Author	Thread: question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer
Marie7 View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 06:29 PM Why is it at even 50 and older most men on here are looking for women way younger than they are? I am 52 but I feel I have a young mind. I love the Lord, love life, my family and have a good heart yet I feel like the only way to a man's heart is to be 20-30. Dont Christian men EVER care for a woman because of inner beauty? Post Reply
View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 11:03 PM That makes sense to me, Rabbit. I think that pretty much every guy on here has stated the importance of having a girlfriend/wife who is physically attractive. And it is true that men seem to age better than women. Not that women get ugly, because they don't! Women of all ages truly are beautiful... But, a lot of guys get better looking with age, like George Clooney =) Old age looks more distinguished on a man. Post Reply
View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 11:37 PM Oh! And dudes look okay with bald heads. While women can certainly pull of the look, I know that it does a lot to her self image when she begins to lose hair. I was on this medicine (that I will go back on probably once I have insurance again) that caused my hair to fall out. It was these injections that I got every 2 weeks, and the morning after my shots, I'd always wake up with quite a bit of hair on my pillow... And it would come out in handfuls in the shower. It tapered off somewhat after the first couple of months, on the shots, but none of it has grown back yet. You can see from my pictures, if you look closely enough, that my hair is really thin in the front and there's actually about a 1/2 dozen bald patches on my head that are about size of a dime or quarter, I suppose. I'm super self-conscious about it... And when I was still had my job, people noticed the hair loss and there was this rumor going around that I was on chemo and dying. Anyway, I've gotten comments from people indicating that they think I look sickly now... Even my mom is always comments on my bald patches and suggesting that I try to style over them better. But, if I was a guy, I could could totally get away with it. Nobody would say anything or really care probably. And I could just shave it and pretend like it was on purpose. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 12:01 AM @Pixy, well I think its partly due to women being the fairer sex. Ill be praying for you even more. Ive also wondered if divorce has something to do with the phenomenon we are discussing. Think about it, men in a good relationship will grow to aprectiate their wife more over time. With the history and knowledge, familararity, etc they make a mans wife more valuable to him, even as her beauty fades. In my mind divorced people want equal to better than what they had. Therefore this wipes the slate clean mentality happens and the hunt for something better ensues. This MAY also equal to more jaded singles with lots of baggage compared to their younger more inexperienced counterparts. However inexpereince can be very grating for those who have more experience etc. Im not sure how widowed men act. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 12:37 AM Rabbit - I find your concept quite interesting. It is some what compatible with my preferences. After being widowed, I didn't think that I was interested in a never married man because of his lack of knowledge regarding women and relationships. Formerly married men may have baggage, but hopefully, a godly man will be working through that baggage with God's help and has a lot of life experience to bring to the relationship, even if it is learning from his mistakes. At my age, I'm not interested in breaking one in from scratch. Marie - Pass those guys seeking young fillies over. I don't care to take on the stress of forever being 20 something. I'm not interested in the plastic surgery that is required to maintain a false youth - just not worth my time and trouble when there are souls to be saved. I'm not interested in having more children and I think I've earned the status of grandma and relish in it. Just move on as if they said they're looking for a mermaid that plays the ukelele. They're just not what you're looking for! As for your question, yes there are godly men looking for godly women over the age of 50. They are rare, but you only need 1. Focus on who God wants you to be right now where you are and God will bring it about according to His plan. Rose Post Reply
View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 12:38 AM You could be right, Robbie. As so many of the guys on here have said: outer beauty attracts the man initially, but inner beauty is what keeps him interested. If a couple marries young, by the time the woman's beauty has faded, her husband has known her deeply for many years and is so in love with who she is that her outer appearance doesn't matter so much. I think? I'm not a guy, but that sounds right! Haha. I think it takes a long time to fall in love with someone that thoroughly that their body/face/hair isn't that relevant. Maybe when we're younger and less deeply in love, we need that physical beauty to help us form that bond. Sex helps create intimacy and would we want sex so much if that physical beauty wasn't there?? Does this even make sense? It's late and I shouldn't even be on here. And thanks for the prayers. Ya know I need them! Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 12:50 AM Be encouraged Pixy. I still blush when Sandiaboy tells me I'm cute. Strangely, my daughter doesn't share his opinion, "Who, my Mom?" Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Post Reply
View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 01:03 AM That is encouraging, Rose =) And that's so sweet that he tells you that you're cute. Proof that there are still some decent guys out there! :hearts: Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 01:24 AM Another point especially for older men is that it is very challenging enough to get a woman who is pretty let alone alot younger. I think it can be a huge big boost to a man's self esteem if he is successful in getting a woman who is "way out of his league" I think men like this are not as prevelant. Even for myself, if I am getting "signals" from a woman who is alot younger than me than its a huge boost in confidence. I wonder if women feel the same. I wonder if there is a difference for women as they get older where younger men do not pursue them as before? Any way words of affirmation are great but a man who like that women need to steer clear of. :) Back to the original question, PROXIMITY is king. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 02:50 AM Pixy, have you ever heard the phrase, "Pretty is as pretty does?" Growing up, I'd have people tell me that I was cute or pretty, but I don't remember people using the word beautiful. I've always believed that it was due to my personality. I'm silly and love kids and I do things that people see as "cute." In our minds, we don't usually separate those things, we just look at someone and think, "She's cute." It is a package set. I think that is what the guys have been trying to tell us - they are initially attracked to a pretty face, but they stay around if she acts pretty. There are a lot of beautiful women who act real ugly. As women, we would do well to focus on acting like we have a beautiful heart so that when a man looks at us, he sees a beautiful woman. BTW, sorry we hijacked your thread Marie. Rose Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 02:58 AM One last thought. One of the most beautiful women I've ever known died last year at 91. Yes, her hair was white and she had many wrinkles. There was something about her love for the Lord and her love for people that softened her countenance. As sick as she got, there was still something in her eyes that shone with beauty. A beautiful heart can't be hidden. I feel honored to have known her and priviledged that she loved me. Good night! Post Reply

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