Author	Thread: Cross cultural dating
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 06:25 AM Would you ever consider dating cross cultural? Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 11:13 AM @Cobbler Those were good points, but this one got me tickled. "A white person from traditional New England would have a real culture shock marrying a white person from the traditional south." You might well may be right about this...sometimes I'm a real culture shock to myself, not to mention folks who "ain't from around here". :ROFL: Still it worked for my daddy and mama for 43 years. Maybe when I get to heaven I'll remember to ask my dad how much of a culture shock it was. :laugh: Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 12:25 PM no problems- Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 12:33 PM Gadshandiwork. My main point is that cultual differences are not always accross differnet people groups. It is how you are raised that makes the difference. Differnet senerio. Chinese American and mainland Chinese. They are both from the same people group, but different cultures. And I am not saying that they couldn't work out, they just have to work a little harder at understanding their differences. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 01:50 PM I don't really have a problem with it, as long as both are Christians who share similar ideas theologically. It would be hard, though, if the two cultures are very different in many areas. As for interracial dating/marriage, there is nothing morally wrong with it; people are people, and the amount of pigment in our skin shouldn't make any difference. That said, I personally don't find myself attracted to particular races...I'm not really sure why, but I'm just not! Personal tastes, I suppose. Just like I'm NOT attracted to 6'4", blond haired, blue eyed, nicely tanned, Prince Charming guys, and just like I AM attracted to guys about 5'10" - 6'2", with brown or red hair, relatively fair skin, and brown or blue eyes. (That's not my "wish list" for physical appearance, but those seem to be common features in the guys I find to be physically attractive.) Post Reply
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 01:54 PM Babygirl do you know that God has a sense of humor? He will send you an Asian guy who adores you just because you've made your own list. Post Reply
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 01:55 PM What's a hipster? Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 02:11 PM Well, there's certainly nothing sinful or anything about it and I would be open to dating someone from any race really, although there is definitely a little bit of a certain type that I'm typically attracted to physically. As others have said, the merging of different cultures can be difficult. Remembering that our marriages should glorify the Lord and that husband and wife become one, we always have to ask ourselves, when there are major differences (of any kind, not just culture), if that difference is something that can be worked out to God's glory and something that's going to get in the way of the couple truly being united and serving the Lord together. Another factor for me is my mother. She is actually a first-generation American herself (if you want to be very technical about it), but she is Caucasian and definitely has the whole white supremacy thing going on. She's very racist. It's wrong and I've talked to her about it, but she will still make very racist comments out in public. If you don't originate from a handful of her "approved" European countries, then she'll have not nice things to say. It's amazing she liked my dad actually, since he has some Native American in him. She openly slams Native Americans... She speaks out against anyone who isn't completely white. So, if a man of another race (or even just mixed race) expressed interest in me, that would definitely be something on my mind. And it's not that I'm trying to please my mother, but just that it would be hurtful for me and the future hubby to have my mother saying cruel things all the time... Post Reply
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 02:14 PM Praise the Lord! Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 02:26 PM Jerry, I know! :ROFL: That would be so cold!! I am not attracted to Chinese men. I do believe we have a say in who we are with. And for real, if a oriental man came along and he and I were compatible in all the important ways and it had God's blessing, I'd go on and turn him out. :dancingp: Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross cultural dating Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 02:33 PM Main thing for me is marrying a good christian woman who'd make a good wife and mother. I was raised to marry white though since I'm white and I come from a pentecostal upbringing. My family is white southern with extreme southern views. I'm German, Dutch, Irish, and 3/32 Cherokee. So from an ethnic point of view I would prefer to marry a white woman since I want children and I'd rather them not have to be confused about their ethnicity. Not saying I wouldn't or won't marry outside my race but I've heard stories from many people telling me of the many troubles white men have had with women from other races. It's like they don't get along as well as two people of the same race. My main concern is that my wife is a true christian, and if she loves me and only me. I want a woman who'll remain faithful to me and love and respect me for the rest of her life. I have to admit I'm mostly attracted to white women, asian women, native american women, and hispanic women. I guess it's because of my own ethnicity and the genetics of my background that makes me attracted to those kinds of women but that's what I like. Post Reply

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