Author	Thread: Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them?
sweetsurprise View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 03:43 PM Call me old fashioned, but I thought that if you took the time to create a profile, that you might expect someone to read it. Usually there is so little information that I won't bother. It is like, he doesn't want to be known or even checked out. Then there are the guys that post what they are looking for in a girl in the ABOUT ME section of their profile. I just think that is funny. I think, are you not interesting enough to write about who you are? Then I'm not interested either. Just seems strange to me, that's all. I post a bunch of stuff now in my profile to ward off the guy who is separated or hasn't dealt with his divorce issues, so my profile is way to long!!! I just got tired of this type contacting me and not dealing with their stuff first. What do you think? Am I crazy to expect something in the spaces titled INTERESTS and ABOUT ME? Should it really be ABOUT ME or about what they want? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 05:24 PM Hello,, I think most guys are straight to the point & dont think to much about later on. But thats not good because later on is what counts. I am trying to do better,its not that i have anytging to hide i cant vouch for anyone eles but thats me. Hope this was helpful. Ken,,,:angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 05:52 PM I have to say that i agree what the other person said with men are waiting to see if a lady shows interest in them first. Ken Post Reply
sweetsurprise View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 08:25 PM Thank you Ken, I understand thinking about now, but IF a guy is serious about wanting to find a person to spend the rest of his life with (yes, I do realize that NOT all men are serious or want just one woman, but might be considered serial daters~ those are not who I'm asking about), it just seems like he would take the time to give enough info about himself that would draw that special person to him, instead of passing him by because he didn't bother to fill it out. I do appreciate your comment, since I am attempting to understand where guys are coming from. I just find myself in a quandary ~ passing up 'talking' with some guys that seem interesting, who contact me and yet do not provide enough info on their profile. I am always respectful, and will respond when written to, but I will ask questions to fill in the blanks (what they didn't say in the profile) and usually they don't answer much about themselves here either. Should I just put 1 or 2 words in my profile or talk about what I am looking for in a man instead of telling about me? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 10:32 PM I respond to a post about men who don't use enough words with twice or three times the words Ken uses and who gets the reponse? Lol....go figure ...:goofball: Post Reply
sweetsurprise View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 12 Jun, 2011 12:05 PM Thank you TwoSparrows, For responding and so sorry to have missed seeing your post. This seems a little of topic, but you bring up some good points. I agree to a point that men seem to communicate quite effectively with other men, as long as it doesn't go any deeper than who is playing what team or moving furniture. There does seem to be some unwritten rules there, that we women just don't get. There are a lot of dynamics concerning the miscommunication between women, most has to do with men or attempting to be the one that guy chooses. "This blame is typically assigned to him by the woman to cover up her inability to understand how men communicate. " I'm sorry, but usually it is because he DIDN'T communicate at all, not misunderstood. This is not all men, that would be unfair to say. I do a lot of married men who do attempt to be good communicators with their wives. For us as women, that IS huge, that he keep trying. "Rather than trying to understand how men communicate, they claim men cannot communicate as effectively as women, therefore should become more like women and communicate in the 'superior' feminine style." Nope, I do want a woman in a man's body. I just ask that communication be effective. "Effective communication does not equate to more words. Effective communication is best done with only the words needed, no more, no less." You are so right, just listen to our President, less words would be just as effective. But for communication to be effective, it must matter that they are understood. "Personally; I don't buy into the 'We need to all communicate as Women'. " Neither do I, that is why I have women friends ~ but I would hope my husband would want to be understood by me and that he would do what was needed to be effective in his communication. Thanks again, for sharing your thoughts. I do appreciate it. I am certainly shortening my profile, since most of it wasn't to really tell about me, as much to get a message out there for those that needed it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do guys write very little in their ABOUT ME section and then wonder why women are not interested in them? Posted : 14 Jun, 2011 12:54 PM Some guys go on & on about there self, & some don't its hard to get to know someone typing back & forth.But then again you have to get some kind of idea about what some one is about. Before going & meeting them, We live in a world of chance some people have put there self out there only to be shot down. But hey anyone can ask me what they wont i have nothing to hide. & yes i have been shot a time or 2 lol.Thanks Post Reply

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