Author	Thread: Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl?
bcpianogal View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 10:29 AM Guys, what are your thoughts on asking a girl's parents for permission to marry their daughter? Is there a difference in asking for permission vs. asking for their blessing? Would it make a difference if she still lived at home with her parents as opposed to living on her own? Girls (since I know you'll put in your opinions anyway!), how do you feel about the whole asking permission/blessing issue? My motivation for asking comes from the fact that so many young people these days move out of their parents' home as soon as they finish high school, and many don't return before getting married. That sort of changes the dynamic of a dating relationship, since the parents aren't as actively involved as they were in generations past! I just wondered what you all think about the subject! Post Reply
Nkatty View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 04:47 PM Here...wen u want to marry ur gal...u get ur people(older men in ur family) an go to the gals parents to seek her hand in marriage...the blessins come after being given permission...plus one pays bride price in the form of animals/money...an this is after the gals pple agree to wat is to be given out....this practice is changin though...with guys optin to stay together...at times without the knowledge of the parents.. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 24 Mar, 2011 11:19 PM Well, I have mixed feelings on the subject. In theory, I believe that the concept is Biblical and that it protects the daughter/woman. In an ideal family, the parents are following the Lord and looking out for their daughter's best interest. In my own future family (that I hope to have), I would love for my future husband and I to be involved in our daughter's life in that way. That said, not every family is ideal. Some parents are unsaved. Some are abusive. Some children need to draw some definite boundary lines regarding how involved the parents will be in their love lives. In such situations, I'm honestly not sure what the protocol should be. Personally, I would be horrified if my hubby-to-be even approached my parents about the subject. But, my family situation is far from "normal." Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 29 Mar, 2011 11:46 AM It's not a big deal to me. As long as I have God's blessing, that's what matters. I would probably be talking to the potential wife about marriage before I would the parents, and then if the potential wife wants to pursue marriage, then I would let the parents know and then maybe ask for ideas about good ways to propose. Not all parents are favorable to Christians. Post Reply

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