He will work ALL things together for good. And I think we miss out on so much of who He is when we close that door and assume that our bad experiences should be kept in the dark and left unhealed and unused. I want more than that. I want more than just muddling through and falling apart at every triggering thing. I believe that God can absolutely be glorified through my experience and I refuse to settle for less by keeping silent and feeling too ashamed and too timid to open myself up to however He plans for me to use this to serve Him. Now, if you'll all excuse me, I have a pregnancy test to go retake. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	If you were dating a girl... Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 07:39 PM Darn I thought I was going to see some good repply to the question that was posed. @Pixy Dont worry about stepping on egg shells, just be Godly. BTW I though it was a good question, and it caused me to think about some things To be honest I dont believe I could handle much more burden than I have in my own context. A preganacy casued by sexual assult, and a woman who has been assulted: I dont believe Im equiped to handle that, on top of going to school raising my three, and working. Post Reply
View Profile History	If you were dating a girl... Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 08:46 PM good thoughts....LONG story short....this is how i came to be through that type of situation. there is no reason a girl should think about aborting. give it up for adoption if anything. just thought id put that out there. thanks Post Reply
cmseeker10 View Profile History	If you were dating a girl... Posted : 15 Sep, 2010 04:33 AM Hi Pixy, You may never know me but I've been reading your posts.So sad to see you leave.I've been so much blessed and had learned a lot of things (spiritual and practical) from the topics you've started.I'm hoping you'll be back someday.Regarding this topic ,I think this can be a blessing and will encourage those who had the same experience to come out and talk about it than keeping it .And hearing those positive response from guys would give hope to them and felt loved despite the bad experience they once had......As it did to me..You will be dearly missed... In Christ Love, Lizzy Post Reply
View Profile History	If you were dating a girl... Posted : 15 Sep, 2010 05:51 PM @Lizzy- Thank you so much for your kind words. @Rabbit- I appreciate your honesty. @mrwood- I agree. Abortion is not an option in such circumstances. Post Reply

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