Author	Thread: This Feels Risky to ask...
existlookingup View Profile History	This Feels Risky to ask... Posted : 18 May, 2010 09:55 PM I grew up my entire life knowing Jesus, I'm active in my local church and have always been serious about my faith. I met a Christian man, (youth pastor/worship leader) and was absolutely sure God was leading us to get married. He was actively pursuing me, asked me to start planning our wedding last summer, the whole 9 yards. At that point I think I let him kiss me. About a month before he'd wanted to get married he started pressuring me into something more physical. I ended up caving in, ... I know I sinned, I have no intention of repeating that mistake again. He backed out of the relationship suddenly, and now I'm a single mom. Something I'd never even considered would happen in my life. I had over 9 months to heal, to be alone, to forgive myself, and seek counsel from my church and parents. I stepped down from my leadership position, but those around me supported me and have walked with me. I would like to get back into dating. Do guys see this as inappropriate when my son is only a few months old? Deep down do you think my child should be older because 'baby' sounds scary? I'm not about going out there just looking for a Daddy figure...but realistically I'd rather begin dating now than later when he's more aware. I know what's best for us IS a man, and for my son, a stable family and father. Advice? Honest thoughts? Post Reply
IFBJack View Profile History	This Feels Risky to ask... Posted : 20 May, 2010 08:36 AM If your story is true and I've no reason to doubt it, I can't see how the 'man' you were with can live with himself. Post Reply
MICHIGANDER View Profile History	This Feels Risky to ask... Posted : 26 May, 2010 01:51 PM No, you are fine. If you are honest about your whole package, guy will want you even you had 10 kids. It's you not the baby. But I will never go after a gal if the kids do not want or like me. Your kids have to like and respect your husband. I have heard of many situations like this. Post Reply
man8bible View Profile History	This Feels Risky to ask... Posted : 7 Jun, 2010 11:40 PM You know the issue is not whether this is the right or wrong time to begin dating. The issue is are you in the right place, as a person/christian woman, to be dating. Seek out the council of your trusted friends and leadership in your church and have honest discussions about what it is that you are looking for and whether that fits into your life right now. As you have progressed through this situation of becoming and being a single mom ( thank you for having the courage to do so)you have faced all kinds of challenges and questions about what you are going to do, how you are going to get it done, and what kind of person you are going to be as you move forward with your life (much of that will be discovered along the way, of course), your child's life, and with God as your loving Father(for that is certainly what He is). So take a moment and look around at your life and describe the picture to yourself and have it described by the people who know you best and see if you are looking at a person who has room in their life for another...if so step out into that wonderful adventure...I would suggest though that you consider having a mentor or someone you have regular meeting time with, someone you are willing to tell the truth to and are also willing to let them truly speak into your life. An older christian woman ideally. Not someone who tells you what to do, or judges you, but someone who listens and reflects back what they see and is not afraid to challenge you with the truth and with a call to regular growth in the Lord and regular growth as a person who is getting ready for the last intimate relationship in her life. Ask yourself to describe again what the right man looks like..now that you have a family as well as yourself to consider and care for...and see it clearly again. God is really wonderful in that He wants the very best for you...right now and in the future. He loves you as much right now as He ever has...period. Enjoy the moment...there are many many many blessing coming down the road towards you in the years ahead...tough times too, but later you'll see those as some of the biggest blessings. one man's opinion MCM Post Reply
rubybleu View Profile History	This Feels Risky to ask... Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 06:17 PM Keep your eyes on the Lord, Live your Life and Love your son, the man who comes into your life through God's door will take good care of you both. Not to worry you have plenty of time, enjoy God's Blessing. Post Reply

First

<< Previous  10

Page : 1 2 3

Last