Author	Thread: Are Christian men romantic?
Admin	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 14 Apr, 2010 06:56 PM I'm wanting to ask the guys (or girls) if Christian men are romantic. In a class on relationships for the divorced and single women in the church, the pastor said that we shouldn't expect roses and romance- that romance is the worldly way. What is your take on this? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 04:08 PM Rabbit, what do you mean when you say "most people make the mistake of going strictly off of attraction,"? Physical attraction? Sure that's a part of it, but here's so much more to overall attraction. Surely there are strong Christian women you know who you "click with" better than others. It isn't really a good or a bad thing. God just made people different. Once all the objective requirements have been met, a lot of it comes down to personal chemistry. Everything about a person makes them attractive or unattractive. After all, if a woman isn't excited to spend time with me when we're dating, what's the point? As far as personality traits in men that are very likely to be attractive to a woman, lots of confidence (not arrogance or cockyness) and humor are usually the two big ones. Not being boring and predictable is usually a pretty good one as well. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 07:49 PM I guess what I'm saying is that attraction in part is inate, there are just some things that we as ppl are magnatized more than others. I think another part is our perspective, there are some funny ideas of what ppl look for, for various reasons. I remember looking at a profile that a woman had to have someone who is musically talented, I couldn't help but think that music talent wont keep a marriage together. Than there is Christ. There is nothing more attractive than one who has a high degree of Christ likness, who has been and being transformed into the likeness of Christ. I remember one of the sweetest things a woman said to me as far as what attracts her to me was who I am in Christ. I think we as Christians die to alot of things and one of thwm I believe is what attracts us to another, because that attraction may not line up with God's word. Emotion follows thought, and a persons thoughts should inevitably follow God's word where the transformation happens. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 10:08 PM Song of Solomon 2:14 "My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely." That sounds like Romance to me. There's more! If the one you Love does not stir you to "Wax Poetic" or to at least "Feel" The Romance and to do The Romance...then, well -- you're Brain Dead. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 16 Apr, 2010 09:20 AM Rabbit, I'm really not sure what you're saying. While I think girls with 45 point lists describing their dream husband, or someone saying, "Well I would date her, but she only plays guitar. I want a wife who plays both guitar and mandolin," is wrong, do you really think that Song of Solomon-esque love is going to come from marrying a girl I don't particularly like being around just because we're both Christians? Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 16 Apr, 2010 11:43 AM What I am saying is that when the honymoon stage is over, when we fail our spouses, and our spouses fail us time and again, and we more than likeley will, it will take the sacraficial love of Christ in us to sustain us, for with out him we are empty clay vessles. We all desire unconditional love but none of us are capable of it alone. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 16 Apr, 2010 06:09 PM WVgal, Did you ever get an answer? Your Pastor made a "One Size Fits ALL" statement. I'm guessing that if you are over 20, you've already discovered that nothing fits everyone, and when someone makes a blanket statement...tada, you have threads like this one. Can Christian men be romantic? Yes. However, the males in my family aren't exactly batting a thousand. My mom and dad joke that my dad told her on their wedding day that he loved her and he doesn't see the need to say it again unless he's changed his mind. His original statement still holds. Glad their . My brother proposed to my sister-in-law, she said yes, and he said, "Okay, come look at the crop damage with me." Oops. But, I love my story. I don't care who rented a private restaurant room or decorated a dock, or spelled it out in the swimming pool with floating candles...my husband did the most romantic thing for ME. I had become very sick with mono. Getting mono when you're an adult can be very dangerous. My glands were so swollen and painful that I ...(fast forward) I went home and stayed with my parents for a month. The day I returned was Valentines Day. I was still weak, was wearing my pjs, and hadn't even looked in a mirror. He walks into my house with a dozen roses and a ring. I looked a total mess, but he's kneeling there saying he never wants to be separated again. (speechless) Still, One size doesn't fit all. I've heard women say that they would be mortified for their boyfriend to see them like that and would throw them out before they had time to propose, or ask why he couldn't wait for a nice restaurant and music. Each to their own. My beau hit the spot with me! That's the important part. When you love some one, you want to please them. Find out what your boyfriend/spouse thinks is romantic and please him. Good luck, Rose Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 16 Apr, 2010 07:12 PM Rabbit: That's why you date and marry Christians. You can't date every single Christian woman you meet though. That's where overall attraction comes into play. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 17 Apr, 2010 08:36 AM you want a romantic man then treat them with the respect and admiration that they need and require as men and watch what happens. Men need unconditional respect !!!!!! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 17 Apr, 2010 12:32 PM Very well said and true submitted heart. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 10:57 PM I am a Very romantic man, Sooo... Romance can come in many different ways & depends on what the woman needs. One woman may love flowers (The love language of "Gifts") but another would rather have help with the dishes ("Acts of Service"). According to the book "The 5 love languages" there can be 5 (or more) different forums to show love and romance. "For Men Only" also has much to say about this. Was this Pastor saying: "That romance isnt always about flowers..." but can be shown in other ways? We are to "Dwell with our wives according to knowlege". Ministering to her emotional needs is one way of doing this. Post Reply

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