Author	Thread: A Challenge
Tulip89 View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 06:40 PM I have a friend who ended up sitting near a pretty girl at church one week. They exchanged names during the meet and greet time, but didn't really talk much more than that. He decided that he liked her enough, so the next week when he saw her, he walked up on stage and said, something to the extent of "Hi, remember we met last week? Wanna go get coffee sometime?" What did she say? She said yes. Then, a year or so later, when he asked her to marry him, she said yes as well. One thing she has said since they started dating is that she was incredibly impressed by his boldness. If this plan can work for the two of them, it can work for another guy and another girl. My challenge to you is, the next time you meet a girl/woman at church who tickles your fancy, just be bold, walk up, and ask her out! Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 29 Apr, 2011 12:52 PM Totally agree bcpianogal, there is a difference. It can be a fine line between boldness and over confidence. As a guy I know it's not the easiest thing in the world to get up the confidence to ask a girl out, mostly out of fear of rejection. But if we let that fear keep us from taking a risk there is no reward an instead we're left thinking what if. And if we wait too long the window of opportunity closes and then it's not only what if by why didn't I. Women are very intuitive. I think it has a lot to do with the approach, if we ask a girl expecting to get shot down our timidity will show. Do not assume the answer will be no. If you do you will not ask confidently. Ask like you expect the answer to be yes, but as always guard your heart. Expect yes but determine ahead of time that you can accept no. The way you handle rejection can garner respect just as much as the boldness to ask. Remember the returned interest of a lady is not a right it is a blessing. And no now may not be no forever. Also agree that online is a different thing and requires a different approach. Where what would be appropriately bold in person can look eager and or desperate online. It's best to start out by either IM, email, or chat because the clues to what the person is like are different. You can't see a person's body language, expressions, tone, personality, or look them in the eye in written word. It takes more time to get a true sense of the person. Boldness online is expressed differently. I'm a believer that when you've reached a point where an online friendship seems to have potential to be something more and you are developing an interested. Say so, but like in person approach is important, you don't just out of the blue say let's meet but be open and honest and let her know you are becoming interested and you can feel her out a little by making some comments about how you really enjoy talking to her, and talk about things you have in common, you can build up to saying I like you or I'm interested in you. But if you don't get the ball rolling and and never imply that you are interested beyond friends she's not going to read your mind and just like in person if you don't take the risk you could be on the outside looking in wishing you'd have said something. Main thing is whether it's in person or online being bold demonstrates leadership on our part. And doing so respectfully shows gentleness and care. Sometimes it's what's not said that speaks the loudest. Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 29 Apr, 2011 01:36 PM MIKEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 29 Apr, 2011 01:47 PM Ridley, long time. *hugs* how have you been? Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 29 Apr, 2011 01:52 PM Gotta just love you! Post Reply

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