I think it's important to realize that MANY of us (not all of us) are single for a reason...
Whether it would be a loss of a loved one, a divorce, we go to a church with people that aren't our age, we are looking in the wrong places, we are too shy, we are more abrasive than sandpaper, we are insecure, we are prideful, we are still dealing with past hurts, we don't know who we are and obviously we don't know what we are looking for, we try too hard, we don't try hard enough, we... and the list goes on and on and on...
I think if this site serves no other purpose than to serve as a Christian community that can show you love (in truth and support) and help you understand/deal with your singleness.
The only way/reason people can truly love you is because they were first loved by God and they share that love with others.
2 Corinthians 13:5-6
5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you�unless, of course, you fail the test? 6And I trust that you will discover that we have not failed the test.
i understand what your saying. is there one specific person for another? i don't think so. A matter of being the right person, if both are believers, he likes her and vice versa then get married! :).
Singleness can and is a choice too, there are some that choose to be single or have no desire to marry, ie the apostle paul was one. Someone told me once, you do God's will by doing it. I think sometimes we can get to caught up wondering what God's will is for us that we end up wasting our life away. If one has a desire to marry, then marry, if not, don't. I don't know if this helps make it more clear, sorry about that. But i agree with your points too.
It's interesting that you mentioned the premarital counseling, i was just talking about that with my pastor and dad at biblical counseling conference this week.
Formal premarital counseling in a sense shouldn't be needed, what i mean by that is, If both guy/girl are approaching marriage with view that it's til death do us part, serving and putting each other's needs and desires above our own, seeking to change and grow ourself and not seeking to change our spouse(unless of course with dealing with a sin issue), and follow the biblical roles for husband and wife. then formal premarital counseling shouldn't be needed.
I mean yes it would be good and necessary for a engaged couple to get together with a older married christian couple so the older can mentor/disciple the younger and pass on wisdom and advice. Anyway i'd be interested in what you think?
I like what you said (Rachel), I think it depends on the couple. I mean even an older couple might need pre-marital counseling, that a younger couple might not (the Holy Spirit that dwells within us is old/mature).
I never think knowledge is a bad thing and if you can learn from someone else's mistakes or wisdom then by all means.
1 Timothy 4:12
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.
I like what you said (Rachel), I think it depends on the couple. I mean even an older couple might need pre-marital counseling, that a younger couple might not (the Holy Spirit that dwells within us is old/mature).
I never think knowledge is a bad thing and if you can learn from someone else's mistakes or wisdom then by all means.
1 Timothy 4:12
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.
