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Admin	Do you think it is best for a married woman to... Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 05:34 PM stay at home and raise her children personally or to work outside of the home and have someone else care for the children? Post Reply
FunnyChef317 View Profile History	Do you think it is best for a married woman to... Posted : 28 Apr, 2010 02:23 PM I'd say stay at home and look after the children, there are some FRUITCAKES out there that you don't want raising your children. And I have seen numerous breakdowns that show that when a woman works, oftentimes the family spends more money than they would if she just stayed home and raised the children. Extra expenses like, having a 2nd car, 2nd car insurance, 2nd car gas, work clothes, child care, etc. Those things add up to more than the 2nd income would be. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Do you think it is best for a married woman to... Posted : 28 Apr, 2010 04:47 PM Chef, I agree about some of those expenses, but if I stay home with my kids, you better believe that I WILL have a car and it WILL have insurance! That means that there will still be 2 cars and 2 car insurances to pay for! I've known men who thought that since the wife stayed home, she didn't need a car...that was like prison for the woman. Post Reply
FunnyChef317 View Profile History	Do you think it is best for a married woman to... Posted : 28 Apr, 2010 06:35 PM I don't think you should feel in prison either, what about driving the husband to work? Anything can be arranged, I'm just saying that a lot of times the wife thinks she needs to work because there are a multitude of bills that in all necessity don't need to be there in the first place. Millions of women work in the world to pay for the extra bills the family has because the wife works. Does that make sense? Now, if the children are school age etc, then I don't think it's a problem, but you'll find that in most households, a 2nd car, and 2nd car insurance, and babysitting, gas, work clothes, etc, adds up to more money than the wife would bring in when at work. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you think it is best for a married woman to... Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 08:27 AM Coming from a home where both parents worked, remembering at 8 years old coming into a big empty house after school terrified out of mind, hiding under the bed with a knife and baseball bat until I heard a key in the lock... being dropped off at school over an hour early when the doors were still locked....begging God at night "if you're there, you can have all my toys, just make my mom stay home with me... Reality is parents got to work to pay the bills, but this reality comes from non other than our fallen nature. I know a woman who said to me, I could work full time and we'd have a lot more things to give our kids, but I choose to sacrifice those things, work 2 days a week and be there for my girls when they get home from school. Think about it, if school is from 9-3, you spend, let's say an hour getting ready in the morning...not quality time...2 hours with the sitter after school...total of 9 hours a day 5 days a week that your child is not with either of you. That still leaves you a good let's say 4 hours in the evening, but how many of us actually spend that 4 hours or even the weekends having dedicated intentional quality time with our kids? I know people have to work, but they also have to ask themselves, what am working for. If you're working for the 4 bedroom house with the big patio and huge yard....maybe you could settle for the 2 bedroom apartment. I'm just saying watch you motives. Bottomline, in living to glorify God let's think what would he have us do if the world were as he intended it to be. Now we know it's not, and there will be circumstances when a mother just has to work full time and I totally get that, but careful how you use "has to". Be sure it's not wants to that should be in it's place. In the ideal circumstance or where a woman has an option, I say opt to stay home and take care of your children, at least while they're in elementary school. Homeschool...I get it, but for me, it's all about public school because I want my children living in the world and being a light to those not yet saved and if I can stay home and instill godly values and principles in my child's life, I have confidence that they will be that light and not be led astray. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Do you think it is best for a married woman to... Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 09:53 AM I think it would be great if my future wife would be able tostay at home and be there for the children however, my mom has had a daycare for years and I will say that over the time that she has had the daycare, it is obvious that some of the parents, both mother and/or father did not seem too interested in "raising" their children. Also a lot of daycares these days are forced into being more of a school atmosphere instead of 'play place' like they used to be. Also, it is good for the child/ren to get out and develop alongside other children before they have to start schooling. I think it is a personal choice but in todays society it is hard for a family to get along with only one income. My friend has allowed his wife not to work and their bills are tight, but at the same time, they wouldn't necessarily have an issue with their child attending a daycare. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you think it is best for a married woman to... Posted : 2 May, 2010 12:36 AM Thanks for the feedback. I'll go ahead and toss in my 2 cents as well here... I would love to be able to stay at home w/ my future children. And I think that the Bible places the responsibility of parenting on the parents... not on daycares or nannies. I would love to homeschool my children as well, although I am open to other schooling options. If my family did need some extra income, I would try to do something that would still allow me to be with my children... something where I could work from home, like a home business. And this isn't to say that I would never leave my child with a babysitter, just that I wouldn't want the babysitter to be raising my child. And I want to breastfeed too, so the whole 6 weeks maternity thing just wouldn't work for me. I would need to be near my babies =) Post Reply

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