Anybody know why men go poof! Praying about that again today, met a guy on here, who declared I'm his "Eve" etc., my position was, 1 step at a time, and willing to develop friendship & relationship. Calling/ texting my phone daily... Was coming to my State/City to spend 3 -4 days getting to know me and see where it goes...all the way up to Thursday am. From Thurs-PM to arrival time, then, not another word, text, email, etc. Been guarding my heart and keeping it before God the whole time.
But the thing that bothers me is: since he said he was interested and the more we shared seemed to like me more. So can you at least as a fellow human being, (not restricted to Christians, OK) have the courtesy & decency to say you're not coming! Plans, Preparations were being made (even the weather was absolutely beautiful for the events would /could have shared) and his arrival was anticipated...
I'm Ok, just puzzled and @ times Frustrated by this, can you guys help me & ladies understand this one?
Trusting God, said Ok :waving: in my release to God about it...thinking Lord, they must have been wrong for me/or just wrong?
Forgive my oops! I really did need some feedback from my post, and did not know to properly utilize this forum. Hid the post from my self accidentially. Pray for this Sista - forum skillZ! Thus my late replies to your thoughtful postings. Thanks EVERYone, yes, I read and considered them all. :hearts:
See my responses below.. ( I guess, unsure if it goes to each persons email box or how, lol really) God bless EACH of you for your kindness and reaching to your Sister!
@browneyedgirlky - You would think, that respect and the Golden Rule never changes whether business, personal, anywhere? AMEN! "When people show you who they are, believe them!" Glad "he showed me" early enough not to go ANY Further, Ok, thank You Jesus!
@BarefootGuyToLove - I know & truly understand that this happens to you guys too. and it's not just a gender 1. And I could be wrong, but think it happens a LOT more to the Ladies.... God bless you
@hoosiermike - Exactly, it is unacceptable with all the ways we were and can communicate. (He was texting me, calling me, and sent his flight reservations.. Has me working as Travel agent, looking at hotels, IT was HIS choice to come, that's why I almost RUN from long distance relationships... Unless you're a couple hours drive away, No Thanks! We have to seriosly consider what we're willing to invest/give up to obtain and enjoy what we "say" we want!
And yes, I chose to forgive and give to God and move ON to my healing and future. Yet beleiving the best, UNTIL a person shows me something different, and then, I send a note, saying, sorry we don't have enough in common, bid the person Godspeed.
@PEM4 - You're right Sis! Any or ALL of the above "could" apply. But the closet one from your obviously well-thought out answers... I chose #5! He was looking for a fling and found a lady!! And would like to submit another for your "list" LOL ; ) Since you're missing #10. He Just Showed You WHO HE WAS and God allowed me to SEE his True Character. AND #11. God blocked iT, Thus circumventing my heart being hurt after ALL the healing that has taken place from infidelity & divorce from a 27 yr marriage!
@Philippa28^ - Being the mature woman of God that I am, everything you said, was already actively present AND I was praying about each call, and message we exchanged. "God already knows where the relationship will go and whether this will be another POOF guy. (of course, he knows Everything, yet gives us a Free Will) "Possibly the guy was seeking to see whether you'd be a woman of not so strong faith?"
But, God is not going to do ALL the work for us, therefore we must, seek, pray, discern, listen, trust and obey what the Holy Spirit WILL reveal and direct us to do! What I didn't say is that, I was proceeding with caution and not fully opening myself up to him, even with ALL the, "promises" he made, that I will not list.
Exactly! AND He found that to be true and we ALL must be careful of how we handle one another.
God said, "touch not my anointed and do my prophets no harm" that He will "bless those that bless me"....as far as I'm concerned that applies here too.
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Note to ALL, yes, I was drawn to him, but NOT IN love with Him. AND I had met him on another Site, he did the "Poof" (maybe this is a new name for the condition, lol). I had been a member of CDFF for @ least a year, then met him again oh here.
My FINAL conclusion and acceptance, via the Holy Spirit: He Just Showed You WHO HE WAS and God allowed me to SEE his True Character. :prayingf: Learned Yet another Lesson on Recognizing Those Who are Not For Me, AND Blocked Him Coming any closer to me. (HE STILL Works ALL out for our highest good). :peace: Thus circumventing my heart being hurt after ALL the healing that has taken place from ! :yay:
