Author	Thread: The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies?
Admin	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 10:57 AM There's a reason that i ask this question ladies.My reason is that i have met a lot of ladies who goes to church,but later on, i found out that they aready have a boyfriend that is not christian & who in some cases is a gangster & even is not interested in the Bible neither!! I know that many of you know that the Bible knows that you should not "be unequally yoked with unbelievers" but still some of you are involved with those kind of men! So my questions on this is that 1: What is it that you see in these kind of men ?Do they seems to be much more enticing & exiciting & more bolder in apporoaching you than us good men ? 2: Do they appear to have more confidence than us good men? 3: Why do you prefer men who are not working & of course don't want to anyway than us good guys who are working our butts off for you & 4: WHY on earth do you PREFER men don't like to take a bath & not using deoderants than us guys who do take a bath & uses perfume. Do they smell much "fresher" ? ( lol):ROFL: Soome may think that thes are some strange questions i have posted here but i know that this is goin on in some other countries, including mine also. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 09:45 PM Mark, I guess we have different views of what's passive because I don't see that first paragraph as passive at al. "This is who I am. This is what I'm gonna do. Follow me or don't," seems very active to me. He knows who he is, what he's living for, and doesn't need the approval of man. The alternative would have been begging people to follow him, performing miracles for everybody with the expressed purpose of trying to get them to follow him, etc. After all, Jesus very clearly did not come for every man. He only came for those who the Father draws. Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 12:50 AM 1: What is it that you see in these kind of men? Do they seems to be much more enticing & exciting & more bolder in approaching you than us good men? I�m not into bad guys at all. In the past, I was probably drawn to bad guys, but did not date them. To me, most of them are filled with drama. Drama can at first appear exciting and enticing, until you have grown and matured. After awhile, it grows old irritating. Eventually, some women will prefer the good guys to bad guys, because they do not produce all the drama. 2: Do they appear to have more confidence than us good men? Yes, most bad guys tend to appear more confident. This, in my opinion is not always confidence, but actually cockiness. Cockiness, from what I�ve seen, makes you act bolder and do wilder things. It gives the appearance of being a leader, and whom other men want to follow. However, this does not always make a man a good leader. There are however plenty of good guys who are leaders. They show it through their actions. They stand up for what�s right, and rebuke what�s wrong. These are the men who I consider Godly men. Men who are �good guys� that do not stand up for what is right, and let others step all over them are in some ways not true good guys. Many of them tend to be clingy and needy, manipulate, and feed off the emotions of others. In my opinion they are actually passive bad guys. 3: Why do you prefer men who are not working & of course don't want to anyway than us good guys who are working our butts off for you? I would never want to be with a man who is not working or not willing to work. Understand, that when I say this, I do not mean people who cannot work because of circumstances. Instead, I�m referring to men who choose to live off the backs of others. I rather date a man who is willing to work, who does not believe in being lazy. 4: WHY on earth do you PREFER men don't like to take a bath & not using deodorants than us guys who do take a bath & uses perfume. Do they smell much "fresher" ? I prefer men who do take baths and smell good. However I chose not to date men who were strong cologne, because I am allergic to most fragrances. To me, when someone wears something that is overpowering and causes headaches, I want to avoid this person like the plague. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 07:58 AM Oops...core theological/doctrinal difference. What I bel...Ah! No hijacking! :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 08:51 PM I had a friend in high school who dated a guy who was far from a "bad boy", but that treated her very badly. He was a clean-cut Catholic virgin nerd, but I still think I can manage to tie my point in to this thread. My friend had a huge crush on him for the longest time, and seemed only encouraged the worse he treated her. Then, they started going out, and he was moderately decent to her in exchange for girl friend 'benefits'. I think part of the satisfaction girls find in dating 'bad boys' or men who don't always treat them well is that they feel like, because the men still choose to be with them, that they are special. He overcame his anger to realize his love for her, was probably the romance in her head. During my first dating experience, this same friend told me, "Wow, he must really like you if he's still dating you and you haven't had sex with him." This when I was seventeen and we dated for a total of maybe nine days. Just a look at some terrible logic, but PLEASE don't think all women are that naive.... Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 06:50 PM To: Don'thitthatmark, i thankyou for comments.Even though i understand ALL of it but it'm still glad you've shard soome biblical scriptures on this ,i think.... Also, you & Tulip89 have to work out your differences. To: Insideadrream, i understand this looks a bit funny,but i'm glad to hear your type of is a "good one". To: violakat, it's also good to hear that your type of man is a "good one" as well. (p.s,my favourite colognes are Pacco Robbanes' 1 Million & D&GS' The One & Burberry.I hope that these won't affect your allergies when you meet the right gentleman though). & To:Siylii, i thankyou for sharing your comments aso with me & othes as well. I hope she break up with him though! Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 04:18 PM Amen Tulip. That's exactly it for me. So many guys whine about girls not choosing them even though they're good guys, when, in fact, they're doormats with very little sense of self or confidence in Christ. Also, I hate to admit it, but a lot of Christian guys seem to lack some really basic social skills (i.e. not scaring girls away with being too intense etc.) Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 08:54 PM So wait, we're NOT supposed to propose to girls by the third date? Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 11 Nov, 2010 07:21 AM to; Do't hitthatMark,i really meant to say" that i don't really understand where your'e coming from" They really need a edit button here lol! Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 11 Nov, 2010 09:00 AM I would like to add that Jesus was by no means "passive". For instance when He enter His Father's House (the Temple) and found people selling and trading and basically showing disrespect to His Father...Jesus got quite Upset and turned over tables and such. This is not the actions of a "passive" man. The first lesson taught in The Martial Arts is Confidence and then Restraint. One knows what they are capable of...the knowledge that you can kick someone's B**T, yet you refrain from doing so. Jesus Exuded this. He Walked with Confidence...with a Serene Peace that drew people to Him. This is not being Passive and I am not trying to chastize anyone for saying Jesus was Passive...I am just trying to make a point. As for the "bad boys" phenomenom...I believe that it is just some women's way of rebelling against parents and society and authorities. It's kind of like telling a child "don't touch that". That child has to touch it just to see why he can't! Also there is a feeling of heightened senses when you go to the "edge of the cliff" and look down into The Abyss. These type of "bad boys" can provide that thrill, but there are some men that have the good aspects of the "bad boys" and these men tend to attract women more so then the guys that are still tied to mom's apron strings...the two extremes! I believe that you can be a Christian and still be exciting to be around and I also believe that God created Men to be MEN! I'll stop as I feel I am pontificating. Peace Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 12 Nov, 2010 08:47 PM @mrwiseguy: I was just trying to compare Jesus and His character to what we should be like in our relationships/life. I regret associating "passive" with what I said, because the definition isn't exactly what I though it was, but I think it's still a little relevant. A real Jesus-type "good guy" is supposed to be a servant, but also a leader at the same time. Putting himself "last", yet never compromising on his character/morals. I think the bible says this pretty clearly. The selfless/meek/humble/persecuted/peacemaker/merciful/Christ-like/truth-seekers are the ones that are blessed. Not the ones that are self-aggrandizing/assertive/selfish/forceful/proud/seeking after their own/putting themselves first. Like Arch said, Jesus just stood tall and firm and drew everyone to Himself naturally. His character is what drew them. I guess I just mean that we should be trying to be like Jesus in every aspect of our lives, including relationships, and that being selfless/meek/merciful are not character traits we should feel bad for having. Just make sure your character is solid, don't compromise, and be confident in the truth. And in relationships, I think women are drawn to that kind of quiet strength. :peace::peace: Post Reply

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