Author	Thread: Why do you disappear?
aporia View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 11:05 AM I'm just curious from a man's perspective - I've been finding the men I date online for years, usually on secular sites and was super happy to find this one because finding someone of a similar faith is the number one pre-requisite in my book. I'm running into a new situation that seems to be becoming a trend. You email back and forth many times with someone that seems genuinely interested in getting to know you and then they just stop. I guess in past experience and with me personally, I have always emailed men I'm conversing with to let them know if I have met someone else and vice versa, wish them luck and say goodbye. So, if you have pulled the disappearing act, why did you do? Thanks in advance for your answers! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 28 Dec, 2010 02:49 PM I have noticed this on secular sites and I usually wrote it off to the fact they were on a free trial and it ended and they decided not to pay to continue, or their account expired and didn't renew it. I know I go through phases where I get tired of tryiing the online thing. Here especially I get tired of being contacted by spammers or women from a certain country. Or just the fact that what I am looking for is really limiting and there just are not many never married 40 somethings, which means I get discouraged. So I could see how I or others would be tempted to just stop using a site. As others have said, maybe sometimes one person is just not interested enough to keep going but they don't quite know how to tell the other. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 28 Dec, 2010 03:36 PM Update, creepy guy wouldn't leave her alone, so she left the site. For some reason the final message she sent me through this site didn't make it to me, but now we are corresponding through personal email. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 28 Dec, 2010 05:24 PM Sometimes you just have tried everything you can try and there's no hope in continuing. You just don't have the willpower to type out one more message. Men can reach this state after trying really hard and not feeling like there's a connection. Post Reply
shepherdingking View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 01:05 PM You do not build a house in a day. Men need some brake time for God to speak on how to proceed or not. You can read "Men are from Mars Women are from Venus" that says men are like rubber bands that get stretched out emotionally by the woman. And after being stretched he needs his "Cave" time to recover and be ready for the woman's next emotional stretch session. :ROFL: :dancingp: :dancingp: Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 01:27 PM i have totally given up finding a special someone on these sites! now, i just enjoy my many special friends in the chat rooms and forums! Post Reply
aporia View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 04:54 PM Lol, ok, for all the lazy men out there that find it unbearable to type another word here is something for you to copy paste and send in your emails: Dear (insert name here), It was nice to correspond with you, however I'm just not feeling a connection and would like to wish you the best in your search. God Bless, (your name here) :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 06:13 PM aporia, :ROFL: The only problem with that it is so finite, so finished, so done. There is no changing your mind later saying "Hope you missed me as much as I missed you. I pushed a grandmother and her infant grandaughter out of the path of a speeding bus, they are fine but I just got out of the hospital. So what have you been up to?" Sometimes it is hard to let go and even harder to burn a bridge. You want some real honesty?.... ....I can see alot of men being real interested in you. Yet if I remember correctly you have acouple of teenage boys? There is a great gal who lives 15 minutes from my house, she likes me and I like her. She loves horses and is the head vet tech at a horse clinic. She is a petite red head with brown eyes and a sense of humor. What's not to like?.... BUT she has spoiled her teenage son, and the dad is still involved in his life and is not a Christian and from what I have seen a jerk. So imagine we get together, my dogs and horses behave better than him. What kind of home do you think we would have? ....I'll tell you; world war three, a mother and wife that wouldn't back me up, a step son that wouldn't listen and a farther undermining me every step. No Thank You! my two cents; unless you are a exceptional woman with exceptional teenage sons and a exceptional ex, then I would concentrate on raising your boys first, unless you meet a exceptional man. Please forgive me if you feel I over stepped my bounds, everyone has a opinion, and sometimes I am to quick to share mine = ) Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 09:52 PM apo: Why don't women sent out a similar message to a man she's not interested in? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 11:02 PM To:Aporia,why,i do'nt know.Maybe those that you contact,maybe the ones that are the shy ones,i mean who guy out there would ignore a beautiful woman? :winksmile:Seriously,just as you girls who do it to us (ie messing us a long time & you ladies like messing once a day,you ladies should do the same in return to our messages.That way,the messages do'nt end up looking boring or it apppears that you sort of in "need of a man"right now.That can run off some guys who like to take it slow,just like you ladies. Post Reply
aporia View Profile History	Why do you disappear? Posted : 30 Dec, 2010 12:22 AM twosparrows - Shoot, I have the "no call in 3 days, # delete" rule :) my boys are AWESOME and the guys that have met them think so and go out of their way to tell me without being prompted. My ex is a non-issue as he doesn't even know where we live or have our contact info. He's certifiably insane and doesn't remember he was ever married or has kids most of the time . . . looooooooooong story. I raised my boys without a dad and they are old enough now not to cling on to a man wanting a father figure, but young enough to appreciate that kind of connection. rainbowian- I do write such a thing if I'm in a back and forth email conversing situation, it's the polite thing to do. I am bad and don't always reply to every initial email I get, but really I can't make online chatting take up as much time as a part-time job, can you? mmwiseguy- I've only initiated contact twice in my entire life because I REALLY wanted to meet them, I do believe that a man has that innate need to pursue and loses interest without, however silly it is. :dancingp: sorry, just love that dancing pickle! Post Reply

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