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Admin	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 10:03 AM I read in many female profiles they pride themselves in being "independent women". As a man ; I like it, no. . Love it when a women feels she can depend on me and wants to. It robs something very valuable from a man and the relationship for a women to take pride in her independence. Are not people in relationships interdependent on each other; relying on each others strengths? Isn't independence the antithesis of relationship? Have I misunderstood? Am I the only guy who thinks like this? If not; do women realize this? (I do realize no one wants a 'needy' mate who can't take care of themselves, so please don't take that vein when answering) Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 04:26 PM Jeremiah's right - but I dont want to be independant- I want us to depend on each other. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 04:44 PM We need to be there for each other, support each other, and be a team. But, we need to remember that our dependance is on God and He is the only one that is 100% reliable. Everything I have and everything I am is due to God. He can use other's to channel His provision, but He is still my provider. Sometimes, women let husbands take the place of God in their lives. It's easier than working on 2 relationships. Anytime we say we are independent, we need to ask ourselves what we are saying! Post Reply
View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 04:54 PM Jeremiah - you have hit it on the head for me: We are independent because men have not stepped up to the plate in fulfilling their God given responsibilities. That's why we're seeing so many women pastors and such - men not stepping up! And too many women feminists thinking they can/should do the things that men do. These women are getting in the mens' way of being the leader they should be. I can make it through life on my own fine, but I'd much rather go at it as a team. That way when we mess up I don't have to take all the blame! There sure are alot of us women on the "Ask a man" threads! Are we getting in the way of the men writing? :) Post Reply
View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 05:02 PM @springrose sorry, I thought Elmer Rude was a universal language :-) Val is correct ; I mean it as a compliment @Jeremiah just a thought; There is many a man standing on the other side of the line you have drawn in the sand saying. "As soon as she fullfills the scriptures that apply to her, then I will full those which apply to me" So there we have it. ; two people arguing ; " no you go first,. . .no not until you do". Oh aren't we wretched people and pathetic Christians? (myself included) Post Reply
View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 05:17 PM I feel the same way. I feel like somewhere along the line woman have got the idea that they need to take care of themselves and not depend on a man. It's like they feel they are week if the depend on a man or that if they depend on a man he will only let them down and hurt them. I don't know why this thinking is out there as it is unattractive to me. Not that I want a lady that is totally dependant on me but just that we depend on each other like you said. Post Reply
View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 05:19 PM @alycorn no you are not getting in the way ; but the thought did make me laugh:laugh: @springrose So from your post can we assume the phrase ; "independent Christian woman" is in fact a oxymoron? @Jeremiah 21 I just read Jeremiah chapter 21. I assume you name has another significance? Just curious? Post Reply
View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 05:26 PM @Arod77 You said that so good, so sincere ; perhaps you should of started this thread! Thanks you; yoi took the words right out of my heart. Post Reply
View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 07:37 PM Two Sparrows, When I read the title I immediately thought, "yes"!! :ROFL: But after reading the entire question I think the answer is, No, you're not the only guy who thinks this. For me, I want to have a marriage based on the need for support and submission. "Two are better than one" and our submission to each other is the reflection of our submission to the Lord. Thunder Post Reply
View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 07:44 PM To answer your question 2Sparrows -- I do not think you are alone. And, while I have HAD to be independent and God has helped me every step of the way in every way to be that way --- it is not my desire. My desire is to share my life with a husband and have us work together as a team. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	I would like to know if I am the only guy who thinks like this : Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 08:18 PM I guess it would depend on the definition of independent. Like independent: "I am a unique person with ideas of my own", or independent: "I don't really need you at all, you're a man and therefore below me". I would like to be in a relationship with independent #1 one, and I would run away from #2 like mad. :peace::peace: Post Reply

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