I am quite new to this site, but already I've run into a common question a few times.
I have let it be known on my profile that I am a Virgin, it sincerely is my pride and joy. I am 25 years old(i hear that's a substantial amount of time to be walking along this earth these days lol) and yet I get this question:
"Wow, you're a virgin? Have you ever had a boyfriend?"
o_O' *palm..to fricken..face* Why would you assume that being a Virgin means I've had no luck in the dating department? Have I missed something? LoL Is "is undatable" stamped on my forehead? If so, I'll be needing a scrub brush and the name of the one who stamped it without me knowing..darn ninja.. They and I, shall have worrrds.. WORDS I tell you!
Ahem, sorry for the vent lol. Anywho, am I the only Virgin who has been asked this question? =__='
Thank you, 1jon310. However, comparisons arent the reasons I have for only accepting a virgin.
First, I want someone who was raised in the faith, as I was, and had enough faith to abstain.
Second, I do not believe in being unequally yoked.
Both the first and second reasons mean a lack of "baggage".
Third, and a more secular reason unfortunately, is that while God can forgive almost every sin, being forgiven does not mean that past acts do not carry repercussions. Nearly 1 in 4 women have been exposed to an STD. Many of the STD's can cause other diseases (such as cancer), even if cured, and can also cause birth defects in children. Many women dont even know they are ill and have never received treatment.
Oh dear.. Moments like these are when I really hope that there's someone for every somebody lol.
It's fine to have a preference, perfectly fine, but it's perfectly fine to be realistic too lol. Wanting a virgin is beautiful, but expecting the person to not have history, not have a past, not have baggage. I'm sorry to say, but there are COUNTLESS of other ways that a woman can have baggage and still be a virgin, TRUST me! Haha!
I am a virgin and have had plenty of rough waters, and i'm just 25!! LoL That's life, who can say "come to me pure and without baggage". Pure, sure, baggage, honey.. it will come in one way or another. You can't grow and learn lessons without tests and trials. God even speaks of having us struggle, that means there will be trouble in paradise for every believe, darling.
I by no means am trying to tell you how to live or how to conduct yourself. You are cherished just as you are, just understand that it might be meant for you to cherish someone else who isn't as "put together" as you are. Always look for the Light. You do that, and you'll find where you're meant to be! Certainly lol ^_^
I haven't visited this website in awhile, because I have been busy. I am still busy. But I just stumbled onto here somehow and want to make a quick comment.
Jesus said in the Sermon on The Mount that men are not allowed to marry divorced women. (Matthew 5:32)
This is the only reason I can think of why I would want to know if someone is a virgin or not. It logically follows that if you are a virgin, then that means you haven't been married yet. :)
Of course, if I was a woman and someone new asked me whether I am a virgin or not, I would be insulted and disgusted. That would be my first reaction. I think it is much more polite to simply ask, "Have you ever been married?" and not worry about the rest.
There is a difference between have the "baggage" that everyday life hands you and having the baggage associated with a failed physical relationship. Psychologically, a physical relationship, whether married or unmarried, can create barriers. A physical relationship creates a profound component in a relationship which is why it is reserved for marriage. A violation of that component makes it that much more difficult to trust someone in another relationship.
A physical relationship, that is violated, especially especially outside of marriage can create a psychological wedge in a marriage. This cheats both parties out of having a truly close marriage.
Also, just so there is no misunderstanding. Any activity where there was sexual gratification is still sex. Bill Clinton was an idiot, a cheat, and a liar.
*I ask the "VIRGIN" question because I am a "VIRGIN" (saving s-e-x for MARRIAGE) and looking for a VIRTUOUS WOMAN to MARRY who holds the same BIBLICAL and MORAL VALUES...
*The HOLY BIBLE says: "�Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body... whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul... MARRIAGE is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge."
(1 Cor. 6:18, Pr. 6:32, Heb. 13:4)...
GOD command us to SAVE s-e-x FOR MARRIAGE because there is always a lost of purity, a lost of intimacy, a lost of trust and a lost of "marital bonding" that comes from past sexual sin as well as STD's, broken hearts, broken marriages, children out of wedlock, etc...
*(1 Thessalonians 4:1-8): "Furthermore then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us HOW YE OUGHT TO WALK TO PLEASE GOD, so ye would abound more and more. FOR YE KNOW WHAT COMMANDMENTS WE GAVE YOU BY THE LORD JESUS. For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, THAT YE SHOULD ABSTAIN FROM FORNICATION: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit."
Yet somehow---in our "culture" many young people are taught to believe the "LIE" that they can live s-e-x-u-a-l-l-y IMMORAL lives in their youth, ask for forgiveness as adults and suffer no consequences.
Others often CONFUSE the story in the book of HOSEA which is a METAPHOR for the RELATIONSHIP between GOD and ISRAEL's sins to justify s-e-x-u-a-l-l-y IMMORAL behavior... However, the HOSEA story IT IS NOT a "blueprint" for a GODLY MARRIAGE but rather a METAPHOR regarding GOD's GRACE... :angel:
*JESUS always addresses our SINS and we Reap what we SOW� Read: 2nd Samuel chapters 12-16---David repented of his sins and GOD spared his life, but the earthly consequences of David�s sins was great!
We are instructed to obey GOD's COMMANDMENTS and remain "VIRGINS until MARRIAGE" or REPENT, ask GOD for FORGIVENESS and "GO and SIN NO MORE"---if VIRGINITY has been lost... (READ: 1 Thes. 4:1-8 and John 8:11)
*The HOLY BIBLE says: (Leviticus 21:1, 7, 13-14): "And the LORD said unto Moses, SPEAK unto the priests the sons of Aaron, and SAY UNTO THEM... They shall not take a wife that is a w-h-o-r-e, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his God... And he shall TAKE A WIFE IN HER VIRGINITY. A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a VIRGIN of his own people to wife."
(Ephesians 5:3): "But FORNICATION, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, LET IT NOT BE ONCE NAMED AMONG YOU, as becometh saints..."
*BOTTOM LINE: The HOLY BIBLE teaches us to obey GOD's commandments and Save S-E-X for MARRIAGE: "VIRGINITY UNTIL MARRIAGE" or REPENT (if VIRGINITY was lost) and "GO and sin NO MORE"... :applause:
*The HOLY BIBLE says: (1 Corinthians 6:9-11): "KNOW YE NOT THAT THE UNRIGHTEOUS SHALL NOT INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD? BE NOT DECEIVED: NEITHER FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, NOR ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. AND SUCH WERE SOME OF YOU: BUT YE ARE WASHED, BUT YE ARE SANCTIFIED, BE YE ARE JUSTIFIED IN THE NAME OF THE LORD JESUS and by the Spirit of our God."
*I ask the "VIRGIN" question because I am a "VIRGIN" (saving s-e-x for MARRIAGE) and looking for a VIRTUOUS WOMAN to MARRY who holds the same BIBLICAL and MORAL VALUES...
*The HOLY BIBLE says: "�Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body... whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul... MARRIAGE is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge."
(1 Cor. 6:18, Pr. 6:32, Heb. 13:4)...
GOD command us to SAVE s-e-x FOR MARRIAGE because there is always a lost of purity, a lost of intimacy, a lost of trust and a lost of "marital bonding" that comes from past sexual sin as well as STD's, broken hearts, broken marriages, children out of wedlock, etc...
*(1 Thessalonians 4:1-8): "Furthermore then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us HOW YE OUGHT TO WALK TO PLEASE GOD, so ye would abound more and more. FOR YE KNOW WHAT COMMANDMENTS WE GAVE YOU BY THE LORD JESUS. For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, THAT YE SHOULD ABSTAIN FROM FORNICATION: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit."
Yet somehow---in our "culture" many young people are taught to believe the "LIE" that they can live s-e-x-u-a-l-l-y IMMORAL lives in their youth, ask for forgiveness as adults and suffer no consequences.
Others often CONFUSE the story in the book of HOSEA which is a METAPHOR for the RELATIONSHIP between GOD and ISRAEL's sins to justify s-e-x-u-a-l-l-y IMMORAL behavior... However, the HOSEA story IT IS NOT a "blueprint" for a GODLY MARRIAGE but rather a METAPHOR regarding GOD's GRACE... :angel:
*JESUS always addresses our SINS and we Reap what we SOW� Read: 2nd Samuel chapters 12-16---David repented of his sins and GOD spared his life, but the earthly consequences of David�s sins was great!
We are instructed to obey GOD's COMMANDMENTS and remain "VIRGINS until MARRIAGE" or REPENT, ask GOD for FORGIVENESS and "GO and SIN NO MORE"---if VIRGINITY has been lost... (READ: 1 Thes. 4:1-8 and John 8:11)
*The HOLY BIBLE says: (Leviticus 21:1, 7, 13-14): "And the LORD said unto Moses, SPEAK unto the priests the sons of Aaron, and SAY UNTO THEM... They shall not take a wife that is a w-h-o-r-e, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his God... And he shall TAKE A WIFE IN HER VIRGINITY. A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a VIRGIN of his own people to wife."
(Ephesians 5:3): "But FORNICATION, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, LET IT NOT BE ONCE NAMED AMONG YOU, as becometh saints..."
*BOTTOM LINE: The HOLY BIBLE teaches us to obey GOD's commandments and Save S-E-X for MARRIAGE: "VIRGINITY UNTIL MARRIAGE" or REPENT (if VIRGINITY was lost) and "GO and sin NO MORE"... :applause:
*The HOLY BIBLE says: (1 Corinthians 6:9-11): "KNOW YE NOT THAT THE UNRIGHTEOUS SHALL NOT INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD? BE NOT DECEIVED: NEITHER FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, NOR ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. AND SUCH WERE SOME OF YOU: BUT YE ARE WASHED, BUT YE ARE SANCTIFIED, BE YE ARE JUSTIFIED IN THE NAME OF THE LORD JESUS and by the Spirit of our God."
