Author	Thread: THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!}
Admin	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 31 Aug, 2010 11:03 PM This is a follow-up to my topic, "multiple choice question about winks" (http://www.christiandatingforfree.com/forum/forum_details.php?topic_id=6291&forum_sub_cat_id=9&start=0) from a week ago. I asked why a guy would send a wink to someone who is attached. In an attempt to better pinpoint an answer, I'm starting this little *experiment*. A little bit ago, I went through a few pages of my winks and selected 10 men at random to send a message to. I copied and pasted the same message to each of them... The message expressed my uncertainty regarding responding to winks and asked why a wink was sent. As I receive responses from these men, I'll assign them a # and then update this... (If the response I get from a guy is super personal, I may edit it for privacy reasons.) I'm probably going to send messages to more, but will just include the 1st 10 in data here. Should be interesting, eh? Post Reply
View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 09:46 AM Hi Pixy, saved3 here... I hope you know from what I know of you in the forums and for your friendship and prayers for my health and for my future with edw... I think you are a sweet person and I'm glad we are sisters in Jesus Christ. :) However, I don't think this was a kind hearted thing to publicly humiliate the men you "numbered" to all with in the forum... From what I read it seems the questions presented to these men were leading and misleading... Like "So where do we go from here?" Or "So you sent me a wink as to be friends only and nothing more? really?" Now I've not read or seen your other thread you mentioned was similar to this one, but this just does not seem like the right thing to do (in my opinion.) Men send me winks as well as private messages even though I state I'm no longer available but "FRIENDS ONLY" is why I'm still on here. I'm sure you know you may choose to ignore winks, block users, or respond with a thanks but no thanks, or if someone is being harassing you can also report them. Men, I'm sure are not the only ones to do this. I'm sure women on here do this to men as well. We can not nor are able to control the behaviors of others, we can, however, control our own behavior and actions hopefully with prayer. I hope my response has not hurt nor offended you or any other readers as I truly prayed before responding. Post Reply
View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 09:53 AM @Saved- You're right. I hadn't thought of it from that viewpoint and am truly sorry for any humiliation I have caused anyone. Thank you for pointing this out to me. I won't post anymore about my correspondence with these fellows and will try to wrap up my conversations with them as quickly and painlessly as possible. Post Reply
View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 10:19 AM Hey Pixy, You truly are such a jewel. I sincerely thank you for your understanding. Your response to me I will use and cherish as how I myself need to reflect and respond to others when I'm called on things in love and prayer. I'm so glad for the blessing of knowing you Pixy. (God willing, would be fun if you, your boyfriend, edw, and I went out on a double date sometime.) :) God's blessings to you always Pixy. saved3 Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 10:30 AM I think for me personally it was helpful to see what they are doing. I have a vision of being a partener with God in raising a generation of Men who are Godly, and treat women with grace and respect. Who turn their backs on their lust for women, and to us pursue God with as much fervor as we do you women. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 03:49 PM and you know what Rabbit? that is what is most attractive to alot of women. Men who are after God and not after women. Men who act like they are already married (and they are). Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 06:41 PM Ok, I want to make sure I get it: to get married, I must not go after women. Since I'm not going to go after men, and I'm already married (in a spiritual sense?), then I guess I just have to do nothing in particular and God will bring the increase. This sounds awesome to me (although it doesn't help me with my sloth problem), but I keep hearing about pursuit and courting and the man must lead and all that. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 07:17 PM Not do nothing, but pursue God with the same fervor as you do a woman, in the end you will have no use for them, as they will have none for us, however are relationship with God is eternal. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 08:01 PM there is this person that used to go to my church. He was one of the associate pastors and he has such a Fathers heart for the people and he never flirted or checked out the women. He respected us and sincerely cared about everyone. I dont think there was one woman who can say he came on to her. well, he's not there any more, he moved on to fill an executive pastor role at another church...still single BUT i would be honored if he was interested in me. you know what I'm saying? he's not really attractive but his heart is so beautiful. I hope I didnt make him sound gay, lol Post Reply
jenchickee View Profile History	THE WINK DIARIES {a little experiment!} Posted : 4 Sep, 2010 07:30 PM I've got on my profile, near the end, that I don't respond to winks - start a conversation, say hi. I get them anyway. And I still don't respond. Those guys either are not reading my profile, or not following directions. However, I keep in mind that men are normally more visual that women. But still...goes back to not following directions. Post Reply

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