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aurora846 View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 3 Jul, 2010 09:30 PM So, heres where the awkwardness begins for all you boys! *WOOT!* So, i keep wondering if guys are really just generally turned off by girls who are overweight? im not skinny, granted, God made me skinny boned so I should be thin, but because of life instinces I began to eat my feelings and emotions. Now, due to Gods grace and love I am working it out and am working on losing weight. But I still have guys say, "Youre so awesome, if you were thinner, or in great shape I would date you". That really sucks to hear, but whatever that makes them look stupid not me. But seriuosly, are guys so shallow that they wont even look at a bigger girl twice? I mean, im overweight but am pretty good lookin and have a really great personality so why do guys keep over looking me?> Just wondering... Sierra Post Reply
View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 6 Jul, 2010 10:19 PM I have to agree with StormCountry. Matching up sizes may work for some people, but I don't think it should be a rule to go by. I was a very slim bride of 90 lb (5'2)and married a 220 lb man (6ft), and a few of my petite friends married "big" guys, too. Have to say that all of us, including the men, have added a few more pounds over the years. It is quite normal for people's weight to increase as they get into their 40s and 50s. Metabolisms shift for some people, no matter how well they try to keep their weight down, exercise, etc. Then there are those who are blessed with "thin genes" and can eat as much as they want and don't gain an ounce over the years. The important thing I believe is to keep healthy and take care of yourself well. Don't judge a book by its cover. Looks can be very deceiving. God didn't make us all the same, did he. I think that people should loosen up when they judge people by their weight unless we are talking about extremes (severely obese and anorexic) Both of these conditions can be very unhealthy. Post Reply
klmartin62 View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 12:40 AM Like I said, I am a big guy. One thing though, I refuse to be miserable because of another person's standard. It is hard enough living up to my own standards, I won't add their's to that. Much love, Leon Post Reply
View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 04:56 AM O!..M!..G! Many people have been influenced by movies, magazines and society's fixation on women being thin. The buy-in to these ideals I see in the some posts is making me want to upchuck. I am healthy, thick and I absolutely love it. Because I love myself and carry myself with a confidence born of knowing I am fearfully and wonderfully made, I attract all types. Everyone has a right to like what they like. Body size wasn't mentioned in the virtuous woman chapter of the Word, was it? Yall are killin' me. Post Reply
View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 06:30 AM Yeah, BG. Amazing how the standards of this world permeate our thinking and feelings, isn't it? And I think how we were raised plays a part in it, too. Like I said -- be true to God and follow His will for you. Eat healthy and exercise -- and find the size that is right for YOU, not what the world thinks is right. Then you will be strong and confident and be in God's will, which is more important than any number on a scale. Post Reply
View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 03:34 PM For me, it's more of a health concern than anything else. I want to spend the rest of my life with someone and if he's very overweight, it causes a myriad of health problems and decreases the odds of growing old together. I don't care if he's ripped and has a 6 pack (I'm not a bikini model), but I am healthy and want the same. Yes, I know that you can get other health problems and still be fit, but if you smoke, are very overweight or drink a lot, it puts you at greater risk for things. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 09:42 AM @ dallasmom, I understand your concerns of health in your partner but what if the guy was a really great guy and you refuse to give him a chance because of what MIGHT happen. You have in essense discriminated against him because of his based on a theory that says the fat people are less healthy than skinny people which I know is not a definite truth. Just something to think about...I think a lot of women have turned me down or not even considered me because of my weight...thinking perhaps I'm lazy and nonactive...that couldn't be further from the truth. styreotyping of fat is just as wrong as styreotyping against some one because of their skin color....just because they look a certain way doesn't mean that they necessarily fulfill every aspect of that 'Lifestyle'. Post Reply
View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 11:05 AM @storm, We live in a body-conscious, veggie eatin', gotta get my work-out on, plastic surgery havin', wearin' body smoothers to hide the fat I didn't work off, society. During the 18th & 19th century, we see thicker bodies being the norm, as reflected in nude paintings of that era. It's just the time we're in. You are a really nice looking guy and if you just do you, I know God, in due season, will gift you with a woman who will appreciate you and all you have to offer. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 01:06 PM That's the trick. Everybody is different, everybody has different tolerances, everybody is attracted to different things. I guess the problem I have is that people think other people should overlook or ignore problems in their life that they don't find attractive and just love them for who they are. That's a nice thing to think about, and we should always treat people like that, but reality doesn't work out like that very often or for very long in a "romantic" relationship. I just think that everyone needs to find people that appreciate everything about each other, or are tolerant to their problems enough to spend their lives together, and I also think they should let everyone else be attracted to what they're attracted to. If a woman/man is not attracted to you because of your smoking/drinking/eating, then would you really want to be with someone who finds you unattractive? Love covers a multitude of problems, but what happens if you don't love each other very much one day? After a fight or something. Nothing is perfect, I just think we need to make sure we find someone that is truly attracted to as much about ourselves as possible. I'm not saying that if you're over-weight you have to marry someone over-weight...just make sure it's not a problem to them, just like I'm sure they would have problems you would have to be ok with. :peace::peace: Post Reply
aurora846 View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 01:13 PM I have to disagree. Being fat is very unhealthy. I am overweight and am unhealthy just for that fact. You dont get fat from eating healthy, you get fat from eating too much fats, sugar and eating too much and not being active. But I agree with @donthitthemark, I wouldnt want to be with someone I am not attracted to. Post Reply
View Profile History	fat girls Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 03:31 PM Well, Aurora, I disagree with you. Being a large person doesn't make them unhealthy! What!? I know too many who have absolutely no health problems who you would consider 'fat'. I'm glad that it's not up to ppl who think as you do whether us 'fat' ppl go on to find love and live blessed, happy lives. @mark, who is saying you have to just accept ppl and be with them if you are not attracted? By all means only get with skinny women who you can forsee never gaining weight. ;-) Post Reply

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