I've stayed out of these "appearance" threads thinking that ...well, anyway. I am totally behind Edw. First, I agree in my own assessment, that how a person carries themselves and presents themselves tells me a whole lot more than the color of their hair or their body build. You don't have to be rich to be presentable, but Edw's absolutely right, that how a man presents himself will tell me if he respects himself. If he doesn't respect himself, then he can't respect me. Second, many moons ago right out of college, I took an accounting clerk job in a refinery. It was there among the wolf whistles that I learned how beautiful a lady's self-confidence is to men. I had men tell me that I was pretty, but I had the most compliments about the way I walk. Before you start about the swing in my backyard, when you work in a refinery, you are viewed from All 360 degrees. I remember about 3 mon. after I got married that I complained to my husband that every time I went to the grocery store, some guy tried to pick me up. It was scaring me and I didn't understand what I was doing "wrong" to give them the impression that I wanted to be followed. He told me that I was just "being beautiful." He said that I'd never looked happier, I had a constant smile on my face, and that I walked with a lilt, almost like I was flying. His response was that "of course every man in the grocery store want to follow that home."
Edw speaks truth ladies. BELIEVE him!
Rose
P.S. Guys, you can start a new thread on how it makes a man feel to know that he is the reason for the smile on his woman's face and the lilt in her walk. I think the ladies would be surprised... again.
Thanks Rabbit, I was wondering where you were, you always have something to say.
@Rose, I hear you. I happen to feel the same way. About a week ago I asked the question, what is more important, having a virtuous woman or physically attractive woman?
Almost every response, claimed that both were desired. They continually referred to the common belief that men are visual so, they need to have someone visually pleasing to look at.
My question doesn't negate the fact that real men of God want a Godly woman, I just asked them to list what those personal physical attributes were, that they desire.
Okay, gotta try to express what attracts me physically...
It's kinda hard, because it is not hair color, it is not skin color etc...
It's hard to make a rule, but I first look at faces, I couldn't really describe what I look for there, but I can tell that I am not too attracted by what is considered stanard beauty (does that make any sense?).
For example I like when something is not in accordance with beauty standards. My ex for example. I don't mean to put her down by writing this (though she knows about me thinking so): She has one eyebrow (so there are aso few hairs above the nose connecting the two) which is als very wide. Something she inherited from her father, and something she feels bad about. It doesn't look as bad as one might think from what I write here, and she also wouldn't let it in its natural way...
Me for my part, I liked it, it was something special, something that made her stand out of the masses. She thought I'd be pulling her leg when I said I liked it, but I didn't. It is not that I would be attracted to hiry eyebrows or something, it was hers in this special case. I also found myself finding women attractive with noses that are too big for standard beauty, or also overwight women.
As I said, it is hard to make a rule. I am also not disattracted from what most men like: hourglass, beautiful eyes etc... you name it.
But I think there is a "too much" which renders the whole physical appearance uninteresting.
I think I know what you're say're Benny. You like what makes a woman unique?
I dated one guy who said he liked that I was thick. I only filled out when I had my kids, before that I was very thin. How about if I became thin again? I wondered if he would have had issue with it. I think he would have! :toomuch: :laugh:
Keep in mind that the question was about physical attraction. There can still be enough other attraction, if this uniqueness becomes less, like losing wiehgt or such:laugh:
I like all kinds of girls. Short, tall, skinny, full-figured.
Redheads, blondes, brunettes.
Blue, brown, hazel, green eyes.
Pale, tan, freckled.
I don't think it's so much the actual physical aspect of the girl as it is the way she "wears" it so to speak.
I mean...I once was with a girl who was all of only 5' tall and 96 pounds; then I went on after her to a girl that was about my height (6') and was (my personal estimate...I, like a gentleman, never asked :P) was somewhere between 140-160.
But like I said, it's the way that she makes herself look in it. It's the confidence in her appearance. If a girl truly believes that she's "got it goin' on"; they'll find that many guys will start to see that as well.
I will say this though. I am a sucker for big doe eyes. There, I said it. :P
You guys are wild!!but here it goes a well dressed woman that is a lady by all means but when it comes to color and size, skin tone has to be lighter than mines and the sizes I don't like bones if you know what I mean:dancingp: