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Admin	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 17 Dec, 2014 04:02 PM Hey Usually I read someones profile and look at their pictures to determine whether I want to think of them in a romantic way and start talking to them with the intention of starting a relationship. One day, a random guy on here messaged me with his skype name and no other information. I was kind of interested and bored. I wasn't attracted to his pictures, but liked the description on his profile, so I thought I would give him a chance. I called him up on skype, and after about fifteen minutes of talking to him, listening to him make awkward jokes etc, I realised I REALLY wasn't interested in him. He asked a question about something, and I felt like I couldn't keep leading him on, so I told him I wasn't attracted to him. He got really offended, and started asking me about it. I didn't know what to say, so I said he wasn't my type. He then asked me what my type was, and I didn't know what to say. Then he accused me of being shallow, and wanting to go after a super model. Is it wrong to want to be with someone that you are attracted to mentally and physically? I gave him a chance. I don't think you should be pressured into talking to anyone. It's a waste of both people's time if one person doesn't see any potential there. He made it quite clear from the start he hadn't bothered reading my whole profile (back in the day it was quite descriptive) and was just interested in me because of the cute pictures I had posted of myself (better than the one I have up now). If he is allowed to seek me out because he found me physically attractive, then why is it shallow for me not to be interested for similar reasons? Besides not being physically attracted to him, he kept making inappropriate racist jokes and I found him a bit sleazy. What do you think? Post Reply
Strebe View Profile History	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 24 Dec, 2014 12:25 PM It is not wrong to tell them you are not attracted to them unless you lie to them and say that you are attracted then it is wrong to lie to them about it just tell him your not so interrested in him. Michelle Post Reply
fearnada98 View Profile History	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 27 Dec, 2014 04:25 PM Personally, I think it is wrong unless the guy is being obnoxious or rude. But generally, a girl can give the right signals that tell us guys she's just not interested, for whatever reason. It's just difficult sometimes because our friends tell us things like, Don't give up, be persistent, and eventually she'll start to like you. So we have these comments to deal with. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 29 Dec, 2014 01:20 PM Whenever you paid NO ATTENTION to anyone who drew near you, you were telling him (or her) that you were not attracted or drawn be. I don�t see that wrong, except you were hurting real and good intentions and bodily, our body language also speaks volumes... Like this: :boxing: Post Reply
algomaboy View Profile History	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 30 Dec, 2014 06:52 AM I like women who are fun to be with. She also has to know when to be serious. I am looking for a godly match, I let the ladies know right away. Honesty is the best way. Post Reply

lucy14 View Profile History	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 6 Jan, 2015 06:57 AM Hi , I was thinking I wonder if when Adam first saw Eve he was attracted to her I think YES. This is a very difficult one because I believe the attraction can initially draw us to someone , however, if its just the attraction that interests, then like my last marriage, pretty doomed. I worked with a guy once who initially didn't find amazingly attractive, but as time went on and saw what he was like eg sense of humour etc, he became more physically attractive to me. I suppose if a guy told me he didn't find me physically attractive it would then kill it deader than dead ! Rather this than think am in with a chance . Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 24 Feb, 2015 10:50 PM I never think it is wrong as long as you give humble words. Your words determine you, dont they? If yes, say yes. If no, say no. If you have tried as polite as you can, just leave them. One day they have to understand whether they are willing or not. Stay blessed :) Post Reply
RD63 View Profile History	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 26 Feb, 2015 09:47 PM You didn't do anything wrong by being honest and upfront. The fact that you didn't want to lead him on shows that you are sensitive to other's feelings. I encourage you though to find a way of breaking it off without offering a reason unless it is asked for a reason, that way if a person is offended the offense will be their own fault and result for asking. Post Reply
Keonikane View Profile History	Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't attracted to them? Posted : 3 Apr, 2015 09:09 PM To your basic question, no, it's definitely not wrong to say that you're not attracted to him. But at his questioning, maybe you should've been honest and tell him that you find his jokes offensive, after all that was one of the reasons, right? If his questioning continues, just say politely, "Sorry, I have to go now." Push the hang up button. Done! I wouldn't consider that rude due to his "interrogation" tactics that he was using. That, my friend, was rude. You have the right to remain silent! Hehe! I could just imagine what kind of relationship it could've been if you met him face to face at a secluded place. Maybe mark this as a lesson learned and next time say, "Sorry, I don't Skype on a first contact!" That's the internet way of saying that you don't kiss on the first date. Lol! Also, keep in mind that not all registrants here are real Christians. Anybody can say that they are and make a profile. Happy hunting! Post Reply