Author	Thread: A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty
Admin	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 29 Sep, 2010 11:12 AM The topics of women�s hair and modesty are both quite common on the message boards, and both are topics that get a lot of passionate responses. What I want to understand is how people think the two are related. I think most of us agree that a certain degree of modesty is admirable in a Christian. However, we live in a culture where it is almost assumed that a woman puts on her makeup before stepping outside, as well as doing her hair. Both of these are basically vain things. Men generally like long hair. Why? Answers I have seen on this site alone have included that it is more attractive, it is more feminine, and some have gone into creepy descriptions of running hands through it and various sensual things. A woman�s hair is often described in very sensual, even sexual, terms, which makes me think long hair, to men who like it, really is kind of a sexual thing. Then isn�t long hair immodest? Why is short hair on a woman less desirable? Long hair requires time and attention that short hair does not, and apparently creates feelings that short hair does not. So wouldn�t short hair be the more modest choice? Then there's the whole "having a covering" thing....... Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 30 Sep, 2010 08:36 AM I really don't think length of hair has much to do with anything biblical. When Paul talks about it he also says: "15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering. 16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God." I think he was trying to get some kind of symbolic/humility point across to the Corinthians. Maybe the Corinthians had some kind of weird religious ritual where they shaved everybody's heads. Maybe that's where the catholic monks got it from. Jesus was a man. He had long hair. I don't think it matters. We have no such custom. Anyway! To answer the question. I think long hair is beautiful...I think short hair is beautiful. Not all long hair/short hair, but it doesn't really matter to me as long as it doesn't look weird/unnatural...and I think that is the biblical stand-point. "It doesn't really matter". I can kinda see the point about it being a sexual issue with some guys, but I wouldn't let that govern your position at all. If you worry about that too much you would have to wear a box and live in a cave all the time. As far as modesty goes, there are certain degrees that we're responsible for and the rest is the other person's responsibility. We're responsible for controlling our pride, and I think if we control our pride, then we are automatically becoming modest. What we have to worry about is: "Am I showing off?" What "they"(men) have to worry about is: "Am I actively letting myself look/lust after women?" I think men have the brunt of the responsibility, because even if christian women followed the modesty thing to the extreme and wore boxes, "they"(men) would still have to deal with a big problem..."non-Christians". Non-Christian women aren't concerned with following "biblical modesty" at all. So a man has to deal with that every time he steps out of his house, and he can't insist that non-Christians follow christian principles because...they aren't christian. He has to control His own flesh. It doesn't do much good to put the responsibility for your problems on other people...you have to change yourself. I do think that christian women do need to worry about modesty though, but not as much as some people yell about. I really do think modesty is more between "you and God" than "you and men/women". Pride is not good, and God doesn't want us to have it. We need to have humility and mercy instead. :peace::peace: Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 12:32 PM Gee what a topic. Here I was debating cutting 5 inches or so off my hair... Still debating though. I'm only an inch away from my hair being waist length I don't know if I really want to cut it to the middle of my back again... It'd be easier to French braid but harder to do a 5 strand braid or an tied bun... Oh decisions decisions... I've enjoyed reading all the responses though very interesting indeed Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 03:08 PM I think that we need to resist putting too much pressure on women; the big issues with modesty are pretty obvious, and Pixy's alluded to them already. The reason I say that is not to stir up debate, but rather to make a clear distinction between modesty and fearful covering up. Christianity is NOT Islam. Everyone must guard their own heart and heed the Spirit's leading, of course, but let's not forget the freedom we have in Christ as opposed to the stifling of the law and the asphyxiation of fear. Post Reply
View Profile History	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 07:13 PM Great point, Silver. There are definitely greater issues at hand... and Mark, I liked the box comment, hehe.... I guess what matters is what we're thinking when we're 'styling' ourselves and the attitudes we have about our, and other people's, appearance. Leave it to people to make everything complicated. :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 3 Oct, 2010 11:56 AM I have it short for convenience, but I do agree about the maintenance and cost for trims every month or so. I am having to let it grow for a mission trip in January, so we'll see how I feel after that... Post Reply
Mia3angel View Profile History	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 5 May, 2011 10:09 PM Interesting..I was familiar with the first two verses but not the last one.. good point.. Post Reply
View Profile History	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 26 Oct, 2011 05:22 PM Who cares about any of that? It hard enough to find a godly woman before you even consider her hair. Let's bring the focus back where it belongs, on Jesus. That is who we out to please in our marriage anyway, right? Post Reply
Mia3angel View Profile History	A Woman's Hair and Her Modesty Posted : 13 Dec, 2011 06:47 PM Right! :) Post Reply

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