Author	Thread: sex before marriage..need help!
Admin	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 22 Nov, 2010 09:56 AM This may be a silly question but I would love a Christian man's perspective on this. I have been divorced for ten years and even though my college days were a little wild, I choose six years ago to save myself for marriage. For some reason I attract the men who say they admire that I'm willing to wait, but then imply that they want to sleep with me. Are there really men out there that are wanting to wait and put God first? Or am I looking at being single for the rest of my life? Honesty is highly appreciated. Thank you and God Bless, Dawn Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 12:27 AM so, is that really how it is? Women get upset if you don't sleep with them and feel rejected? I honestly never looked at it from a mans point of veiw untill this post. Doesn't seem like a man or woman thing anymore. It's a human thing:prayingm: Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 04:05 AM Joyfulsmile,you REALLY WAITED THAT LONG?AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!:applause::applause::applause::applause: CONGRATS !!!!!!!!!:applause::applause::glow::glow:!!!!! I will like to also say that it does happen in both genders.Also,any man that comes to you with that area in life & supposed to be a Christian,then you KNOW WHERE HIS FAITH STANDS.I know,it's one thing to hear people saying their a Christian & still end up doing another.I's nice to meet ya,by the way.:waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 09:04 AM it's nice to meet you too. Thank you so much for taking your time to respond. I completely agree with you about a Christians walk and talk being the same. Thankyou for your applause:applause:, but the truth is though, all Glory goes God. Have a wonderful day full of blessings:glow:. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 12:22 PM Here's my theory. They're afraid that if they don't express an interest in sex, she will put him in the dreaded "just friends" category. There are some men out there that are wanting to wait. I wish you good luck friend.:peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 01:02 PM Really, six years? wow!! That's great. I really think that is a great thing. You make it sound like you might have to be single for the rest of your life because guys you've talked to or dated said they repect that about you and then indicate they want to sleep with you. So you break up with them if they indicate that they want to sleep with you? I don't understand why you would do this. I could understand if it's a constant persistant thing from the guy and he's really just not willing to wait until marriage. But if you're saying NO and he's stopping and saying 'you're right, I don't know what I was thinking, sorry' thats different isn't it? I would think that after a few times of wanting to go there and you not allowing it, that he would feel even closer to you and have a greater respect for you. But like I said, if it's just a constant thing and the guy really doesn't intend on respecting boundaries that's a completely different situation. And you can tell the difference you know the situations better than I do. It is very encouraging to hear that you are waiting for marriage. I hope it encourages more women to wait as well. Stay strong and keep lovin' the Lord. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 02:35 PM I believe God has called the Christian to be in the world but no of the world. Therefore many of my friends are non-christian. A few years back one of them showed up at my house out of the blue. She wanted to have sex. After trying seduction, reason and boldness she left pretty upset. It wasn't until the next day I learned the rest of the story from some mutual friends. This gal had been drinking with some friends and she had expressed to them that she 'needed a man'. Since I was single and a close neighbor my name came up. Some who knew me well said there was no she could get me in bed since I was a Christian. So they made a bet! I won't lie, it was a close one...it would of completly blown my witness to those who knew me best. I share this to illustrate 2 points: 1) You never know who is watching or who will hear. 2) Just because someone wants to have sex doesn't mean they like you. I thank God that He has got me to the point where it is easier not to. Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 03:37 PM Great example twosparrows. You did right. Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 06:48 PM go sparrow go sparrow Will be 6 years for me also as of March. I think the first few months is the hardest. Just gotta get over that hump. :laugh: I crack me up. Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 06:55 PM Argh - I responded in the man forum! Again! So what DO you do exactly to curb the idea that your lady might think you're not that into her if you don't try anything? A coworker was telling me about his daughter - both his daughter and her fiance where waiting til marraige, and apparently the fiance hadn't tried much of anything. So his daughter came to him asking if she should marry the guy since he apparently didn't like her that way cause he hadn't tried anything. He told her to tell him her concerns and see what happens. She told him. He alleviated her fears. Viola. Post Reply
View Profile History	sex before marriage..need help! Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 07:08 PM :ROFL:@alycorn Thanks for the great laugh! Post Reply

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