Author	Thread: Gents, is it me or...
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 21 Apr, 2010 10:37 PM ....do alot of Christian single Christian women seem stuck up. I went to another website and got all kinds of interaction, whats sad is most were unprofessed Christians. What do ya'll think? Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 23 Apr, 2010 08:44 AM Indeed it doesn't I never push my bondries, in the sence Im not agressive. For instance I may say hi how are you, and never get a responce back. Really Im not sure what to make of it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 23 Apr, 2010 09:13 AM I guess I'd just say either pursue, or don't. imo, texting 'hi how are you?' for no reason is confusing or annoying (though saying the equivalent of 'hi, how are you' in person totally makes someone's day because it makes them feel acknowledged and lifts the tension and makes a connection). but if you're trying to start a conversation text isn't a good way to go about it. most people don't like having convos by text because you can only express yourself so much and you have to go back and forth a million times till they understand what you meant, and/or it's just not a good time and they don't even realize they forgot. i'd say look more to engage in face to face conversation. anything else takes alot of patience and understanding because like i said it's a lot more likely that they're either confused and/or too busy and/or it's too complicated and would take too much time to explain at the moment than it is that they're just stuck up. i can't stress enough how important it is to have patience and understanding when not talking face to face. and of all the mediums for clear communication or good conversation, text is the worst way to go because it's so limited and they're probably on the go and can't get to it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 23 Apr, 2010 09:16 AM Also what's your major? maybe i should switch to that :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 23 Apr, 2010 09:36 AM one other thing, a big part of patience and understanding is recognizing and respecting that they have their own lives that they're trying to stay on top of, and the only way to become a part of that is to pursue (there's a counter-intuitive part to that though which is giving them their time and space to get done what they need to) so it's a balance, and it takes time. but it's worth it. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 23 Apr, 2010 10:21 AM I've run into a few that are "stuck-up"...but maybe it wasn't "stuck-up" so much as "intolerant". But...like I've said before, this is a dating site....people are allowed to be "preferential" about who they want to marry. I just thought it was a little unfair to be disqualified because of my diet...that's pretty shallow...and when she said that I decided very quickly that I didn't wanna talk to her:winksmile:. There's also the "women are better than men" mindset that's being spread around quite a bit, and it's actually true, but in my opinion...the reason guys are usually krappier is because most of them seem to have some seriously selfish, inconsiderate, and prideful egos, and unfortunately the ladies seem to be using this new-found "I'm better" thing to catch up to men very quickly in the ego department...which is causing them to lose the reasons they were better in the first place... "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." If you would have asked me 10 years ago who fit that description the best(besides Jesus of course)...I would have said, "A woman"...but I can't say it as much anymore. It seems like women are making it a point to turn into men...and fast. Makes me sad. Luke 18:9-14 He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt: �Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: �God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.� But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, �God, be merciful to me, a sinner!� Philippians 2:3-11 Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. James 4:6 But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, �God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.� Matt. 5:7 Now when he saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, and he began to teach them, saying: �Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Proverbs 8:13 To fear the Lord is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech. Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Better to be lowly in spirit and among the oppressed than to share plunder with the proud. Anyway...I think that's enough to point out there's not much room for "Me", "I", or "Self" in a truly good life. Try to put yourself below everyone....then you will be trying to follow in Jesus's footsteps. Sorry for the sermon...tiny bit off topic... :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 23 Apr, 2010 10:51 AM But it was a good sermon =) And I agree. The moment we begin flaunting our godly qualities we become prideful, which is not a godly way to be at all!! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 23 Apr, 2010 10:59 PM Thanks very much ya'll some food for thought definatley. :) My maj is Psychology To give you a contrast, on another website I had 19 emails waiting for me, in less than a day. Maybe there is no corelation. Post Reply
Vagrant View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 24 Apr, 2010 01:54 AM Depends on whether the woman is a "Culture Christian" or one who is in love with Jesus. Those that pursue Jesus will look for the traits they see in Him...in guys...as well as imitating them. (Humility included.) That said... I have found that it isn't just a Christian thing. I apologize for the bluntness of the following statement, but...it would seem that, in general, the prettier a girl is, the more stuck up she is and vice-versa. If that weren't the case, half the guys on this site wouldn't be here... Post Reply
View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 24 Apr, 2010 04:58 AM The students you talk about, don't they all know you allready in some way? They see you walking around, they might hear you voice when passing and so on. To all the women you talk on this site you are still �a complete stranger�. Maybe that�s the point... Andries Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Gents, is it me or... Posted : 24 Apr, 2010 07:29 AM If they are in Christ we are brother/sister in Christ I have to say there isnt many women i know who are in love with Jesus, and it appears to me as well, that the prettier they are the bigger the chip on their shoulder is. Post Reply

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