Why do men even though they will never admit it fall for the needy...witchy emotionally wrecked women?
I've seen several ladies I know who are a mess and they have a great men standing by their side.
What's the deal! I admit went thru wanting a bad boy stage but those days are long gone. I wouldn't even steal a second glance at a bad boy lost all respect for them now.
It sure makes it hard for us good girls to find a good man when evil wretches out there are sinking their claws in the few good guys who are left out there.
I've also observed that men are hung up on age. They prefer a young lady even though she's not comely or emotionally wrecked over a beautiful lady who's just a few years older and is pretty normal. The only person on the face of the earth who was completely normal is Jesus Christ?
Please elaborate on how the male mind operates Im not getting it?
Good one Dave, I like that. I agree with Lady Thumper. The point I think that I and a few others were speaking on when they refer to good is being saved and washed in the blood. The world is supposed to act like the world. That is expected, they are blinded by there own actions and are not open to what God has given them. When I speak about "good" girls. I mean someone who is living there life in service to God. If I was going to be in a relationship with a woman. I would want to have the same goals, the same values, the same moral standards, and the same standards of success in that relationship. I don't want to be dating someone who has a drinking problem, who is addicted to drugs, who is promiscuous, someone who is playing both sides of the field. I want a woman of God, not a woman of the world. I want to find someone that is as rooted in the word as I am, that is all. That was my point. I don't know if it came across as something else, if it did, then that wasn't my point. Sure, we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. I guess my point was to say that I'm not entering into a relationship with someone who doesn't have the same goals/values from the start because that is just a recipe for disaster.
Two men up into the temple to pray; the one a Pharisee, and the other a publican.
The pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God I thank thee that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this pubilcan.
I fast twice a week, I give tithes of all that I possess.
And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes to heaven, but smote uopn his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner.
I tell you, that this man went down to his house justified more than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted. Luke 18: 10-14
It appears to me that you have become bitter over your lack of having a healthy relationship with the opposite sex, and that you now are being tempted to blame other women, over their successfulness in obtaining one.
It seems to me, that you are being abased ( humbled ) because of that self righteous attitude, and envy of other women, which you appear to have totally accepted as being normal, or somhow ok in God 's sight.
It is sad, that no one has apparently pointed this out to you.
We are never justified when we behave in this manner, and God will always be faithful to let us know this, by taking us though experiences we need to be humbled.
Here are a couple of scriptures, which I hope will give you
God's veiwpoint over the matter, and change your feelings and thoughts on the issue:
God doesn't want his children to think of themselves as wretches. If that's how you value urself then ur not giving credit to Jesus who thought I and you were so valuable to die on the cross for us. We are to be on cloud 9 cuz of the everlasting love.
I know I'm a sinner but don't go around ashamed I feel sheer joy that Jesus saved me that he loved me so much to do that and that he forgives all my sins.
I wouldn't give a guy the time of day who wants a wretch cuz he's disobeying God's word. God commands us to be equally yoked. I need a man who places God first and obeys all his commands.
After ur saved you become a new person the wretch that you were dies on the cross with Jesus. How can God use u to witness to someone if you go around feeling like a worthless wretch. I don't recall Paul or
any of the disciples calling themselves wretches.
The devil wants you to think ur a wretch and
worthless so he won't have to worry about you
trying to witness. This way he can stop u cold in ur
tracks.
Be cautious of taking God's word out of context to support ur opinion or judgement. The bible has to harmonize.
The Publican obviously in this scripture was saved or just accepting salvation either way he wasn't a
wretch.
We are called to tell our brothers and sisters when they're not following his word. I would want someone to tell me when I'm blatantly breaking one of his commands.
If ur afraid to tell someone when they are in disobedience and the bible
proves it in black and white how can you help them turn from their sin and
become obedient?
We are called to stand up for what's right in the bible even if noone with their wordly views has ur back.
Jesus was constantly attacking the Pharisees for their hypocriticism and disobedience.
Paul was constantly scolding the Church of Corinth when they were being disobedient.
I'm warning Christian brothers to be aware of the female wretches don't let their neediness entice you to fall into their web. We dont have many
Christian brothers out there to begin with would like to see some of us good Christian girls on here get them. A good Christian girl deserves no less than a good Christian guy.
We don't want the left over wretched men. We want real sincere Christian men.
Gbu
Kimberly:-)
So if ur wretch or want a wretch steer clear of me.
14For we know that the law is spiritual: but I am carnal, sold under sin.
15For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I.
16If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good.
17Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.
18For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not.
19For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.
20Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.
21I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.
22For I delight in the law of God after the inward man:
23But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
24O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?
25I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin
Please accept this with all the love and affection I am able to give a Sister. I have listened to you through your posts and believe you Love and want to Obey God with all your Heart; yet I feel you have lately become more and more confrontational and somewhat "contentious". Again (if I may use your own words):
"We are called to tell our brothers and sisters when they're not following his word. I would want someone to tell me when I'm blatantly breaking one of his commands."
Is God's word "in the eye of the beholder" and is The Body of Christ wrong when in Unison they loving try to disuade a fellow Sister from perhaps making a mistake?
Or do you "pick and choose" how your standards apply to you?
"After ur saved you become a new person the wretch that you were dies on the cross with Jesus."
This is true, yet when a man comes to Christ after making the mistake of marrying a non-Christian; you "deny" that he is a "New" creature by refusing him as a "mate" because of his past "indiscretion".
Kimberly, whatever is causing you to feel the way that you do....forgive them and forget them and be open to what God may be placing in front of you.
Again I want to make sure that you understand that I say all of this with extreme Love in my Heart for you and what you are experiencing. I hear the Mother's Love in you and I also hear the Woman Scorned (your Fury seems to be growing).
There is not a "drop" of anger in my thoughts or in my words to you and my humor is in "time out" while I speak to you.
I consider this of the greatest inportance and my prayer is that my words convey this to you and somhow touch your Heart that someone has "harden".
Yes...we men can and often are childish brutes with the morals of jackels....but Christ has taken hold of some and has "rebuild" them.
Take down some of your "storm windows" for I fear that you may not be able to "see" out because of them and slowly look to see what is around. There is no promise that you will not be hurt again....yet, I've learned that my scars are tougher than the flesh beneath them (and only slightly less attractive).
Kimberly, I pray with all my might and Heart -- that some man sees whom you are and is willing and strong enough and patient enough to take your blows and not retaliate and wait for you to vent the hurt inside you. I really believe it will be worth his efforts.
dear folks, what is so important in the parable of the pharasiee and the tax collector is that the pharasiee didnt see himself as a sinner.. he could see everybodys elses sins but his own.. he thanked GOD he was not like those other men.. he felt he was a giving man and thought he was so much more righteous than the other people ..
yet the tax collector understood what he was.. a sinner saved by grace.. he never put himself up as more righteous than others..
paul was a very humble man himself.. oh wretched man that i am.. now if paul the good man that he was at that time and the walk he was walking called hisself a wretch ,wonder just what in the world we should call ourselves now? i dare not to think of mine hehe..
I don't think we are ever supposed to forget how wretched we are...even if we become like Paul, or Moses, or Joesph, or Daniel...we are still as filthy rags. Doesn't mean we can't be joyful and grateful that God has saved us. In fact, it might even remind us of it more often...
Hey Mark.....good words there bro.......Its not a sin to have joy.......or even enjoy earthly things.....god made everything,food, family, music ,laughter.....but lest we forget what we are,pride can rise up so fast,The disciples argued about who would be greatest in heaven,Christ said the least of you will be the greatest.....Hmmmm.....makes you think huh?Maybe the ones of us who realise how far from gods perfection we really are,and how much we miss the mark of gods glory are closer to the target.......but now I sound like one of the apostles.......Darn
Lord I pray that you humble this WRETCHED sinner even more so I have no confidence in myself but only in christ who died so i may have eternal life,and forgive my sins o lord,in Christs blessed name I pray
