Author	Thread: A case of cold feet?
Sweetpea83 View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 14 Feb, 2011 08:20 AM Hi, I've been a part of this site for over a year and in August 2010 met a great guy on here. In October 2010 we started dating and things were going great. We have a lot in common, communicate well and felt the relationship with stable and healthy. In fact, my boyfriend started saying," I love you" and talked about marriage. We even looked at engagement rings last month and were planning to get engaged in April/May of this year. This morning, out of the blue, he called me and broke up with me. I am completely in shock! I asked him why he was breaking up with me and he replied that he doesn't know who he is or what he wants out of life anymore. I think he has a case of cold feet as we were getting closer to being engaged. Advice or thoughts appreciated. Thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 05:07 PM Hello Sweetpea! :waving: A couple of books you might find interesting are "Wild at Heart" and "Captivating". "Wild at Heart" describes some of the reasons men think the way they do, and "Captivating" does the same for women. I think it'd do all of us a favor if we'd all read both. The authors are a married couple and they back their opinions up with scripture. Either way, communication seems to be an issue with your ex and I believe that to be an integral part of any relationship. Gomer, I'm really sorry if I'm misreading your post here, but my perception of your post is that you are still hurting. I think you would do well to read the books I mentioned too. I don't know where you got your statistics and it really doesn't matter, but perhaps those 70% of women filed for divorce for reasons unknown to us? I don't think it's right of us to assume it was just because they got bored in their marriage. For all we know, their divorces could have been for Biblical reasons, or maybe they didn't end in divorce at all? Just something to consider... Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 06:15 PM Sweetpea, don't call him, don't go to see him, don't write him, don't text him, let him miss you, if he doesn't miss you, you don't want him anyway. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 06:21 PM yep, i think he's right Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 06:29 PM I agree with Two. If it's meant to be and he starts missing you, it shoudn't take long for him to come around. chevy Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 06:31 PM and he wont wait for the machine to answer the phone? (chevy) Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 06:32 PM Gomer, I just went back and read your post...awesome post, .....I cannot even begin to count how many guys I know that what you describe actually happened to. Come to think of it I can't think of any women that happened to, nor have I met a woman that will admit that what you describe is the norm. If I wasn't a Christian, I would never even consider marriage! Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 06:52 PM Ok guys, help me out, what am I not getting? Seriously, I don't know any women that have left their husbands just because they got bored. Sincerely, T Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 06:53 PM that's why its important to put God first. I can understand that women gete bored. couples get comfortable with each other and instead of being best friends, they find other interests that they can do with their friends. Unresolved conflicts drive wedges in relationships and if not careful, the devil comes in like a flood. I know of several marriages where they "grew apart" and filed for divorce...but on the other hand i know friends that have solid marriages. We cannot base our fear of commitment on others and especially if their in the "world" To be honest, the men I've been out with the last year are sooo worldy that I cant tell the difference between them and someone who is not even a believer. the hard part is finding someone who is equally yoked and wants to do something for God...everyone is wrapped up in make money and burning with desire...yah i said it. :waving: it takes three to make a marriage work (including God) and it takes 2 to tear it up. i dont wanna give the enemy any credit. Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 07:03 PM TS, I think there is an onslaught of women's lib demons that infiltrated the minds of many women thanks to Gloria Steinem and Jane Fonda type, liberals. Then we have TV shows like the housewives, sex and the city, married with children and ad nauseum to that list. Women sang "I am woman hear me roar, when that itself is no the sound of a woman, anyway. :rolleyes: But...I have met way too many Christian and non-Christian men that destroy the woman's trust with his secret life with a computer, flirting at work, going out without his ring and thinking that his sex quota not being filled is reason enough to play around and justify it. That divorce thing was a big problem of Jesus' day and the Jewish men seeking divorces over the lamest things. Jesus addressed it because of their hard hearts and shallow desires. A lot of men want their wife to look like a sexy diva and make her feel insecure when he sees a babe and has wandering eyes. It's a two way street and I can honestly say I did NOT want my divorce...but he made it very easy with his repeated infidelity and his friends were asking what his problem was because they said they would come visit his hot wife he was gone all the time. I had to refuse phone call and personal propositions from his so-called friends. Men and women, equally are dropping the marriage vows like it was some cheesy phrase that meant nothing. Post Reply
View Profile History	A case of cold feet? Posted : 16 Feb, 2011 07:08 PM P.S. I filed because he was too caught up into running the roads with other women and coming home to expect me to sleep with him. STDs and all! Some women file because they are sick of other things besides shallow things like Gomer said, so I would not look at that 70 per cent as all vanity reasons. Unfaithfulness, pornography issues, alcohol, drugs, rage, physical abuse, bi-polar, bi-sexual and perverted sex requests like swinging are some reasons for divorce, too. Post Reply

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