Author	Thread: OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!!
Admin	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 4 Feb, 2011 12:07 PM Have been on this site for several months ~ closer to a year than not. I have deleted, come back, removed, rewritten my profile many times over ~ changed out pictures. All this just to keep things fresh and up to date. I am now wondering what I might or should do to encourage more participation with kind "gentlemen" who "look" but do not see. I have over 25-pages of "views" ... at last count, I believe; however, it appears that there are few conversations with me. I have made my profile shorter ~ thinking that might be the culprit; I have narrowed it down ~ I have softened the edges and not been as "in your face"...but thus far, nothing really is working here. So...I am at a real crossroads as to whether or not I am going to just shut my profile down for good and forget about it. I would seek your advice in perhaps giving me some pointers regarding this...I know this is lengthy. Please bear with me... Please be honest ~ to the point ~ sincere ~ and mindful that this is a Christian Site and there are ways to respond that are still in tune with the subject matter in this topic. Thanks for your input and consideration!! God Bless us, every one!! Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 06:49 AM Why apologize for answering the question I posed as the originator of this thread? I posed this question/topic here ~ but have not meant to discriminate that it is only open for men to respond. It is open discussion for anyone. I did not differentiate. All responses are accepted as valid. Since I write ~ perhaps it is that writer-instinct which causes me to be rather lengthy in responses. Case in point ~ responses here to the variant of responses to me. I have shortened the profile to a mere two paragraphs in the past...and responses to that switch? NONE. It made no difference. No matter which road I take, the response is quite the same. I received a note (note ~? ... more like a Manifesto)... from someone at this site and it was loaded with nothing but "links" regarding Bibical verses/videos (UTube, included) for me to "go to". It was longer than my profile with information that I was to "read", apparently. It would have taken me a week to sit down and sort all that out. I was NOT impressed with that and simply deleted it. There was no message from the person; rather, just all the gobblygook. I did manage to write him back and tell him that I would not be spending the time to go to all those links to get whatever message(s) he was sending my way. Delete, delete. Yes, I can be wordy. However, I have read other "wordy" profiles...and have actually "finished" reading them. Some have been quite humorous. I can appreciate their efforts. Having said this, and, hoping your eyes have not glazed over and your head thrown back ~ suffice it to say that ~ in all honesty ~ I have tried shorter versions ~ to no avail. Longer ~ to no avail. Which brings me back to the starting point: I must be doing something wrong. :zzzz: Perhaps I just need to give up. Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 01:16 PM Be active on the chat forums here. get to know people. Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 02:44 PM ... and, that is exactly what I have decided to do. And, thanks for that info. Much appreciated. Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 02:54 PM Saundra, What is God telling you? Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 02:57 PM To answer you ~ I am not certain at this point. I continue to pray about it ~ but there is no clear answer at this time. I do, as I mentioned in my profile ~ pray about everything. Sometimes, those answers do not come in our time; but in GOD's time. I continue to wait upon HIM. Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 14 Feb, 2011 10:44 AM Your concern is not unique. Many many people feel the same way. It is one of the reasons why I am starting a new sermon series on March 11th. I think you would definitely benefit from it. Check out the promo video for it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9MJQxOzuMHw Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 20 Feb, 2011 01:58 PM I have gone over some of the pages listed in the Chat Forum and there is so much information ~ it amazes me. One person thinks things should be this way; another ~ that way. And, so on and so on. There is no perfect answer. One might think a profile is too long ~ another too short. Since we are all different ~ I would imagine that if I changed the profile to suit those thinking it should be shorter, someone would come along and state how it is not giving enough information. The fact of the matter is ~ I try and be as honest as the day is long. Too much, too little ~ who is to define it to be exact? We are all here for similar reasons and wish each other well. As for me ~ quite honestly ~ I have really given up at this point. Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 20 Feb, 2011 05:40 PM I looked at your profile and I don't think you are doing anything wrong. If you find that you are interested in someone, you can always send them a wink or an email to get the communication ball rolling. It's hard at first, but sometimes guys are just as shy and afraid of rejection as we are. If you reach out to them you have nothing to lose and you may have everything to gain. :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 09:31 PM You come across as being alone & very needy. You are looking for a fairy tale romance & Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet. Men like an independent woman that doesn't need a man but rather wants a man! Remove the "Glamour Shots" type pics & replace with "real" ones. BTW, you are a very pretty lady. Real women don't always have perfect hair & make-up. You appear to be too high-maintenance. Never speak about an ex! Especially at first contact with someone. It shows you still have "baggage" from that relationship. I know I sound a little abrasive, but you wanted an honest opinion. I have had to learn some of those lessons along the way too. Good luck & may you find Mr. Right that GOD chooses for you. Pray for guidance & understanding. HE hears the desires of your heart. Please keep me posted on your successes. DCR70 Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 05:59 AM Oh my! I have to honestly laugh at your thoughts regarding the photos I have placed at my profile page. Every one of them was taken with a cellphone ~ not one is a "glamour" shot ~ and some were taken while driving in a car. How unglamorous is that? As a matter of fact ~ I don't really see a hair in place. Further ~ I change out the pictures simply because I feel like it. Thank you for your input. I have to honestly disagree with you, however ~ as a professional person ~ the least of my concerns is finding that perfect gentleman. One of the first things I state is that I am not perfect and do not seek perfection in others. You are so off the mark when it comes to deciding that I am a high-maintenance person. To me ~ high-maintenance means someone who requires much in the way of "funding" ~ ie ~ jewels ~ clothing ~ etc. I have been known to make a $.99 cent dress look like it cost $100.00 ~ and have done so. I know what it is to be poor ~ have actually dug sassafras roots along side railroad tracks for tea ~ and have picked up pop bottles along side roadways to make ends meet. Been there ~ done that. We all have had to deal with one sort of heartbreak or another ~ but to be accused of high-maintenance is quite frankly ~ not even in my dictionary of life. I continue to sort out and make changes to my profile; one thing I have discovered: one person cannot continue to roll over for the decisions of others. Not one person can definitely please everyone. One prefers a blue dress ~ another prefers green. It is all in taste. One prefers blondes ~ another ~ redheads. As with all things ~ personal preference rules. Thank you for the compliment regarding my appearance ~ only after I was chided for being high-maintenance. [grin]. Wishing you well and success in finding that special someone in your life. And, soon. Not a single photograph on my profile is in any way professional; rather ~ a quick click and a smile. And, BTW ~ not once have I mentioned a previous spouse or anything to do with a marriage of mine. Obviously ~ you did not really read the profile but merely glanced at what you thought you read. God Bless. Post Reply

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