Author	Thread: Friendship First ???
Admin	Friendship First ??? Posted : 23 Oct, 2009 04:38 PM I would like to hear your view on �Friendship First�. What does friendship between a man and a woman mean to YOU? Most of us state on our profile that we seek �friendship� first and how important it is to have that established in the relationship before exploring a deeper committed relationship. Ok, so then what doses �friendship first� look like to YOU? Is flirting appropriate between �friends�? Do you feel there is a time factor for the �friendship first� stage? How and when do you know to take the �friendship� to the next level? Basically, share what ever is on your heart regarding �friendship first�. Thank you for your input friend! :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 27 Oct, 2009 09:45 PM OK MicJ you really through me for a loop on that last post. You're saying flirting is a form of adultry?...That's a rough one. Just too much. But come to think of it its true. Since Jesus said Matt 5:28 "But I say unto you whomever looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultry with her in his heart." Never thought of flirting that way before. That smarts! Ok. Now it's really time for me to find that wife and get married.:laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 27 Oct, 2009 10:14 PM Flirting = adultry. Makes me think a little, but I am not going to worry about it too much. I think it's just about impossible for a single guy not to find himself lusting after a beautiful woman from time to time - no matter how much he tries to control it. No one is so spiritual that they are "never" going to do it. But on the otherhand it really is hard for me to see flirting as always being adultry. Of course if you think about it, as is indicated in Matt 5:28, there is an element of intent involved. So paying someone a compliment would not necessarily be flirting with a woman or lusting after her - although it often is. It depends on what's in a persons heart. But I have to be honest and say I have been guilty of the looking and flirting kind of lust a lot, but I'll bet I am a little more conscious of it now and do it less often. Hebrews 13:4 SAYS the marriage bed is undefiled. I am going to kick my search into high gear. If I'm not already talking to her on the phone (whomever she is) I am quite sure I will be soon. Man of faith? You bet. See if I'm not married in 6 months or less - may be even a lot less.:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 30 Oct, 2009 06:54 PM Hello Everyone, Great subject! I believe that the problem here is that many people do not say what they mean and do not mean what they say. For example: a person is dying to find their "soulmate" but put "just looking for a friend" because they do not want to seem desperate -- so they lie to themselves and tell themselves that the are looking for a friend first, where in reality at the first sign of acceptance they dive headfirst into the relationship. As for how long should a friendship be before becoming something more serious? It could be a week or a month or a yea, but there is nothing sweeter than the realization that the person you consider your best friend has become the person that you love (as long as the felling is mutual and that subject is for another forum). As for flirting with your friend...that is the sign that the friendship is moving towards something else and flirting is like aiming a loaded gun -- aim only if you intend to shoot! Post Reply

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