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Rabbit32 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 21 Apr, 2010 10:37 PM ....do alot of Christian single Christian women seem stuck up. I went to another website and got all kinds of interaction, whats sad is most were unprofessed Christians. What do ya'll think? Post Reply
godlymom2 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 24 Apr, 2010 08:54 AM Lack of interaction should not automatically translate to we're "stuck up". It is unfair to assume that that is the reason why a woman, Christian or not, does not contact you first or respond to you. It was mentioned in an earlier post that everyone has their preferences; that could be part of it, but many factors could influence contact/response or lack thereof. Every person is different. Each situation is different. As far as the website/online thing goes, I'm not one, as a woman, to usually make first contact. When it comes to messages, I've missed a message, it got "lost" in my inbox, and later realized I never read it. There are times when I've received a message, read it, got pulled away for one reason or another (life can be quite busy for a single mom, ya know), and simply forgot to respond later. I've also not responded to messages I have read because of the way I was approached (a Godly man should not be approaching a daughter of God with...."hey, sexy" or "love your smile, you are really hott!"...that's another topic on its own LOL). So, my point simply is don't assume that we Christian women are stuck up. Hang in there, and the right one will respond. P.S. A small piece of advice on initial messages....let her know you've read her profile, reference something about her profile that caught your eye (preferrably, not just in her appearance), and ask a non-threatening question (ask about an interest she showed in her profile or something) as this can open up opportunity for an answer...a.k.a. further communication. Just one woman's opinion....you can take it with a grain of salt if you wish. Post Reply
Vagrant View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 24 Apr, 2010 11:09 AM I, for one, wasn't necessarily talking about online interactions... Across the board, really. By the way... You're really hot! Want to chat!? (Just kidding.) Post Reply
godlymom2 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 24 Apr, 2010 02:39 PM Very funny, Vagrant! :laugh: In person, it can be the same thing. You had mentioned something about "pretty" girls being stuck up...their reasons for not responding are various too. I'm amazed at how many beautiful women I've met in my life that are very insecure and have a very poor self image. They may be more bashful and unsure in social settings than you realize, and may just come across as stuck up. I've been accused of being stuck up before when I was just totally unsure how to respond to someone so I clammed up. Now, I'm not trying to say that there are no stuck up Christian women out there...because there are...just as there are stuck up Christian men. All I'm trying to convey, is that you can't assume that being "stuck up" is why someone isn't responding. Okay, I'm stepping off my soapbox, now. :goofball: Post Reply
Vagrant View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 24 Apr, 2010 10:40 PM Why can't I assume that? It makes me feel better. Majority rules... :D Post Reply
View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 25 Apr, 2010 02:20 AM Rabbit, I just realized what you were stating. You're saying that on a non-Christian website you got lots of "hits" on your profile, but here the women must be stuck up because they are not "hitting" on you. Well....Duhhh! Christian site.....non-Christian site. One site...Morals and Scruples...the other..."What's MorAl and Screupulls?" You are going to have to move much slower here and present your best behavior. It's worth it though. Peace Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 25 Apr, 2010 09:40 AM Well Rabbit, I'm not a gent, but I knew that you would want to hear from a woman as gorgeous as I. :P Ok. You are a psych major. This is a perfect reseach questions and I may have just the follow up question for you. If you go through dating sites, how many women will tell you they have been contacted by men that have been banned, compared to men who have been contacted by women who have been banned. From those results, who do you think needs to have their guard up and be more self-protective, male or female. Of the females, who would be most self-protective, non-Christian or Christian? If you want to take it even further, how do your online results compare to law enforcement statistics on sexual crimes against women compared to sexual crimes against men. I'll be looking forward to your thesis. Rose Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 25 Apr, 2010 11:21 AM Nice point, springrose. :peace::peace: Post Reply
xSoldOut4Himx View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 25 Apr, 2010 11:55 AM Silly Rabbit... hits are for kids! Sorry I really couldn't help myself... I think you are placing unreasonable expectations, which are resulting in frustrations. If you remove the expectation (I should be receiving more interaction that I'm getting). I think you will have a more pleasant experience... Post Reply
View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 25 Apr, 2010 07:00 PM Maybe my being a wise guy makes me single? Th ladies do not like my jokes? I do though.Dennis :ROFL: Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 25 Apr, 2010 11:10 PM My point is, I know who I am in Christ, where He has taken me, and what I have to offer. I've studdied women for years, and have learned (and continue to learn) to adapt my ways to serve, love, meet their needs. I dont want to, nor have I time to be a creeper or an internet stalker, especailly for a clay pot. Over the interenet or not, most the women I talk to (and I have talked to alot) , that fall in my criteria, the ones that respond the most are non-Christian. lol if you took the name Christian from MOST you couldn't tell one from another. Ya'll, I was chatting to two women, while trying to keep up with all my emails, and I havent been on there a week, and thats really just having a conversation. I am careful to read a womans profile, and I can be very creative when taking the initial step while not being threatening. I guess its just not single Christian women, but ALOT of Chrisians dont really wanna grow in Christ's likeness, step or step out of their comfort zone. I apreciate the feed back, and will deeply consider all thats said :) Post Reply

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