Author	Thread: The reason I ignore messages from men I'm not interested in
CuddleBunny View Profile History	The reason I ignore messages from men I'm not interested in Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 03:39 PM Man: "I was wondering if you would llike to chat? I love you smile and enjoyed your profile. Let me know either way" Me: "No I will not. You're not the kind of man I am looking for. God Bless on your search. :)" Man: "wow, that was very rude, best of luck to you" This is to show the typical response of a man I have responded to to tell him I was not interested. Some guys go on to say how rude it is to ignore messages, and then these very guys get offended when you reply to them with rejection. The simple conclusion is, they think it's rude to not respond to them with interest. He said to let him know either way. Which means he wants to know whether I will like to chat or not. My response is: "no I will not". And to avoid another message from him asking why I wouldn't want to chat, I kindly give an explanation: "You're not the kind of man I am looking for". And to further being nice and not come off as mean, I go on to give him good wishes on finding the girl that WILL be interested in him: "God Bless on your search" After all that, I am still seen as rude. So, let's see: Reply to message with disinterest = rude or Ignore message = rude. Gee, which route should I choose??....I'd rather pick the latter where I am not wasting my time sending a message just so I can still end up as being "rude". So this really isn't a question. Just a little insight to why SOME women ignore messages that could maybe help you understand there is no need to get offended by a rejection. Don't think of it as that you are not the right kind of man, you're just not the right kind of man for that specific woman and there are plenty of other women who will appreciate you for who you are. :applause: Post Reply
CuddleBunny View Profile History	The reason I ignore messages from men I'm not interested in Posted : 14 Oct, 2011 09:48 PM Nkatty, I agree. Rejection sure isn't pleasant on both parts, but it happens, and we need to rise above that and realize God has made someone for each of us. "Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.'" -Genesis 2:18 �Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you." -Matthew 7:7 Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason I ignore messages from men I'm not interested in Posted : 15 Oct, 2011 05:15 AM I've used the site's generic "I don't think we're a good match" feature, and the response I got from one man shocked me to my core! Non-Christian men do not even talk to me like that in day-to-day life, let alone one who professes to be a Christian. Obviously, his response confirmed to me that he is 10000000000000% NOT the type of man I want in my life, it's still thoroughly put me off replying to men I'm not interested in. I appreciate that rejection hurts, which is why I (thought I) liked the site's response because it's a rather gracious decline. I can't quite fathom the cruelty of his response, and I completely understand where you're coming from, as it's made me a bit scared of responding to messages from men I'm not interested in. Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason I ignore messages from men I'm not interested in Posted : 15 Oct, 2011 07:58 AM "Are you saying men need to know why they are being rejected? What if the reason was because she thought he was unattractive? I can't think of any nice way to explain to someone that they are unattractive to me." Actually I wouldn't particularly need to know why. I would want to know when. Not sending is not a response. It could just mean you haven't been tending to your mail. Post Reply
CuddleBunny View Profile History	The reason I ignore messages from men I'm not interested in Posted : 15 Oct, 2011 10:29 AM Smili, I've been absolutely stunned by the things a few of these Christian or so-called Christian men say to me on here too. I'm sorry that happened to you :( jastay3, There is an option here to know whether or not your message has been read or not. I don't use this option because I don't care whether my mail has been read. I care for mail that has been replied to and not worry about my sent messages. If the message has been read and unreplied to for more than a few days, I think that is a huge sign that they are not going to be replying anytime soon (to put it lightly). Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason I ignore messages from men I'm not interested in Posted : 15 Oct, 2011 01:10 PM "I can't quite fathom the cruelty of his response" It's probably a collection of all the rejections that he couldn't keep bottled up inside anymore. You can only stuff it down and grin and bear it so much before it comes out in an ugly way. Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason I ignore messages from men I'm not interested in Posted : 15 Oct, 2011 01:42 PM I should say though that you and nkatty are right though. We should learn to take rejection well. Obviously it's something that gets me wound up and I have a hard time doing. Things will get better when I start going to ASU though, I think. Right now I live in a town (far from phoenix) where the guy to girl ratio is 20:1 and this site is even lower so it's not much to go on and gets frustrating at times. Post Reply

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