Author	Thread: A Little Friendly Advise Please
Admin	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 24 Jan, 2011 10:40 PM I wasn't sure where to post this. There is a member on this site I am very much interested in communicating with. On one site her profile states she is available and is "so ready and excited to meet "THE ONE" that was created just for me, and I just for him... Bring him on!!!" On this site she says she has met a "wonderful Christian man." I messaged her from the other site and she told me that although she has met someone, they are still getting to know each other but she was always willing to meet and make new friends. My father always tells me if you have to ask, it's wrong; but nevertheles I still have to ask -- would I be overstepping my boundaries by asking to exchange messages with her? Her profile mirrors mine almost exactly and apparently it's alright with her, although I'm not sure about the other gentleman she is corresponding with. I have sent her a couple more messages but have yet to receive a response so maybe this question is moot. Any thoughts?
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 27 Jan, 2011 05:51 PM Is this just online stuff, or you and ed have been associating with each other in person, even with the far away distance?
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 27 Jan, 2011 05:58 PM All I have to say is, at least he has good taste(to a point), but yes--Saved and I have spent time together in person and are very much a couple. Thank you folks for all of your responses and not making a big deal out of it. God bless you.
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 27 Jan, 2011 06:05 PM oh yeah, I remember you two had topic while back, weren't you guys getting married this year? Harrison, Ar?? I had online stalker from there, sounds like nice landscape though :laugh:
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 27 Jan, 2011 07:48 PM Hi Loony, Yes, edw and I were planing on getting married this August. Turns out the apartment complex he rents from won't let him sublet for whatever reason... So we are trusting God, we decided while he's there to make the best of it and finish another school semester there. Our new plan is that he'll move here to CA permanently this summer and if financially stable we'll still get married in August. If not, then next August. Really we're leaving it in Gods hands as there is no better hands to leave it in than Gods hands. Amen? Amen! Thanks for inquiring Looney, that was nice you remembered. Blessings, saved3
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 28 Jan, 2011 07:06 AM Skeeter must not have liked all this marriage talk!:excited: Are we all invited to the wedding, Saved? chevy
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 28 Jan, 2011 12:47 PM YES! All are invited! The more the merrier! The marriage with the married couple will be much merrier too! Maybe we can take up a collection for Disneyland tickets, lol!
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 28 Jan, 2011 03:23 PM COOL! If I don't get a speeding ticket on my way to book a plane ticket, I'll gladly donate to Disneyland tickets. :ROFL:chevy
SilverFire View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 28 Jan, 2011 06:08 PM Well, when all else fails, let's post private emails on a public board. Somehow, I don't think that's considering our brothers and sisters more than ourselves. Why couldn't Edw have messaged the guy and taken care of it privately? If you felt wronged, why didn't you turn the other cheek? I guess it's more important to hit back than to love one another. *sigh* Things like this are why the world looks at us as Christians and says, "No thanks."
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 28 Jan, 2011 06:44 PM I agree with SilverFire. (There's also the fact that message Skeeter sent has obviously been edited v. just copied/pasted.) Also, if was an honest misunderstanding: 1. You forgot you had the profile on POF. 2. You recalled that you had the profile after you got an alert that you had a message. 3. You responded to Skeeter in a way that you felt was clear, but that, for whatever reason, was not clear. 4. You then hop onto CDFF and notice that Skeeter has misunderstood you. If all of that is true, then why not just apologize and go edit (or delete!) that POF profile? Something such as: "I'm really sorry for the misunderstanding. I thought I had communicated clearly that I'm engaged to be married and therefore not available. To eliminate any future confusion, I've deleted the POF profile. I apologize again for the inconvenience. Thanks for understanding." What's the purpose in humiliating Skeeter and then STILL not going into POF to edit/delete the profile? You have to admit that, whether or not it was intentional, there is a level of duplicity in all of this. Your POF profile markets yourself as available and looking for a relationship, while on CDFF you're stating that you're engaged. It's rather unlikely that both are true. I can understand why Skeeter would be unclear as to your relationship status. How can someone know what to believe here? If, in fact, you have a very open relationship with edw where you're both free to pursue other people during the engagement, then my opinion is that you should state that on your profile, because other guys might not be okay with getting involved with an engaged woman, even if you and edw are okay with that between the two of you. That was part of Skeeter's question here: wondering if it was okay to pursue you in light of the fact that you were getting to know someone else, but still marketing yourself. I would hope that your desire would be to make the situation right by taking what steps you can to avoid misleading people. You may have been unaware of the possibility of misleading people through your POF profile... But, now you are aware and you're empowered to make a change.
View Profile History	A Little Friendly Advise Please Posted : 28 Jan, 2011 10:00 PM Pixy, it's none of my business, but since we are getting into other people's business on this thread, are you in a bad mood today? Concerned with love, T

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