It seems that for the plus size woman who loves GOD it is still hard to get into a relationship,it makes me upset when men tell me I have a beautiful face but I am too much for them to handle or else I get hit on by guys who can be my dad:boxing:, I believe GOD did not intend for every1 to be the same size. Guys why does it seem u all are afraid if BBW'S ?:peace:
For me it's not so much the weight. I'm attracted to people that are natural/healthy/active, and I do know mildly overweight women that are all of those things. I just want to have a long, healthy, and active marriage. I'm not against dating people that are overweight, as long as they are still healthy/natural looking, and as long as they can do active things(bike riding, rollerblading, hiking, etc). I'm pretty active and adventurous, and I don't want to marry someone that I have to leave behind whenever I want to do those things. Marriage isn't all about "looking past the shell", it's more about finding someone you can share life with in every way possible.
I say:
Wow, what DontHittheMark wrote is pretty much everything that was running through my mind and what I've had in my profile details for some time.
That watch in his profile picture looks like one I've worn on my wrist for some time as well.
SilverFire my weight never was a problem for me i know who i am i love who I am,the thing for me is that i have sisters in christ who cannot seem to find a man or who think they have to go out of church for a date. Maybe we live in the wrong part of the world I guess,lol. Silverfire never doubt that i love myself and who i am because Jesus thought me how to and i put my best into whatever or whom ever I like and love.:peace::dancingp:
I have to commend the men that have responded to this post... I could just feel the tension. :goofball:
Please, please, PLEASE don't think of me being judgmental because I happen to be a thin girl, I am trying to be honest and speak from the heart. If you don't like my response or find it rude, I really am sorry...
A woman's weight says a whole lot to a man... how much does she care for herself, what is her opinion of herself, how stuck in her ways is she. If a woman appears to be in denial about being overweight, that shows a stubbornness that will transcend into other areas in her life and relationships. If a woman is very overweight, she probably hasn't done a whole lot to care for her body, which is something we should all do. Also, an extreme in weight that is unhealthy or unnatural is simply not going to be attractive because it is not, well, natural.
My best female friend is very large, and when I hear her call herself "plus size" I get sad, because she is beyond it. She is very beautiful, honestly, a gorgeous face and awesome hair. But she only gets attention from narrow demographics, usually men with daughters her age who want a young somethin' for the ex wife to see. Younger men are looking to the future, and I agree with DontHitThatMark about longevity. Younger men are also likely to be into active things, like hiking or biking or whatever, and might see a large woman and think she couldn't handle it. Also, people are made wary of things that aren't "normal" or "natural", and I believe that God never designed people to exceed a certain 'size'.
Be careful about making posts on the men's forum complaining about men...
Physical attraction is 1/3 of the overall attraction. The other 2/3 are the spiritual/mental/emotional connection (which includes character, personality, how you communicate, etc) and enjoying spending time together (i.e. how you "click" together, common interests, activity level, etc). All three parts are equally important, and 1/3 is a big chunk to be missing. Everyone is attracted to different things like someone on here have already said, and it's also not wrong, like some have also said. If you're not attracted to someone, you're not attracted to someone. And it would be difficult to be married to someone you're physically not attracted to because having a physical relationship is important in a marriage. Some guys like voluptuous girls, and even if you don't find them, they'll find you :yay:
@Val just out of curiosity what do the men look like that you normally are interested? :)
A word only means what two people say it does. Because of that most men are cautious about what they say.
For instance i might say i like voluptious women, but the word itself might paint a diferent picture in your mind than in mine. So if i said something like i dont like obesse or overweight women, many women who i would find acceptable may shy away from me because of their different perception of themselves.
As you stated you like yourself as is and i think that rocks, so find someone that does too. And if a man dont dig you the way you are thats alright. :) not everyone will.
:applause:Rabbit32 whole heartedly i agree with you, me ann men though I am not a fuss box except if they are over 50+ then no. I have had good relationships with men, but being a christian now is different you know men still want to take me out but the thing is there is no common ground and then the men my age in church tend to not really have there focus on GOD so if I me and on of the men my age are dating for awile they tend to think let's hit the room. And i am not hitting no room with no man unmarried :yay:. I can and will wait until I get a man who loves GOD and will love me :applause:.
Rabbit every1 seems to be missing my point though it hurts me to see my big sisters just date people who do not go to church and then get caught up in the web of sexual immorality, I just wish some christian men around the world would just show some big girls love, and big women would know they are Phenomenal women because i know i am Phenomenal woman,always have been always will be size ain't got a thing on me.
Romans 12:3 Because of the privilege and authority God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don�t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.
I have rewrote this this time and again, and have spent waaay to much time on this thread alone lol. I hate topics like this becasue (for women especially) there are so many conflicting views, and self perceptions of one's self that i dread the thought of a woman not being able to accuratly hear what i am saying, and where it is coming from. I sincerly love ya'll, and have a burden for you on my heart. I dont look forward to the years I must navigate my lil girl through the same things many women struggle with.
There are some Christian men that do show big girls love, you just got to wait for God to bring them and you together.
Proverbs 23:23 Get the truth and never sell it; also get wisdom, discipline, and good judgment.
Proverbs 24:26 26 An honest answer is like a kiss of friendship.
Really I dont think all will recieve the truth, or even want to hear it, you can always tell who doesnt cause they are they are quick to respond or debunk whats being said instead of taking the time to process the information.
Proverbs 8:
1 Listen as Wisdom calls out!
Hear as understanding raises her voice!
2 On the hilltop along the road,
she takes her stand at the crossroads.
3 By the gates at the entrance to the town,
on the road leading in, she cries aloud,
4 �I call to you, to all of you!
I raise my voice to all people.
5 You simple people, use good judgment.
You foolish people, show some understanding.
6 Listen to me! For I have important things to tell you.
Everything I say is right,
7 for I speak the truth
and detest every kind of deception.
8 My advice is wholesome.
There is nothing devious or crooked in it.
9 My words are plain to anyone with understanding,
clear to those with knowledge.
10 Choose my instruction rather than silver,
and knowledge rather than pure gold.
11 For wisdom is far more valuable than rubies.
Nothing you desire can compare with it.
12 �I, Wisdom, live together with good judgment.
I know where to discover knowledge and discernment.
