Author	Thread: Support your wife financially
Ferngirl View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 03:14 AM Why do men these days think a woman should go out to work and support herself financially? I think if they want to marry us, then they should be prepared to take care of us financially. Maybe old fashioned, but when we're @home, we clean, cook, sew, mend, create and if we have to go out and work, we don't have the time, to make the home nice and cook good, proper meals and be attentive and devoted. I'll be interested to see men's reply's to this Q! So far I have been blessed and found men to care for me in past relationships, but I do see there's a lot who say - wanted - independant woman! Some of just want to be an old fashioned wife at home n be some ones babygirl and betaken care of. I also know I will be challenged by career women on this who would say - don't you want to do something for yourself- to put it simply - NO! I just want to be a wife - simple as that! Post Reply
View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 10:04 AM Ferngirl Sorry, I'm having a little trouble with some of your wording. I'm sorry you had some violent relationships. But there is a huge difference between being treated violently, treated normally and being pampered. I guess the way I am reading your post is that you are wanting the pampering, which I am hearing as being spoiled, which translates in my mind as taking advantage of the financial support a husband offers. I guess that is why I asked for the clarification. I fully support the idea of a wife that is doing some kind of non profit work, the idea being that the husbands income provides that opportunity. I think that is great! Um, you might not "do class", but its a reality. There is a widening economic gap between the classes. There is such a thing as middle income jobs, jobs that are more blue collar that do not require a college education. Those jobs have disappeared or pay a lot lower now than say in the 50's. You may not like it but that doesn't mean it doesn' exist. The point is that with that reality, it is harder to have a one income family. I also don't think anyone so far has been saying they "expect women to work". There is a slight bias there in the wording that makes it sound like men are task masters. I think it is better said men don't have a problem with wfes working and in a lot of cases just to survive it may well be necessary. Post Reply
View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 10:06 AM Fern, My opinion on this is I would LOVE to have a wife at home waiting on me with a home-cooked meal, new sheets on the bed,etc. In most cases, however, it's not that simple. You said --- if you love her enough you shouldn't expect her to work physically. I disagree with that statement; but I will politely exit this discussion. Don't want to victimize you. chevy:waving: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 10:16 AM I just have to remind everyone that keeping house, raising kids, doing laundry, cooking, etc....it's all physical labor!!! Far more physically taxing than my current job where I sit at a desk playing on CDFF and Facebook, then hop up and walk 20 feet to the next office where I sit on a piano bench for 15-30 minutes, then walk up some stairs and sit at another piano bench and teach a piano class for 50 minutes, then walk back to my office to sit some more, then repeat the pattern another couple times before I leave for the day! Post Reply
View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 11:33 AM Ferngirl, On this post, I have been respectfully silent, (your welcome). That was until you started the "name calling" again, 2 on this post and 10+ on the other post. The " I'm a new christian" is no excuse, even a non-christian second grader knows better than to call names. Here is what you prefaced your "sincere" prayer with : (13 Jan, 2011 10:04 AM)" Give it a rest everyone from now! I would NEVER wish to create disharmony. Therefore I intercede as I ask......" Ummm... what are you doing now? I am not even on this thread. I tried to inform you yesterday that "it is delusional to think you can write whatever you want and expect no comments". Apparently you don't accept that statement as truth. (Isnt funny how certain things come back around until we accept them). Which brings me to this: I am going to give you a gift that few have the courage to do. You say you have been in 5 violent relationships. Isn't that kinda like a woman that gets pregnant 5 times and can't figure out what is causing it? I sense you as a woman who lives in her own alternate reality and if others do not conform to it they get blasted. The truth is these people move on and you are still stuck with your self, in the end it hurts you far worse than it does others. I know if you ask God, He will give you the Spirit that will guide you into all truth, and release you from this vicious cycle. Btw, I hold nothing against you and will be on my prayers as you are brought to mind. Post Reply
View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 12:03 PM I don't think men these days think a woman should go out and support herself financially. I think most would prefer their wife enjoy the luxury of being able to stay at home, but in many cases, in order to have a home to go home to, she has to work and help keep food on the table for her family. If a woman wants to be 'someones baby girl'-- stay at home, "being creative"-- then perhaps she should move back in with her parents. Maybe you need to add-MUST BE RICH--- to your list of whant you want in a mate. Seriously dear, if you plan to open a mission and orphanage, I don't think you'll have time to be home waiting on hubby to get off work. God Bless You, Deborah Post Reply
View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 12:03 PM I don't think men these days think a woman should go out and support herself financially. I think most would prefer their wife enjoy the luxury of being able to stay at home, but in many cases, in order to have a home to go home to, she has to work and help keep food on the table for her family. If a woman wants to be 'someones baby girl'-- stay at home, "being creative"-- then perhaps she should move back in with her parents. Maybe you need to add-MUST BE RICH--- to your list of whant you want in a mate. Seriously dear, if you plan to open a mission and orphanage, I don't think you'll have time to be home waiting on hubby to get off work. God Bless You, Deborah Post Reply
stegoodie View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 01:50 PM If the time ever comes that I get married, I would hope that my wife would want want to contribute to the overall stability, functionality, and happiness of our home in some way. This by no means would be sitting around the house all day waiting for me to get home and "pamper" (in my mind aka "spoil") her. So there may be laundry, cleaning, yardwork, taxes, etc to be done but I see no reason why I couldn't do some of that. In my mind, marriage is a very intricate partnership and thus responsibilities are divided up according to their value, the skills of each person, and the load each party can take. If my wife wanted to be a homemaker, that would be fine but I would hope she'd be willing to work outside the home until the point we were financially secure enough to have kids and then by all means, stay home. But along with that, I would also hope she would understand that as the kids got older, they become more autonomous and thus she needs to be home less to support them and can go back to working to provide for the home in other ways. Personally, I'd rather see both people in a marriage work and both take ownership and interest in building a home so both are equally invested. Post Reply
Ferngirl View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 02:16 PM @stegoodie I don't think you could even begin to imagine the life I have lived though and over come - no disrespectmeant and the lady above yes indeed 'be someone's babygirl'. With respect to you as well, you are an old lady and not exactly young like me and in modern terms, men refer to as in terms liek 'Hey babygirl' It means someone's boo, beau,love, darling, partner etc, it's ajust a term not that I wish to be a baby and go back home and no I wouldnt add rich to my list my dear as I trust God to provide in all area's of my life. I'm not that shallow, I just talk straight and 2 sparrows -don't talk to me - I don't like you! I told you yesterday I have no desire for your personal input on my private life, I listen only to my God and Pastor so get down off your high horse and back away from me! You're a very rude man! Post Reply
View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 02:42 PM Ferngirl @ 56 isn't what most people consider an old lady. 39 is by no means a spring chicken either. You have called twosparrows rude;;;;;;; I think you have been rude too. The baby christian excuse is no reason you should not be told the Truth. And these forums are OPEN discussions--- if you only want nice little comments of ' Yes, you're right poor thing" I'd advise you don't ask folks for their opinion. God Bless, Deborah Post Reply
View Profile History	Support your wife financially Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 02:44 PM FernGirl Shared ~ you are an old lady and not exactly young like me. Excuse me...but didnt your Ma Ma teach you to Respect your Elders ? Wether they be Men or Women ??? Out of Respect you can at the very lest address her as an Elder Women...which BTW has much more Life Experiance being a Christian women of GOD & Walking with the LORD Christ Jesus... Ifin you do not want dirrection, guidance, suggestions or are offended by someones share, advice, opinions on this site...then if may ask...What are you here for ??? Post Reply

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